mdante99

[mdante99]

... in response to Our Story, posted by JOnF on Oct 31, 2001

You are doing good. I am sure you will continue to do very well.

You also have a good handle on the problems.
First year is the most difficult, so the worst part is over.

Mark

[ron]

... in response to Our Story, posted by JOnF on Oct 31, 2001

thanks for the info jonf. seems you will have much experience and advice to offer others regarding russian women once she get's to america. however i am amazed at how a man can write one woman, meet one woman and marry this one woman with-out ever having meet a second russian woman.
i hear what you say about her being wonderful and all but how could you possiably know she was the right one, the best woman, if you never had a second, or third russian woman to compare her to?

[SteveM]

... in response to Re: Our Story, posted by ron on Nov 1, 2001

Hey now,

I, too, have the most wonderful Russian wife, and I wasn't looking for either a Russian woman or a wife of any sort when I met her.  Never met any other women until I was staying with my fiancee on my first trip over last April; didn't have a thought about it after she met me at the airport.

While I am not making any recommendations for anyone else, I am thrilled things turned out the way they did for me and for several others who had the same "only one" approach.

Remember that some women won't have anything to do with you if they think/know they are part of a pool of applicants being reviewed.  Mine certainly would have stopped talking to me if there was anyone else in the picture.

Also, it may be riskier, as far as getting married in the first place, to meet only one woman, but I do notice that a lot of the marriages that have turned out to be successful and happy have been the ones who met only one woman

Everyone has a different story, that is what makes life so interesting.

Steve M.

[Jack]

... in response to Everyone has a Different Story, posted by SteveM on Nov 1, 2001

Enjoyed reading your reply Steve. Your positive experience has to be encouraging to others.

It is good to hear of your personal findings of many successful marriages of men who only met one lady. My personal knowledge unfortuantly is that of only a few successful marriages, less than 7, where the the couple only met each other whereas I know of a LOT of unsuccessful marriages in which the couple only met each other (many such guys on the Shame board).

Of the men I have talked to, and have personal knowledge of, who met several ladies over a period of time, experience a much higher percentage of successful marriages.

[CinTexas]

... in response to Re: Our Story, posted by ron on Nov 1, 2001

else the quest can never end.

[R Danneskjold]

... in response to The search is for a good woman, not the ..., posted by CinTexas on Nov 1, 2001

Absolutely correct CinTexas.

In all things in life, there never was, and will never be a level above being satisfied with what you have.

But so many seems to forget this in their struggle for the golden pot at the end of the rainbow.

Jan

[ron]

... in response to The search is for a good woman, not the ..., posted by CinTexas on Nov 1, 2001

i think i will continue to search for the best woman for me. the best woman for me will ofcourse be a good woman

i read of other guys who took there time (dan,kenc,jack,de, rags,oatmeal,etc) and met many ladies and found a good woman who was the best woman for him. the quest ended for each of these guys. i like this approach better than marrying the first and only russian i ever met.

some guys will buy the first house they see or the first car they drive or marry the first russian woman they meet. these guys had to have felt it was a good house, a good car or a good wife or else they would not have committed. i just am not that type of guy to not compare. i will look at a few house's before buying, test drive a few cars before i buy and meet a few russian women before i marry one. i could not know this was the best car without comparing, i could not know this was the best house on the market without comparing, i could not know this is the best russian woman for me without comparing

[KenC]

... in response to Re: The search is for a good woman, not ..., posted by ron on Nov 1, 2001

ron,
Thank you for your kind words.  However, I REALLY went to meet just one woman.  The others that I did meet were just to make sure I was not overwhelmed by the "Russian experience".  LOL  My plan "B" was more like plan "x" or "y" or "z" because I was not serious about anyone other than my wife.  For me it was something to do in Russia if Lena and I met and it went horrible between us.  Needless to say, it went waaay better than that (over two years and counting).  You shouldn't "meet just one" but rather "meet the ONLY one" that is right for you.  How you can accomplish that varies.  Best of luck to you.
KenC

[CinTexas]

... in response to Re: The search is for a good woman, not ..., posted by ron on Nov 1, 2001

n/t

[KenC]

... in response to If you'd just looked at one more house y..., posted by CinTexas on Nov 1, 2001

n/t

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Re: The search is for a good woman, not ..., posted by ron on Nov 1, 2001

remember that in the process of comparing, sometimes the item is taken off the market via a prior sale.  Sometimes, if a person has looked enough previously in related markets, they just know a good deal when they see it, if even for the first time.

[Go2Rus]

... in response to Our Story, posted by JOnF on Oct 31, 2001

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[Stan B]

... in response to A Question... Disappearing In The Sunset, posted by mdante99 on Oct 31, 2001

Other than advertising your web site and your repeated words of caution, what have you written about your relationship with your wife? I don't remember you sharing any expirences or giving any advice on what you/we can do to make the transition to life here easier or better (other than she got a job right away). If I'm wrong, please fill me in on what I've missed...trick or treat

[mdante99]

... in response to my ?, posted by Stan B on Oct 31, 2001

I have been married for a while now.
If you go back into archives during April through July, I gave frequent progress reports.
From what little I know about your case; I can only suggest that you should get to know and become friendly with other people from EE in your area. RW are very social; and they like to be with other RW. Your RW is very Ukrainian, she may not understand much about America; some RW are very opinionated about USA; just let it pass; don't argue.

I think work is very important; it gives them an opportunity to get out and talk to other Americans. If she does not know how to drive, and their is no public transportation, that should be the first order of business.

Above all know it that it is a tough road ahead; many many times more difficult than marriage to an AW; I was married to an AW before, so I know.

Mark

[CinTexas]

... in response to A Question... Disappearing In The Sunset, posted by mdante99 on Oct 31, 2001

once I return from Warsaw.  I had planned on posting a final "Thanks" for all the help everyone has been but I don't see any value to hanging around after Lena and Sasha get here.