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[Eagleman]

Hello guys, I'm new here. I have been seeing a woman from Colombia and she refuses to have me as a friend on Facebook. She has even denied that she has a facebook account and later admited that she does. What do you guys think about this?
Thanks for your replies.

Eagleman

[Bill_McC]

For me, she lied, dump her and run.

Bill

[Gato4Astrid]

Hello guys, I'm new here. I have been seeing a woman from Colombia and she refuses to have me as a friend on Facebook. She has even denied that she has a facebook account and later admited that she does. What do you guys think about this?
Thanks for your replies.

Eagleman

Adios to her.... she is a liar.  Not worth your time!  Like Bill says, "run" but you need to run as fast as Usain Bolt

[utopiacowboy]

Why do you even have to think about this or ask for advice? Kick her to the curb hard.

[fathertime]

Hello guys, I'm new here. I have been seeing a woman from Colombia and she refuses to have me as a friend on Facebook. She has even denied that she has a facebook account and later admited that she does. What do you guys think about this?
Thanks for your replies.

Eagleman

Not enough information is given to give advice.  ‘Seeing a woman a while’ can mean a two weeks, a month, or a year.  I can understand why a person would want privacy on a Facebook page.  I don’t think it is obligatory that a woman (or a man) open up thier Facebook page to somebody they are ‘dating’. 

I’d just let the Facebook thing go for now.  If you are seeing many negative signals other than the Facebook issue, then you should consider all your options.   If you are seeing the woman and you are both having fun and she becomes your girlfriend, then you might be entitled to ‘Facebook Priveledges’.

Fathertime!

[Bill_McC]

This isn't about having a Facebook account and not accepting a friend request, its about telling a lie about having the account. If she lied about something as silly as a Facebook account, what will she lie about that really matters?

Personally I wouldn't be able to trust her again, especially with anything that might be important.

Bill

[piglett]

For me, she lied, dump her and run.

Bill

D  I  T  T  O 


piglett

[william3rd]

one lie rule should be followed!!!!

[robert angel]

One lie is just the tip of the iceberg. And in some instances, things they DON'T say or inform you of, should be counted as lies or worse.


"Ohhh--that was the best sex I've had since I learned I was HIV positive--I guess I should've told you, but it would've ruined it".....

[Eagleman]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

[thekfc]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

[william3rd]

I can see why she wouldnt want you there at night. . . . the regular boyfriend might be offended that you are taking up some space. . .

[utopiacowboy]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

Before you kick her to the curb, be sure to ask her for your balls back.

[robert angel]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

Well, before you say the final 'goodbye' after lunch, perhaps you might offer to help her unpack the pictures of the other guys she's surely hidden away for your 'visit'!!

This gal sounds like a real piece of work--count yourself lucky that you're hopefully learning some lessons early in the game. Some women operate with a whole lot more stealth and subtlety and you might not have known until you were seriously burned--wake up call! Good thing you're here--Don't let the wise cracks run you off--courage!

[Gato4Astrid]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

You pay the rent then she is the one that not welcome overnight there!

[Bob_S]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

Oh yeah, you got a real piece of work there.  For us, this is a no-brainer.  If you are new to the international dating and courtship scene, this lady is what we call a Scammer.  Are you just writing her to see if she'll send you naked pictures, or are you looking for a potential wife?  If the latter, would you consider her good wife material?  Like I said, no-brainer.

[z_k_g]

Of course there's a lot more going on here than just the Facebook issue. For one thing she's asking for me to pay rent for her apartment and also other bills.  Yet I"m only welcome to have lunch with her at her apartment. I'm not welcome to stay overnight.

Yeah, her bf/lover does not want sloppy seconds, guess the last Gringo ate too much garlic and he hated the taste!   

Zulu

[Dan Las Vegas]

Before you kick her to the curb, be sure to ask her for your balls back.

UC you always crack me up!!!!

[InnocentVixen]

Who cares about facebook if she is asking you for money! but yes, for future reference, a lady who lies is not good news, even if it was only that she was not comfortable enough to say no and that was her way around it... it's just a bad habit she has and it will make it hard to really get to know her, not to mention if she is not able to trust you after a while it's probably because there is no compatibility.

I am very picky with who I add to facebook, when someone that I don't know well asks me I tell them that I use it only for family and close friends and that if what he wants are pictures, I will be glad to send some, since I have practically none on facebook anyways. If it is someone I consider a friend and I trust, the subject will come up eventually and I will add him.

[Eagleman]

I ended the relationship but she is still calling me wanting to get back together  crying asking for money. She says she has no food and has no money to pay the rent water gas medicine and says she owes many people that she has borrowed  from. She works as an architect and makes about 1 million pesos a month. Anyone else had this happen to them?

[thekfc]

I ended the relationship but she is still calling me wanting to get back together  crying asking for money. She says she has no food and has no money to pay the rent water gas medicine and says she owes many people that she has borrowed  from. She works as an architect and makes about 1 million pesos a month. Anyone else had this happen to them?

Ask her how was she survive before you came into the picture & then tell her to go survive the same way.

[z_k_g]

I ended the relationship but she is still calling me wanting to get back together  crying asking for money. She says she has no food and has no money to pay the rent water gas medicine and says she owes many people that she has borrowed  from. She works as an architect and makes about 1 million pesos a month. Anyone else had this happen to them?

Eagle,

Ignore her, block her.

1 million Pesos is approx $22,200 per month, does this sound even nearly like the truth.  Maybe she means per year? That would be about right.

In any case, her requests for money are not your problem.

You are looking for a wife, not a dependent with problems.

Dump her, and don't look back!

Zulu

[whitey]

1 million Pesos is approx $22,200 per month, does this sound even nearly like the truth.  Maybe she means per year? That would be about right.

In any case, her requests for money are not your problem.

You are looking for a wife, not a dependent with problems.

Dump her, and don't look back!

Zulu

A million pesos in Colombia is about $US 500 per month.  Minimum wage is about $250, so sadly this is not an unusual wage for a professional, although it is a little on the low side.

But like Zulu says, this is her problem, not yours ... you need to break all contact with her ...

[Alabamaboy!]

Are you considering as a wife or as a prepago/sex toy? If she is just being used for fun, and you are traveling there a lot, then you got a good price.

If you are considering as a wife, I would take the advice of the other guys here, and start heading for the exit door. Fast.

Especially if she is an architect and still asking for money? Can you imagine the mess you will have on your hands if she comes to the States?

There are literally thousands of good girls in Colombia, just take your time and start sorting through the heap. It may take awhile.