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Author Topic: Wife just got back...  (Read 9690 times)
Stevo
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« on: January 15, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
tonight from Moscow on Delta, landing at JFK.  This was the first time she re-entered the country using her 'green' card.  The other three times she travelled to Moscow was using advance parole.  This time was much simpler/quicker.  As a holder of a green card, she was able to use the same line as US citizens.  THe INS barely looked at her card and just waived her on...what a country!

Every time my wife returns from Russia she thinks things are getting worse and worse.  Of course it is probably just time and distance that makes it seem so.  She commented on how everyone is drunk all the time...at least it seemed that way to her.  When she first came here, she didn't really see drinking to be such a big problem in Russia (it was normal), now after 2 years here and 4 trips back, she sees things quite differently.  And every time she goes, it gets harder and harder for her to fit in, since all her friends and family think that almost any occasion is a reason to tie one on...especially a visitor from America!

She also commented this time about how all Russians look extremely thin and wasted (of course, that's after 2 years of seeing quite the opposite here in America).  I guess her frame of reference has also changed with time.

On the return flight she met a guy from Mississippi who was returning from St. Petersburg (had been there for about 4 weeks, I think).  He was inquiring about the process to get a K1 visa for his fiancee. Apparently he had attempted to get a visitor visa for her but was denied (as is typical), so now he is planning on going the traditional route.  He is 31 and his fiancee is 24....a good age spread, don't you think?  I'll have him check out this list if he contacts me.  I'm sure he'll get any questions he has answered here.

While visiting, my wife went to a night club in a small town close to her hometown.  She went there with a close girlfriend, the girlfriend's boyfriend, and the brother of the boyfriend with his girlfriend.  This was the typical all-purpose Russian nightclub...3 clubs rolled into one (dance club, billiards parlor, exotic dancers).  I guess that it's a lot more affordable to have all your entertainment pleasure in one location.  This is one reason why Russian girls aren't too upset about visiting strip clubs here in the USA, since it is part and parcel of many regular nightclubs in Russia.

First thing she said to me on getting off the plane was that she wasn't planning on going back to Russia for at least a couple of years.  She's just tired of the whole thing...lousy food, lousy attitudes, too much drinking, no cars for transportation, etc., etc.  I told her she'll probably change her mind after being here for a few months, but she said she wouldn't (we'll see).  Next time she wants her friends/family to visit us instead (I'm all for that).

We'll that's all for the moment.

Stevo
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BrianN
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« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Wife just got back..., posted by Stevo on Jan 15, 2002
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MarkInTx
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« Reply #2 on: January 15, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Wife just got back..., posted by Stevo on Jan 15, 2002


First off, thanks for the post. Nice to hear yet another RW who has slowly warmed up to the "bankrupt" american culture... Give me hope!

About having her friends and family come here... Can you do that? Isn't it virtually impossible for all of them to get Visas?
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RW
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« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to How will you arrange that?, posted by MarkInTx on Jan 15, 2002

Friend of mine is still trying to bring her Mom for just a visit. It's been very difficult as she is the only daughter and her Mom is single. That is almost impossible. As for friends, it happens, but it is a very high risk and I am sure there are many more other factors considered - family members, kids, real estate, good job left behind. It always helps to have supporting organizations and individuals, but everything has to be well thought and prepared BEFORE first interview and have as much supporting documents as possible. Otherwise, rejected once will most likely end in rejecting twice. Then it will raise questions when she applies for K-1 visa. You don't want to gamble with that.


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WmGo
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« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: How will you arrange that?, posted by RW on Jan 16, 2002

RW,

Please comment on the use of the following words and phrases that sometimes appear in a FSUW's bio:

Wants the man to be "generous"

Wants the man to be "financially secure"

Wants the man to be "well to do"

Thanks.

WmGO
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RW
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« Reply #5 on: January 17, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Achtung  RW!, posted by WmGo on Jan 16, 2002

Somebody who has $$$?

Somebody who is doing well in life and as a result is financially secure and is generous to spend money on other things in life?

To be honest, I am not even sure. Though I can not think of any other meanings of these words. You have to be careful because all these bios usually look the same and girls might copy one description from another. Or it can be done by the same interpretor who does not care about the deep-deep meaning. I think that will be a good idea to ask girl what she meant herself.


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tim360z
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« Reply #6 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to How will you arrange that?, posted by MarkInTx on Jan 15, 2002

My only experience is indirect.  I have met many Russian families who have come here and live here.  And I mean the whole extended family,  mom and dad,  the kids,  grandma and grandpa, cousins,  aunts and uncle...the whole deal.  I was told it takes time,  but is very possible.  I recall one scenario went like this:  The husband in Moscow had a job offer from a large corp in NYC,  they got him a special work visa,  next he came here and got his wife and kids here...all legally.  Next came grandma and grandpa.  And then slowly came everyone else.  After a couple years though,  the grandparents moved back to Moscow.  Like any other immigrants,  I beleive that once the breadwinner is here it is very easy to bring over blood relations.
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tim360z
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« Reply #7 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: How will you arrange that?, posted by tim360z on Jan 16, 2002

I had meant was it seemed fairly easy,  although took some time for Dad to be able to bring over the rest of the family on immigration visa's.  He came here about 8 years ago and within a few years had the whole extended family here.  Oh!  And like others who have been here a few years---they have no intention of going back,  except to visit.
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KenC
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« Reply #8 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: How will you arrange that?, posted by tim360z on Jan 16, 2002

Tim,
As Stevo says below, there are differences between visitor visas and immigration visas.  It is my understanding that my In Laws would be able to obtain immigration visas once my wife becomes a US citizen, but not before.  As for visitors visas, it is a much easier process as stated elsewhere in this thread.
KenC
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Stevo
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« Reply #9 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: How will you arrange that?, posted by tim360z on Jan 16, 2002

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KenC
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« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to How will you arrange that?, posted by MarkInTx on Jan 15, 2002

Mark,
Lena's mom easily got a visitor's visa this summer.  I know her dad could get one too.  It is the young single women without ties to the homeland that have a difficult time.
KenC
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Mike
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« Reply #11 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to ease back on the caffeine!!!, posted by KenC on Jan 15, 2002

From what I've heard many times it's hard for mother-in-laws to get a visitors visa. They are more often turned down then granted one. The perfect situation is a MIL with a good paying job, owns property, has other children there, and is married.
Mike
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KenC
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« Reply #12 on: January 16, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to I hope you're right!, posted by Mike on Jan 16, 2002

Mike,
My Mother in Law fit your profile exactly except for having other children back in Russia.  She also had traveled outside of Russia before and returned.  I have heard that the more visa stamps already in a passport, the better your chances.  She had no problem getting a visitor visa.
KenC
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MarkInTx
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« Reply #13 on: January 15, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to ease back on the caffeine!!!, posted by KenC on Jan 15, 2002

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MarkInTx
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« Reply #14 on: January 15, 2002, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Wife just got back..., posted by Stevo on Jan 15, 2002


First off, thanks for the post. Nice to hear yet another RW who has slowly warmed up to the "bankrupt" american culture... Give me hope!

About having her friends and family come here... Can you do that? Isn't it virtually impossible for all of them to get Visas?
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