Greetings from Alaska

[Nice guy]

Hi, I'm coming to you from Unalaska, AK.  It's mighty hard to find a single woman up here, so I thought I might as well start looking elsewhere, and why not in Asia?  I'm just ending a ten year relationship with an American woman and have had it with their attitudes.  I want something more!

[Jeff S]

Hi Nice guy and welcome. Looking forward to hearing more from you.

- Jeff

[Bear]

I've posted a lot to newbies on this topic.  Since I married a Filipina I'm clearly prejudice. 

1) The Philippines is the 3rd largest "ENGLISH" speaking country in the world, MOF, my wife is continuously correcting my grammar but then she has to ask me what words (and slang) mean?

2) The things that have been drummed in to you like age, looks, wealth, job position, hair, weight, etc. have totally different weighting in the ladies considerations when they are out looking for a man.  You can be a big fat balding ugly bloke who looks like someone lit your face on fire and put it out with an icepick and the Filipinas will call you "gwapo" (simply because you are white skinned).  Whats important to them is marriage/family and coming to America.  Those things do mean something but not enough to keep them from truly loving you and making a marriage work (IF you don't find a user).  Its not unusual to find a Filipina teenager trying to convince a 40-50 y.o. shes serious about him as a mate.  I suggest the half plus seven age (but my wife is 26 years younger than me and probably more mature than me)?!  The Filipinas problems don't come in their ability to deal with hardship, responsibility and life but in one-on-one relationships.  Where Kanos (that us) start dealing with relationships very early in life Filipinas won't even attend parties with both sexes present because of the potential to go wrong.  No PDAs (Public displays of affection) - be smart and don't disobey that simple rule because she will do as you say and it will cause problems, I know.

3) Their countries politics are very similar to America since we set it up.  People there really like Americans generally.  Still culture differences but they know how to use the system.

4)  Yea you can find sluts around the bars like you can in any country and probably a good percentage of those looking for mates on the web are users, but get out of the major metro areas and WOW!  A woman you'd really like to raise your kids and spend your life with.  Not a clue how to hold hands much less kiss or have ever considered sex.  I have one friend here in Houston who married a 36 y.o. Filipina that made Miss America look ugly and she was still a virgin?!  This means she doesn't come with kids like so many of the Euros (IF you don't find a user).  I have seen that the first thing many unmarried Filipinas do once getting pregnant is start trying to find an American - no Filipino will want them for anything other than sex.

5) If she ask for money she's most likely a user because even though 40% of the people there are in poverty they have a very strong sense of honor and will not ask or accept money from you for anything other than communicating with you.  My wife and others I am aware of resist even after marriage.  Since the average Filipinos income is $80-120/month getting 2-3 Kanos to send $20-50/month is a darn good living for them so don't do it -period!

My best advice is "find someone not looking for you".  This means introductions from friends (any Filipina you know will have dozens) or find a lady with career goals that don't include you (thats what I did).  ASK QUESTIONS that are trying to catch them lying.  I good Filipina will still be there when you do but a user will run.  The real key is communicate what you are looking for and finding out what she wants.  The good Filipinas "expect you" to secure this relationship, they know they'll be a good wife/mother but will you be a good husband.  They call it the simple life which I interpret  as you making all the decision and getting tampo is they are not happy about it but also tampo if you don't make the decisions.  A Filipina will lose respect for you very quickly if you aren't responsible for your family and but they clearly don't want the responsibility they place on you.  Seems to me like they are really taking a chance finding a controlling jerk but that seems to be their mindset.  Sometimes you can't even get an opinion from them because its your responsibility and not important to them but heaven help you if you don't tell them before you do it and it fails!  Don't be afraid so tell them what your expectations are in marriage because it can be a major point after marriage (i.e. a wife who stays home, etc.).



The Bear Family

[Ray]

Welcome aboard Nice!

Unalaska...isn't that where they filmed the TV show Deadliest Catch?

[xcited]

Nice guy,
    I'm new here too, but somewhere (not on this site, but another site about immigration of overseas brides) I recall reading that there are special rules about immigration to Alaska.  Please don't take my word for it, I just remember seeing something about it.  Good luck in your search!

[Ray]

...I recall reading that there are special rules about immigration to Alaska.

Never heard that one before. Immigration applies to the United States of America, of which Alaska is a member state.

The only difference I can think of is in the income requirements for the I-864 Affidavit of Support. For example, the minimum annual income for an Alaska resident is over $21K while the minimum for the lower 48 is a little over $17K.

[xcited]

Ray might be completely correct, as I said I hadn't paid too much attention to it because I don't live in Alaska.  From what I understand though, if you are living up there and making under $21,000 you would have a REAL rough time making it on your own, let alone looking for a wife.  Good luck!!