Many Thanks To You All

[JohnnyB]

Hello

To all my Teachers of Advice

Its been sometime since I have been here and used your Advice to Achieve my Lady.
I have used Cherry Blossoms and feel it worked very well compared to some others who may have had problems.

I went through many of msgs and narrowed down my Ladys.
I spent 3 soild month's talking to 3 Lady's. ..Who I may add
had a careing personality but you could tell was waiting for you
to be consistent in your time with them.

My Lady lives in Negros Oriental Amlan just North of Dumaguete.
She has worked in Govt Forestry for 4yrs, plenty of pictures that
verify her time there with dates.

Yes I stll have my beard and once I arrive in the Philippines and
met her and family they will decide on it being shaved off.

Our plan is September- December 2014 , I will have 4wks vacation and will spend 2 wks there. I will also apply for the fiancee visa while I'm there....We will have had over 2yrs of
communication together. ..yes short time physically but that
Is fine thus far.

Ok I'm ready hit them questions and direct me with thoughts.

John

[Ray]

...will spend 2 wks there. I will also apply for the fiancee visa while I'm there
 

  Hi John,
　
Don't worry about filing the fiancée petition while you're over there. It has to be filed here in the States anyway.
　
Make sure you gather all the needed documents and relationship evidence, return home, and give yourselves a little while to wind down from your trip and make sure that this is really what both of you want. Then file the petition here...
　
Also, don't forget the option of going back over for a traditional Filipino wedding in the PI, followed by a spouse immigrant visa petition. She and her family just may have strong reasons for preferring a wedding to the fiancée visa route.
　
Good luck,
　
Ray

[JohnnyB]

Thank You as always Ray!!!!

Forget to mention Divorce was final Jan 2013 almost got
It on our Anniversary but courts wouldn't do it on a holiday.

I do understand about winding down, If I did not have True intentions,I would not even fly over there....I still have over a year to go.

As of today I know things can change....she is 100% understanding of the fiancee visa.
I will meet family and friends. ..I will ask her parents blessing.

The plan is after I marry her here in US and she waits her time
For citizenship. ..We will go back and Re-Marry with her family
and friends.

[Ray]

Thank You as always Ray!!!!

Forget to mention Divorce was final Jan 2013 almost got
It on our Anniversary but courts wouldn't do it on a holiday.

I do understand about winding down, If I did not have True intentions,I would not even fly over there....I still have over a year to go.

As of today I know things can change....she is 100% understanding of the fiancee visa.
I will meet family and friends. ..I will ask her parents blessing.

The plan is after I marry her here in US and she waits her time
For citizenship. ..We will go back and Re-Marry with her family
and friends.

You do realize that it's going to be a 4-5 year wait for her to get her US citizenship (if that is what she chooses) after you marry in a civil wedding. A "real" wedding after that length of time is almost meaningless at that point I would think.
 
Practically speaking, it would be possible for her to return home for a wedding within maybe 90 days of marrying here, but that would cause even more logistical problems in the planing for the event.
 
 
Ray
 
 

[robert angel]

Hey John,
 
Good to see you back here. Glad you've been taking the time to sort things out. It's kind of overwhelming when you first get on a place like Cherry Blossoms and being new, you get all those 'incomings'. Takes a while to sort out the good from the bad, the players, etc.
 
So you're looking at about 16 months before heading over? Takes a special lady to wait that long. My wife did and I feel fortunate. That amount of time allows you to see how consistent she is--if she's there when she says she will be, if she's disappearing for days at a time and coming up with excuse after excuse --ones that don't quite pan out and so on. If you get married over there. you'll need to --and it's a good idea to have anyway, paper work proving you're divorced. If you're Catholic, you'll probably need to have your first marriage anulled by the church if you want a church wedding. Plenty of time to sort the details out.
 
It's especially nice that you're back, because in a way, we kind of teased you--not really in a bad way, but you might say we had 'our fun'. Being a big enough guy to roll your eyes (I guess)  and just roll with it, will help you a lot in the Philippines and being married to a Filipina. There are things about life over there, understanding their customs and ways--their culture, that take patience and not getting bent out of shape too easily.
 
BTW--are you on that A&E cable TV reality show "Duck Dynasty"?     It's now the most watched reality show on TV and my wife was absolutly amazed to see it on TV in the Philippines. All the guys on it have long beards. They sometimes run 4 or 5 hours of episodes of it in a night. When I feel my wife has  watched too much of the Oprah Winfrey, Hallmark or Oxygen channels, I sometimes switch to Duck Dynasty and before I know it, she's back in the kitchen cooking!
 
Anywho, let us know if you need help with details as things progress.

[JohnnyB]

Thank you Ray and Robert as always.

I'm the traditionalist, I want to have a marriage in front of her family and friends, I have thought of having the ceremony performed with the church and family and friends but not with the legal paperwork, I believe under our beliefs that the commitments made under God's eyes, have nothing to do with a piece of paper.

With that said it will still depend on Family Values and then when she's over in the US it will be done legally and the next visit home to the Philippines will probably be for them to see the grandchildren.....haahaaa

I forgot to mention she's 27 never married no children the youngest of a brother and sister who are already are married.

One of my other concerns is traveling from Manila to her town and back for the return flight in 2 weeks I'm not looking at any sightseeing it's only going to be spending time with her family and friends.

Duck Dynasty. ...hahaaa I'm more of a Son's of Anarchy with
a little Duck Dynasty mixed in.

The reason for the last 4 month's of 2014 is her work time slows down so she can have the time away.

Also possible cooler weather and celebration.

For all I know she my dislike the Desert conditions and this will all go South once she arrives. ..even though she has researched my area in New Mexico.

Ok more ideas, thoughts an concerns.

[robert angel]

John,
 
I think she'll actually enjoy heat w/o extreme humidity for a change. I live in the south east and while a lot of the foliage is a bit  different, the heat and humidity's almost as bad. That said, Filipinas are adaptable to almost any climate. They are social beings generally and having, meeting a few Filipinas (of the right sort) or a few relatives, friends--people--is always a plus. We keep our social circle small. Setting up a phone communication system w/ back home can mitigate isolation, but isolation's hard.
 
Seems a lot of Filipinos enjoy the west--south western USA.
 
I was just offered a job in Heart Butte, Montana and that place seems as isolated as the moon--my wife wouldn't go there for all the tea in China. And she doesn't even realize how brutal the winters are--it's almost up to the Canadian border--by Glacier National Park.
 
I caught onto Son's of Anarchy a bit late--great show, but w/ shows like that, it's best if you got in early. Really looking forward to this final season of Breaking Bad though--speaking of the south west! My wife likes Bates Motel--lol....

[JohnnyB]

A late happy fathers day.

my young lady has been absolutely consistent, she works 5 days a week, I've even called at her work and talked with her fellow workers. I have already had the pleasure of speaking to her brother and her father.

We are coming up on a year talking together and everything has been smooth as molassesI'm more concerned now with the visa process.

but as mentioned I have not made my trip to the Philippines not that I would leave it will change my mind, once we meet face to face.