infidelity in colombia

[P Daddy]

Thank God my girl has no desire to live here in the states...yes, she wants to come to visit, and maybe live here a few months out of the year, but I've never met a more family oriented girl.  Plus she's a 10, and she loves the [snip] out of me...

[blockbuster]

P daddy,

 It's cool if you have enough bucks to live in Colombia most of the time and just have your girl travel with you when you come to the U.S. but most guys don't have that luxury and have to get back to the real world and live here  and work in order to make ends meet.

    On the whole I do think it's better to live in Colombia if you have a Colombian wife. But I honestly could not live there full time( do not really think it's my cup of tea) and do not have enough money to finance half the year here and half the year there. That would mean 2 homes to maintain . maintaining 1 home in the U.S. is expensive,but then to still maintain another overseas plus plane tickets for us both to travel back and forth  and still having to pay car payments,car insurance and so on would drain me.

 You're lucky to be able to afford to live the lifestyle you want anywhere. lots of guys are travelling and affording all of this by using their credit cards. They will eventually have to pay the piper and then poor hot wifey will find out the rich gringo she married ain't all that rich  but literally borrowed money in order to appear so.and the streets in the U.S. are not paved with gold.Usually not a nice wake-up call.

  fatherime you stated"I think if yiour womans needs are met she will stay with you" the you stated "Seriously being self aware and awre of her wants /needs will go a long way.
  But I think I read she was your first latin wife. Am I mistaken that she is no longer around? If not why?

   I think the only way you can guarentee a woman stays with you, is not going through hoops to make sure her wants and needs are always met. But to marry a woman who even after living in the U.S. sees you as the best catch she can get and is  physically attracted to you. A guy can try all he wants to cater to a woman and keep her barefoot and pregnant. But if she is not attracted or unhappy with her choice for any other reason  no amount of jumping through hoops for her will keep her satisfied. To her the relationship will be like being fed foods just to satisfy her hunger. But not really getting to eat whatshe really wants. In other words there will be an emptiness there she will be missing. Women need men they are literally crazy about even if he can only provide the bare minimum.Sure,she may marry the guy who can provide,but if she would not be with you if you lost your cash she is not really in love in the first place.
 
 

[fathertime]

I generally agree with much that is posted but I still hold out a lot of hope that if you do the right things in a marriage and keep yourself in decent shape you will not be rewarded with a fleeing wife.  The old girl I choose will have to be into the beauty and the beast phenomena.  Knuckle-dragging neanderthals do make a woman feel safe and beautiful and that sometimes is all a woman wants.  
 

fatherime you stated"I think if yiour womans needs are met she will stay with you" the you stated "Seriously being self aware and awre of her wants /needs will go a long way.
But I think I read she was your first latin wife. Am I mistaken that she is no longer around? If not why?

She was an american latina.  I let her go.  I checked out for a variety of reasons.  Not good, hopefully I learned from it.  I think I did.  

Fathertime  

[P Daddy]

Blockbuster,
I hear you and agree...I've spent a small fortune traveling to Colombia and am spending another small one buying a finca there.  I fortunately found the woman of my dreams...is she uncomplicated?? no...Do I have her spoiled rotten??  yes...if I was on a limited budget I probably would have settled for someone 5 or 6 years ago, and I'm sure that things would have worked out just fine.  But everyone is a little different.  If my girl told me tomorrow "I want to live fulll time in the states" it wouldn't worry me much...I just know she would be bored here after awhile and want to go back to Colombia.  It takes alot of getting used to for the women, and some just can't adjust.  I guess the thing that gives me piece of mind is she doesn't want to marry me for a visa.

[Frank Rizzo]

great post PD...

sounds like you're on top of the situ....

and contento con todo.....muy bien...!!!

you have a good quality which is necessary for all men here.........and that is we always have to remember..."we are the men, they are the women",,

it does not function the other way....they expect it ....!!! and if we differ too much......it does not compute for them........they are latinas they  want to be dominated...!!!!

[Frank Rizzo]

great post PD...

sounds like you're on top of the situ....

and contento con todo.....muy bien...!!!

you have a good quality which is necessary for all men here.........and that is we always have to remember..."we are the men, they are the women",,

it does not function the other way....they expect it ....!!! and if we differ too much......it does not compute for them........they are latinas they  want to be dominated...!!!!