Sex: To report or not to report - vote on it

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Sex: To report or not to report - vote o..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 8, 2001

be logical and be honest about our reasoning.  Below under my "final preparations," post,  I clearly stated my rules, repeated here:  

"I have chosen to report many details here, but this route necessitates that I not give any information that could be used to identify the particular ladies. This means that I will not tell the exact ages, heights and weights, I will not tell the specific jobs they have, I will not show pictures, and I will not use their actual first names. In some places, I use XXX to eliminate these details."

Now, for those of you who are on your 'high horse' worrying about how I am not 'protecting the dignity of the lady' and other such terms;  would someone please advise me how lady number one is ever going to be offended by anything???

Also, I clearly stated earlier, that those who did not wish to read the materials, should not read the materials.  So given that no lady is ever going to be offended and you are never going to read it, can you all please state the real reasons you are opposed?

Rex

[Oatmeal]

... in response to OK I can see that some people would say ..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 9, 2001

I would not say that I am opposed but I just feel that unless there is a specific point about such graphic details that it is not necessary to go into such detail.  (Try to remain a gentleman throughout)  I feel that we should try to keep this board somewhat dignified.  

But,  if you feel that there is some specific reason for posting those details then go ahead.  In my personal experience, the actual sexual experiences I have had in the FSU really don't differ that much from any here in the USA (from a physical point of view)  The biggest difference is in the hearts and attitudes of women from the FSU.  Their perceptions, hearts, and attitudes are IMHO much superior to women here in the USA.

Not to mention their outer beauty.

[Dalton Brooks]

... in response to OK I can see that some people would say ..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 9, 2001

.ll

[Go2Rus]

... in response to It is not a matter of us stating why we ..., posted by Dalton Brooks on Nov 9, 2001

nobody knows who I am talking about.  How can a spy, for instance, be exposed if he is never known to anybody?

But, more to the point, I was hoping to open a very helpful dialog amonst us fellows to compare notes to determine if others were running into the same problems (or not problems) as other guys concerning sexual issues with these ladies.  I firmly believe we all (men and women) need to bring these issues out into the open and discuss them.  I do not find it the least bit 'lurid' as some do.

I certainly don't think we should attend, for instance, a Little League game and start discussing these issues with random people sitting next to us.  But this is not a Little League group, at least I thought not.

Rex

[Bob S.]

... in response to Please check your dictionary.   I am not..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 9, 2001

Are you saying you are not using her real name?  That there is no way anyone here can use any of the details you give to track her down to know who she is and where to find her?

If she is not an exhibitionist, you are honor-bound to protect her privacy.  But if you are taking pains to do just that (not revealing her true name, not revealing the actual agency or dating website you used to contact her, etc.), then that changes things.

[Zink]

... in response to Sex: To report or not to report - vote o..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 8, 2001

He was the last guy I read that posted like this. And my vote is keep it tasteful. There are other websites if you want to write about "drug induced mokey sex"(interesting term).

And one question. How did you handle writing to 100 women at approximately the same time? I get bogged down writing only 2 or 3 a day.

[Scaught]

... in response to Re: Sex: To report or not to report - vo..., posted by Zink on Nov 9, 2001

n/t

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Re: Sex: To report or not to report - vo..., posted by Zink on Nov 9, 2001

my various reports below.  I thought I clearly stated that I had responses from 100 ladies, but then it got narrowed down quickly to 50 and narrowed further to 30.

OK,so 30 is still a large number, and you are right; it is a real ball buster.

Here is how I managed it.  First, I told the ladies I would only write once a week.

Second, I know how to use a word processor.  It is not that hard to write a nice generalized letter that covers weather, what you are doing on daily basis, what your hobbies are etc.,  Then you read each of their letters and carefully answer their questions at the beginning of this general letter.  If you do it carefully, as I did, not a single lady will ever know she got an 80% general letter.

And why are you repeating the 'drug induced monkey sex' idea.  When have I not been anything but gracious to you in your pursuit?

Rex

[Zink]

... in response to Zink, who is the 'He' you refer to in yo..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 9, 2001

I don't have much time today. Screwed up my headline this morning. Yes, you have been gracious. Just tickled my warped sense of humour about the monkey sex comment somebody else made. Write what you want. But don't be surprised if some people get offended.

Thanks for the answer about the letters. I always write personalized letters but after awhile I do tend to repeat the same things over and over a dozen times. And most of the correspondences I've had lasted an average of 2-3 letters.

Got to run again.

[JohnG]

... in response to Sex: To report or not to report - vote o..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 8, 2001

I don't understand why everyone gets crazy here when you talk about sex. I say post what you want. We can choose to read it or not. Your reports have been great, and you have insight to offer. If you choose to post elsewhere instead, let us know.

My recommendation would be to post it here, and begin the post with a note alerting the reader that explicit information is to follow, so don't read it if you are offended by frank talk.

The Russians are certainly much less hung up about such matters.

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Re: Sex: such controversy, posted by JohnG on Nov 9, 2001

not to read if they would be offended by the S word.  But I will try to remember to put that at the head of each report in the future.

But have you noticed how viciously I have been attacked so far, when I haven't even reported on any sex yet?  Wierd how this is such a hot button with people.  Must be that Victorian suppression still at work.

Rex

[JohnG]

... in response to Thanks John, Actually I did warn in a pr..., posted by Go2Rus on Nov 9, 2001

I agree with you Rex. It's strange to me to find such attacks occuring among adults. It's so strange, I really wonder whether such opposers REALLY feel that way, Whatever.

[Quasimoto]

... in response to Re: Sex: such controversy, posted by JohnG on Nov 9, 2001

Yeah, they are less hung up about it, but they also are more insulted when you talk about THEM!

Steve

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Re: Re: Sex: such controversy, posted by Quasimoto on Nov 9, 2001

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[KenC]

... in response to Re: Sex: such controversy, posted by JohnG on Nov 9, 2001

Rex,
I agree with John.  Although I think it is not our decision to make, but YOUR'S.  If you can take the heat from the Puritanical posters here, go for it.  

Two ironies come to mind.  The first is that the guys that have not "experienced" RW should be full of questions regarding sex and sexual attitudes, morals and yes, even techniques of RW.  The irony part comes in when you take into consideration that this IS a message board aimed at information in pursuing RW for dating and marriage.  Now if sex isn't included under that subject, then I must be very messed up.  The second irony is that women (including Rusisan women) are usually much more graphic and detailed in their conversations regarding sexual encounters.  Just imagine what Zoya's friends must have heard.  LOL

With the warning that John suggested, I see nothing wrong with your posts as long as you don't start sending out email contact information.  Just keep in mind that there are a lot of guys that read these posts that NEVER post themselves and that you will forever be branded as a pervert by some others that do post here.
KenC