How to leave your husband

[piglett]

Good to know AW's are getting good solid info on how to leave their man.
why not just do an article on "how to leave your spouse" ??


http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/CollegeAndFamily/SuddenlySingle/HowToLeaveYourHusband.aspx



piglett

[robert angel]

Yea, Piglett,

But if ya look below, they have a link for the guys that tells you 'How to leave your wife". So they're equal opportunity home wreckers at MSN!

In some states, you can even handle almost, if not all, of a divorce ON-LINE. Imagine--getting divorced and never needing to get dressed to do it!

We have bill boards in our city on which lawyers advertise "Divorce for $98.99--* (without children or property)".

The lowest cost before was $99.99, but we all know times are tough and they're trying to give us a break, I guess....

[jm21-2]

We have bill boards in our city on which lawyers advertise "Divorce for $98.99--* (without children or property)".

The lowest cost before was $99.99, but we all know times are tough and they're trying to give us a break, I guess....

I highly doubt that's a lawyer...these damn paralegal companies advertise those ridiculously low rates, bungle the paperwork, or the parties have no idea what their legal rights are....then a couple years down the road they're in a financial mess because of it and have to pay a real lawyer thousands to try to sort out the mess (which isn't always possible). I've seen plenty of people lose tens of thousands in the long run because they wanted to save a couple grand on a divorce.

[robert angel]

I was married once before my current marriage. On my divorce, I retained an attorney who had an excellent reputation--I had him checked out from near and far -- I thought. Turned out the fellow was way past his prime and his paralegals did 95% of the work.

This guy assumed I sent all my clothes to the dry cleaner, would forget my name--even the county I was from. In my county, the only way you can have your character disputed is if you were caught with a live boy or a dead woman, but in neighboring counties--even adultery can sway the outcome, so knowing where I am from makes a big difference. Not that my ex or I were philanderers or addicts/abusers, but the county your divorce takes place and the judge assigned, makes a big difference.

I should have got out, but I stayed and ended up paying $8,000 for an uncontested divorce that was settled in the first day of the state required mediation.

In all fairness, I don't think I could have had a much better outcome for my sons, or for myself materially, but I really felt that this silk stocking lawyer had some good paras and that the one day he was really good for me was that one day in mediation.

So--I've probably recouped that $8,000 twenty times over and I tell people to not scrimp on a cheap lawyer. In fact, I tell those unfortunates to get in as many free 'consults' as they can and to pay for 2 or 3 more. I feel that it's sad that lawyers advertise and now often charge for initial consults, but in my state, once I consulted with a lawyer, they couldn't represent my ex., so I cancelled out some of the top guns that way. Nonetheless, she got a good lawyer and overall, I think a fair settlement, especially regarding the house.

[bcc_1_2]

Two things to note... go foreign and get a prenup (just skip the AW to begin with!). Just an FWI for this downer thread... I'm officially a married dude now.... and I got off without a frilly/ religious (lavish, expensive, etc) ceremony... and the honeymoon isn't for a few months.

Everywhere we go she always asks how much and then figures out what that would be in Honduras. $20-$25 bucks for two at the local mexican joint makes her head spin. I've got it good.

You know what she calls divorced women (unless they were abused or treated harshly of course).... failures. 

[InnocentVixen]

You know what she calls divorced women (unless they were abused or treated harshly of course).... failures. 

Here in Mexico they are considered that as well, in fact I even know of places that regardless if they were abused or how they were treated they are still considered failures, this applies for a long serious relationship that did not end up in marriage sometimes too.

[robert angel]

In my state, as well as in most, prenups aren't worth the paper, they're written on. Judges have a lot of discretionary powers and use them...

[piglett]

Yea, Piglett,

But if ya look below, they have a link for the guys that tells you 'How to leave your wife". So they're equal opportunity home wreckers at MSN!

Did you read the 2nd link ? was it the same length as the 1st article ?? i think not .
So i guess the chick who wrote both articles is another plump angry AW who really doesn't even like men ....so sad


piglett

[jm21-2]

Sure we use paralegals. Would you want to pay our hourly rate for us to fill in dates of birth on a form?

I am not doing pre-nups as I rarely get them and the law is changing way too fast. They're a huge risk of malpractice for not much money.

[robert angel]

As for para legals, I fully expect them to be utilized and hopefully the  bill at the completion of the case truelly reflecting their use. I just had a lawyer who found ways to run up the bill on me and there wasn't a lot I could do to prove it without putting out further time, money and aggravation.

Back to the pre nup aggrement, I wasn't really all that into it, but I did talk to a couple attorneys who surprised me by taking considerable time to talk me out of it--saying they could do one and  make money off of it, but it probably wouldn't do me any good if things got ugly later.

I think it was  the late Hollywood magnate Darrel Zanuck who before  he embarked on one of his several marriages replied to the question "Are you going to have a pre nup greement written?" He replied "I'd rather not negotiate the end of my marriage before it's beginning"