Some of you guys bring, or want to bring, a wife over here and not have her work. Power to you--it can probably save you from some problems, or it could possibly cause some--it's your situation and call. Some of you don't mind your wife working and a lot of women want to work to support the household, especially to send some money back home. I'm in the later bunch. But whether your wife works or not, there's going to possibly be problems either way...
My wife recently started working in a different sector of the huge medical equipment firm she's at, moving up the 'food chain' a bit, so to speak. Anyway, a higher level of workers in a N. American company certainly doesn't mean they're higher class or sensitive---quite to the contrary--they're callous, cut throat, fat boors. But now there's a different kind of negative vibe/pressure that's being put on her.
They asked what she did on Saturdays and she mentioned "Washing and ironing the clothes, keeping up the house, maybe doing something with my husband if HE wants" and the older, fat American office diva queens she works with lit into her, basically telling her she was crazy to do such things. I mean: "IRONING clothes?"
These same bimbos told her she shouldn't be calling clients with accounts and addressing them as: 'Sir and Ma'am' over the phone, a measure of respect common in her culture, one that she always has maintained.
I can only imagine how they'd react if she mentioned she gets up before me, usually picks out and puts my clothes out for me and then makes and brings breakfast to bed for us, then sleeping a bit because she goes in to work later than me.
They'd probably try and persuade her to have me arrested for having a beautiful, younger Asian wife, one that they 'see' as being used as a slave. These miserable wretches don't see that my happiness is hers and vice versa. It's OUR happiness. They simply don't 'get it'. We might as well be from the moon.
I bet they secretly wish she'd gain forty pounds too, drinking sweet tea, soda pop and eating junk food like they do, instead of herbal teas and light, healthy snacks. They probably wish she wasn't on time every damn day too---and hate that she never calls in sick----after all, they feel they've earned the right to be a bit late and for the same reason, when ever calling in sick, for it to be on Mondays and Fridays, around payday. Oh, the feeling of 'entitlement'!
We've discussed it. She's determined to keep skipping the long Friday lunches they invite her to join, explaining she only lives a mile from the office and prefers to eat at home most days--she has an hour--plenty of time. She'll continue to address clients on the phone, as well as the company president, HR head and significantly older folks at all levels with 'Sir' and Ma'am'. That's how she was raised and going on nine years here hasn't make her any less inclined to do so. She'll continue to be cordial to the wenches, but maintain a healthy reserve. In a way, even with other nasty people over the years at her other jobs, she ultimately killed them with kindness, to the point where if someone said something catty behind her back, too many other people would stand up for her, negating their bullsnip. I caught some flack probably, but I really don't care, as long as it doesn't hurt my wife.
She's obviously not going to be too open anymore about our marital roles with this crew of bimbos--now we're dealing with how to handle these same malcontents who want her to be their facebook 'friends'. That's just one reason why I never had any interest in setting up a farcebook account--once you do, one thing leads to another....
Oh--and I got her a nice radio for her office today, so she can tune them out a little easier! Oh--the President of the company, (who told her boss to put her there) the CEO and the HR head all LOVE her, so the hell with the wicked wenches at work!
