So, how DO you choose the right one?

[Jeff S]

Here's an easy way to eliminate the green card sharks and scammers: only date women from wealthy families.

[Jedironin]

Good post, Zulu. 

Fortunately I've thought of many of those, but you've added some extras as well.

[piglett]

Pretty much all the pitfalls guys here repeatedly cite as typically being found in AW's can be easily found in foreign countrie's women, especially after they come here, especially if they're quite young and specially if they weren't raised well enough to retain their values.Life in the USA has a way of changing people who move here, especially those from third world countries.There's no substitute for time, time, time, in choosing the best person for you and by best, I certainly don't mean 'best looking'. I look at it more like two prescriptions that need to jibe, to work well together.The underlying fundamentals have to be strong or all the superficial things will soon wash away, exposing the underlying structural weakness of your marriage. "Be afraid, be VERY afraid"

W O W Robert this is the shortest post you have made in months, are you sure your feeling ok ? well it looks like Zulu is doing a fine job at picking up your slack, man what is that Zulu 5 pages............

pig

[z_k_g]

W O W Robert this is the shortest post you have made in months, are you sure your feeling ok ? well it looks like Zulu is doing a fine job at picking up your slack, man what is that Zulu 5 pages............

pig

Hey Pig,

When I see Robert is being a lazy slacker, I have to make sure things stay on track!!

Hey, by the way, where is your list of "healthy" porn tips?  :-)

Oink, Oink!!  

Zulu

[flipflop]

Gut Feeling.

[Veracity]

Zulu,

Thank you for your reply.

You started your post with something that others have written, "It takes two....." which is true. The reason why I'm going to pursue a foreign wife is that I fully intend to hold up my end of the relationship....and I expect her to do the same. For decades now, AW have been socialized to slowly but surely back out of their end of the deal once they're married.

While I certainly might find a traditional AW, I'm not going to waste my time looking for that needle in a haystack.

I am 46 years old.....and I know myself. Strengths and weaknesses.

My absolute requirement is that she is just as willing to be my wife as I am her husband. Not just a woman who wants to get married in order to get her bills paid, but a wife....a real partner.

And no matter what we might tell ourselves, we cannot tell by looking at them which women will stop being wives shortly after they get married. They don't wear signs that say, "I'm going to start ignoring you after five years" or "I'm going to dry up sexually after a little while" or "I plan on packing on 40+ lbs after the big day."

That's why I read so much here. That's why I ask so many questions. I know my odds are better overseas, but I still remember how easily I got tricked before.

That's all.

[z_k_g]

None of it is healthy IMHO, it's just varying degrees of unhealthy.
The unhealthy stuff is like cigarettes.  They have no redeeming health benefits whatsoever.  Using even a little has damaging effects.  It is purely a physical pleasure.  Whereas the milder erotica is more like alcohol or candy that has some benefits.  At their worst, they still have calories that your body will utilize as energy as long as you don't ingest vast quantities.  If it inspires you to go get frisky in a loving way with your missus, it has some healthy benefits (in moderate doses).  If you'd rather watch the porn than go get frisky with your missus, or if it makes you look at your wife in a disrespectful way (because it's that kind of porn), then it is unhealthy.
And there really is no fixed list.  Like alcohol, different guys react in different ways.  With booze or brews, some guys mellow out, and some guys turn into A-holes looking for a fight or insisting they can sing every song louder and better than what's on the jukebox.  Ya know?

Bob,

Hmmm, I think your answer is worded a bit PC (I'm still waiting on a nice raw response from Pig), but, you hit the nail on the head. 

Its a vice that's not necessarily "good" or even "healthy" but it adds spice or a kick or spark!

In and of itself, it has no real benefit, so you can't really call it "healthy", sorta like licking table salt or pepper, or sucking down a bottle of salad dressing!

Zulu

[Dave H]

Hey Dave H,

I will be in Butuan 1st week of April. Hope to see you and the family :-)

Tess

Hey Tess,

You will! We look forward to seeing you!

Dave

Dave

[Dave H]

What is "healthy" porn?

I'd like to see that list and compare!

Zulu

Hey Zulu,

Anything that I "star" in!  Sorry, but I am not allowed to share the details. 

Dave

[z_k_g]

Hey Tess,

You will! We look forward to seeing you!

Dave

Dave

Dave,  you so nice you had to say it twice!   

[Ray]

Tess,

If that was a recent photo of you guys, then I swear that Stephen looks like he is getting younger.

I guess that means that you are taking good care of him... 

Ray

[piglett]

Bob,

Hmmm, I think your answer is worded a bit PC (I'm still waiting on a nice raw response from Pig), but, you hit the nail on the head. 

raw......who me ?

p i g