Do Not Send Money!!!

[KenMan]

If you guys continue to be suckered into sending money to a girl you meet on an internet singles site SHAME ON YOU!!! If you wrote to a girl from Michigan or Utah and she said she needed money for this or that what would your reaction be? Would you send it? Well sending money to someone you have never seen in person but wrote a few letters to is stupid and desperate! If you really want to find a sincere and honest woman be patient. Start a writing correspondence followed by a visit to see her. The advice by Bubba Gump should be heeded! My advice write and visit. See the girl, see the family. And remember NEVER TRADE LOVE FOR AFFECTION!

[thesearch]

... in response to Do Not Send Money!!!, posted by KenMan on Oct 13, 2001

gj

[BrianN]

... in response to Do Not Send Money!!!, posted by KenMan on Oct 13, 2001

So far, since getting off of the online system I was using before, I've sent my RL 50 bucks for her to work out her own translation/internet access scheme with the agency, and in the last month, I've saved more than 400 BUCKS.

Yesterday, her acct balance ran out, but there is no comparison to the level of service increase, that I've experienced since I decided to tell her that I needed her to manage this, not ME, at 8 bucks an email.

In the coming months, I know for sure, that I'll save a BUT-LOAD of money, by letting her take care of the problems of translation expense.  I've been on mail.ru for the last few weeks also, and it seems to work fine, and... is in the same company of addresses.  

However, she does pay per translation fees, and at least for once, I know exactly who is getting paid for what.  She never asked for it, I actually requested (ahem demanded) it after dealing with her translator in the Novosibirsk office.  Her translator has been a lifesaver... especially during those times when I thought I had said things that were inappropriate.  I had to go to quite an effort to explain to the translator what an oxymorn was, because I was stupid enough to actually use one in communication which almost toasted the relationship that I had.  

Email communication has been quite good.  

I will say this much, RW are great shoppers and deal makers, and will respect whatever you do to make things easier and economical, if the sincerity works on both sides of the fence.

The 'don't trade love for affection' that Ken mentions is a common mistake many of us that have had crappy relationships since day one will make. AW or RW, THIS MAKES NO DIFFERENCE!  

How many times have I DONE THAT, before I decided to work things out 3-4 years ago?  Pay attention to subtle issues... sometimes they can be the most important ones.

Good luck, for what it's worth...

[yoe]

... in response to Re: Thanks Joe and Bubba..., posted by BrianN on Oct 13, 2001

My 'now' wife never ask for money personally---ever. I was sent a bill every month from the service, with itemized billing. The charges were high because I emailed every day. You should have seen my phone bills........good luck
joe

[BrianN]

... in response to one last thing......., posted by yoe on Oct 13, 2001

I almost had to force it down her throat to take the reverse position of taking care of my expenses, instead of me taking care of hers.

Sht works, if you let it, with patience.

[yoe]

... in response to Do Not Send Money!!!, posted by KenMan on Oct 13, 2001

there are girls who do nopt have access to computers or may not be able to write in English-thus we have traslation and internet services. do you expect the girl to pay for that. If you said yes, well I will not comment.
Or you can look for the best woman in the FSU, a doctor or lawyer, nuclear physicist with a PHD or two and her own personal computer who not only speaks English but French Italian and Mongolian-----But you better be one bad mutha fucca yourself. So, would I say send money? I would say if she must use a serice and it cost you a hundred bucks a month and , AND, it makes you happy........then go for it.
I paid for all traslations and emails-2$ per letter I wrote and $1 per letter she wrote and $20 per month.......I was spending $225 a month. But it made me happy and I was willing to take the risk and accept the consequences.
So If it makes you happy do it......and do it without regret or blame. Everything in your life is of your making because of the choices you make. be happy and roll with it. Oh yea......Good luck and try to get a phone number very quickly or at least a way to talk personally. It will be more expensive but well worth it.
Joe

[BubbaGump]

... in response to The exception to the rule........, posted by yoe on Oct 13, 2001

But I assume if you are spending $225 a month you must have at least met the girl and spent some time with her, otherwise you're pissing your money away.  Spend within whatever the reasonable limits for you are but remember what they make to keep it in perspective.  

It's good advice to call them.  I think you should do that early on.  Calling with a translator is very expensive, $6 a minute and up.  So think about what you want to say first.

[yoe]

... in response to Re: The exception to the rule........, posted by BubbaGump on Oct 13, 2001

after a month of coorespindence, I decided to pay for her services. We had never met at that time. But, if you choose this path I would suggest having a plan to go and visit the country within 6 months.
Joe

[BubbaGump]

... in response to As a matter of fact no......, posted by yoe on Oct 13, 2001

I don't like guys that break the rules but get the girl anyway.  If I were sending a girl that much money I would want to meet her right away to see if I was wasting my money.  I know a couple of you guys have said that, but most have been saying they got scammed under similar  circumstances.  $225 won't break a guy that makes good money but I'm stuck on principle here.  I don't want a girl stringing me along for money.

[yoe]

... in response to Yikes, posted by BubbaGump on Oct 14, 2001

I would always go very soon. But, when I did this I did not have all this information. If I did, I may have been very paraniod (more so) and not gone at all. I wondered if she would show up. I wondered if I was being scammed. But I have been in relationship before and spent a lot more money on less. belive me-I wish I could only spend a couple hundred bucks a month now. I joke and tell her it was chaper when she was there.
I would not suggest to do what I did. But, if you are going to coorespond with a woman, you have a gut feeking about-do not expect her tp pay for services. You would not expect your dates her to pay for dinner would you? or would you?
Just consider this cyber-dinner.
Good luck
Joe
Do not be afraid-if money is any issue-stay at home this is not a cheap deal-
you can dump 20K just to get her here-but that is cheap compared to the life changes that the two of you will experience. This is not for the weak of heart or pocket-some have the misconception that these girls are just begging to come-trust me. Most are not-they just want a good family.