Dating Filipino girl before engagement

[seeit]

I am 40+ guy and want to date a Filipino girl before engagement. I want to go Cebu for One month trip and want to date multiple girls. How far I go if we have mutual interest..can it turn to sex before engagement. I want to make sure we both are satisfied on that. Because that is big part of a conjugal life. Please share your experience.

[Jhengsman]

You know you have the scent of a sex tourist? Anyway you are traveling halfway around the world., Traditional, or at least western dating patterns since the 1960s are out of the window. It is possible, after all the single parenthood rate is within a margin of error difference of the US rate. It is also possible that every woman you meet will have a chaperone with her at least for the first few meetings making the goal of sex with multiple women over a month "to test compatibility" impossible.


If she gets the ideal that you will be there a month yet are going to see different people then you are not a real thing and she is less likely to take a risk and spread her legs. If she is older and missed the local marriage age window or separated single mother needing a man to fund an annulment  should she every want to get right with the church, thus knocking out a local boyfriend with the legal husband elsewhere, and have a loving relationship she might take the chance to bond with an interested man.


The mutual interest is determined now online and on the phone. Someone wrote a book about travelling for a date, it ended bad for him. The ideal never made much sense to me personally but I am sure it has worked for some.

[robert angel]

Hard to add anything to the above,  excellent post. If you're going for a month, they will find out. If you're there playing the field, they will find out. Any girl worth a darn will know your flights in and out, will find a way to look at your passport and at contacts and texts on your phone,  unless you never take a shower,  in which case,  you won't land a really nice woman anyhow. Chances are they know somebody working where ever you're staying. I'd venture to say the easier the girl is to get in bed,  as well as the greater the number you go to bed with,  the smaller the chance of you winning a really fine wife,  one with morals and principals that won't leave you bummed and broke not too far down the line. That is,  if you're actually looking for that kind of Lady.....

[bcc_1_2]

I really don't judge this stuff because I know there are plenty of gringos with a frigid wife that desperately need their yearly trip to San Jose to get some nookie. But I'd say figure out what you are looking for in terms of a long-term partner or nookie. Because you will be looking in different places depending on the answer. The same is true for online information. If your goal is to get some action there are other sites that will better direct you on how to do that.

The suggestion was made that you could be a sex tourist. According to some on that subject anyone that travels to another country and happens to engage in sexual activity is a sex tourist. That is a very common definition and certainly what you'll hear in the usual feminist studies course. Granted it only applies to men that go overseas and not the women that travel and end up having sex. Yep, women have double standards too.

I suppose my point is that the term doesn't mean much to me based on the information above. I just try to be sympathetic to anyone that might have been in a sexless marriage and are desperate for some action. But I agree the OP needs to decide if he's looking for hook-ups or Miss Right.

[Gato4Astrid]

I am 40+ guy and want to date a Filipino girl before engagement. I want to go Cebu for One month trip and want to date multiple girls. How far I go if we have mutual interest..can it turn to sex before engagement. I want to make sure we both are satisfied on that. Because that is big part of a conjugal life. Please share your experience.

Why not try out with prostitutes?   Perhaps you could be lucky that one of them wanting to engage you, depending on how thick your wallet is!

[Ricardo1]

I would emphatically say that the OP is a troll.  His brief post is all about dating and sex.  Well, really not about dating.  He  is not asking the typical questions of a guy genuinely interested in knowing how to navigate relationships in a foreign country - such as where to meet women, dating customs etc. 
If the OP is real,  most likely he would fit the description of a sex tourist, and as such clueless....

[robert angel]

I would emphatically say that the OP is a troll.  His brief post is all about dating and sex.  Well, really not about dating.  He  is not asking the typical questions of a guy genuinely interested in knowing how to navigate relationships in a foreign country - such as where to meet women, dating customs etc. 
If the OP is real,  most likely he would fit the description of a sex tourist, and as such clueless....

Agree--thought about it later, should've picked up on it quicker. Good call.

[pchip]

Wouldn't say he's a troll that quick, just way too lazy to even read up a bit on the board to look at the waters (not even saying "testing the waters") before posting...


I for one would like to know if he's got any explanation on his first post...

[Tanuki]

Seeit - Is your plan to initially meet these women online and let them know you are coming?  Or, is your plan just to go there and see if you can pick up women as you walk around the mall?  If your plan is to first line up several women via the internet I am sure they are going to expect that you will be there to see them the entire time of your visit.  When  and if they come to realization you are there to meet several women, this might drastically reduce your chances of getting a little action with the marriage minded women.  However, some may have sex with you right off the bat in hopes it will help shape your decision toward them.  Now, if you are going there just to have a good time do your research - there is plenty of areas there you can go to scratch an itch without having to go through all the bullsh*t of putting up false pretenses to find women to roll around with. 

[Bob_S]

I'm not picking up the stench of troll screed yet, but I do get the feeling the OP might be fishing in the wrong pond.  In a conservative Asian country, a till-death-do-us-part marriage-minded girl will not be eager to let you sample her goodies till you've at least been dating a while or are even engaged maybe.  If Seeit is looking for a quicker jump to physical intimacy, he may want to try a different part of the world.

[Ray]

If Seeit is looking for a quicker jump to physical intimacy, he may want to try a different part of the world.

 
Agree, but maybe even a different part of the country. Though Cebu City has some of that to, Angeles City is the Philippine capitol for that kind of playground...   
 
 
 
Ray
 
 

[bcc_1_2]

He probably just found the forum with the info he was looking for.

[robert angel]

 
Agree, but maybe even a different part of the country. Though Cebu City has some of that to, Angeles City is the Philippine capitol for that kind of playground...   
 
 
 
Ray

Never been to Angeles City, but spent some time in Cebu City at 'nicer' hotels and talking about 'play grounds' and 'pay for play', some of the girls that hotel doormen and taxi drivers tried to 'introduce' me to and even some girls who just approached me when I was 'unattended' blew my mind.

There's some of that in probably every fairly sizable town in the Philippines, and I've spent a fair amount of time in Makati City, where some think the prettiest 'working' women are, but CC, from my estimation, has a higher percentage of pretty women than anywhere in the Philippines I've visited, and too many of them put it out there for pay. I don't blush and I've never paid for play, but some of those winsome, sexy CC girls talked and smiled so sweetly that they really made me question my resolve!