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« Last post by robert angel on December 13, 2022, 09:10:42 AM »
Awesome! Sounds like the perfect balance of deliberation, action and decisiveness.
I was so mentally beat up after my divorce, that I dragged my feet for far too long. "Once bit, twice shy." I had two young sons and only a couple weeks vacay a year, but I should've acted much faster.
It's also easy to waste time enjoying the online attention of so many intriguing women from the comfort of home after work etc, to the point where you never "get on the plane" and invariably the best ones get away.
Disclaimer: My own experience was very unusual and nobody should expect another person to literally wait years for the other to commit.
In such situations, absence of commitment, support-- of showing up IN PERSON--well boys, absence typically makes the heart go wander...
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« Last post by 2tallbill on December 12, 2022, 10:44:54 PM »
What are y'all looking at--or for, out there?
I'm 6'7" and the 5ft tall girls don't really fit well, for a man my size. My wife Angel Eyes (5' 7") was an electrical engineer who built nuclear power plants around the FSU. I always wanted the smart, educated girl with the heart of gold, so that's the type that I pursued. Once I found her, I visited her 4 times in a year and then she visited me twice. I knew she was what I always wanted so on her second trip to see me, I drove her to Las Vegas and married her, applied for an adjustment of status, because there was no way that I was going to take her to the airport again to watch her fly back to Russia. She occasionally flies back to visit Mamma, family and friends, but I know she has the return ticket in her hands before she leaves. Udachi!Bill
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« Last post by robert angel on December 12, 2022, 04:11:57 PM »
I'm glad your luck is holding. There are some wonderful women from Russia, Eastern Europe, etc. I almost ended up with a half Asian, half Russian lady from Almaty, Kazakhstan--she really had her act together, to the point where her having a child already was not an obstacle to me. I sometimes wonder--hope she found a great guy, but I had to throw away pictures.
There are scammers everywhere. Before internet cafes became passe' I could watch beautiful young ladies deal with as many as 4 'suitors' at one time, all these guys on screen at once and her keeping a Mona Lisa like smile, careful not to laugh or show too much emotion and off putting someone. Sometimes another person would handle keyboard/replies--keeping the suckers and girl 'engaged'--a coach.
Whether it was the the Mama Sitas and I think we called the Russian handlers 'Fat Yuris? -- most nations seemed to have some kind of umm 'enterprise' going. Sometimes a woman's desperation--poverty was sadly evident. I recall one woman who in a few moment's time, told me she would be my "slave"--not the gal I wanted to bring home to meet my young sons, then or now.
But it was always interesting, usually fun and getting on the plane was totally worth it. I made several overseas trips (with little vacay days or money to spare) and success took a while--my hopes where dashed more than once.
Ironically, I ended up with a woman who I met in the earliest days of my search. I had told myself "Too young, too beautiful, too well educated--great family--out of my league." Years went by, and we stayed in touch, meanwhile with other people in mind, only to see ea other's 'relationships' crash and burn. Commiserating, we finally said "Why not us?" after all. Had I known better and acted, we'd be looking at twenty years together.
But it all--the travel adventures, the laughter, the tears--has again been worth it.
What are y'all looking at--or for, out there?
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« Last post by 2tallbill on December 12, 2022, 02:44:11 PM »
Pakistan?  .. not again,,went through this once on PBH...
Usually, those that join from Pakistan are posting spam links on their next post. I come from the sister sight Russian Women Discussion. Russian wife, married 8 years, yada, yada Udachi! (means good luck in Russian). Bill
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« Last post by robert angel on December 11, 2022, 07:32:56 PM »
Does she have a job, a marketable skill? Do you have a lawyer yet? Do you have family around you to help you? For a year, I paid child support unnecessarily to my ex, who was making more $$ than me and importantly, kept the kids less than I did. Things sound pretty bleak for you and how it ends up depends on such variables. If for nothing else, this place ought to let you vent. Believe it or not, things can get better, but it helps if you believe. In chess, white moves 1st and as such, has an inherent advantage. With one son in diapers, the other entering kindergarten, I did not want a divorce for the longest time. But when I came to my senses, I came to realize it was inevitable and filed first. I have zero family around where we live, so that made it harder.
Hate to say it, but I'll be honest--it sounds like you're being taken for a ride --one that's not going to end well unless you are able to exert more control. Used. If it appears hopeless, run and regroup. I'm not trying to 'dig' at you. Your truest friend will stab you in the front, slapping you with harsh realities. They know it's painful, but they do it to hopefully save you from an even worse fate.
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« Last post by robert angel on December 11, 2022, 07:00:00 PM »
I was there in July for a few weeks and we had a great time. Incredible beaches. Never felt unsafe. City or deep in the provinces, people would want to share food, drink and learn about me. Curious. I was amazed at the incredible amount of infrastructure improvement. Roads going from 2 to 4 lanes almost all over, new airports, etc. Masks and other restrictions basically bygone. The populace is fatter than it was ten, never mind 20, years ago. Even relatively poor people were having western fast food home delivered during the pandemic years and continue to do so--we're killing them w/ our saturated fats.
The women have gotten smarter and more wary of foreigners. Traditional ways are harder to find. but WORTH it) Their psychological makeup has become more complex, but remains very different than western nation's. I've known my wife almost twenty years, married almost 17 and we're one of the only couples (if not 'the') still together from her USCIS 'batch mates' (Fiance' immigrants). Second time I've married a Filipina (14 years the 1st time, two sons) and God forbid, but I'd go back looking if I had to, but I've got it pretty damn good now. Prettiest gal where ever we go, she just doesn't know it. She always worked hard, working her way up with stellar work ethic. I never really asked her what she did with her salary, because she's always been a sport on helping out with bills.
But expect her family to (perhaps silently) come 1st. If not, that's a red flag. Look out for pouty, passive aggressive types. Look for more educated, working women. That said, employment is desperately hard to find there. Then when they do get a job, it's often 6 days a week. My wife was an engineer for Coca Cola and she worked there 6 days a week, w 12 hour shifts (7 days end of month--'inventory)' Yet she made time to see me online. She has 6 younger siblings she helped thru college.
There's a whole lot of gaming. people playing each other, women desperate to escape grinding, multi generational poverty. Takes a lot of digging dirt, b4 you'll likely find a diamond. But even if you just 'go' I think you'll have a magical vacation. Although there's little if any language barriers, the more you learn, the more you'll realize you don't know.
Take chances. No risk no gain. Use your big head 1st.
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« Last post by j33680 on December 11, 2022, 02:31:38 PM »
I have been married to a Colombian woman for almost 13 years. She tells me I am out of touch with Latin Culture because I get upset when she goes out until 4:00am with her single friends at least once a month. I am never invited, even when she invites her brother or I hear some other male friend was invited. She wants her own finances to be hers, and mine to be ours. Her family won't help so I don't think I can take this much longer. We have one child and I take care of her the most. Is this normal Colombian behavior for a married woman? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.
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« Last post by Mercury on November 30, 2022, 11:36:21 AM »
Just finally found my way back here after years away, now that the lockdown has been lifted what does it look like for travel, vacation, and prospects?
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« Last post by robert angel on October 04, 2022, 08:56:05 PM »
Was 59 to the dollar! Makes surviving harder for those in the Philippines who only have jobs that pay in pesos. If they're receiving overseas USD's to exchange---they're probably OK. We enjoyed several weeks there over the summer and 22 of us had a lot of fun going from place to place for not so much money. Our home there was packed when we stayed there. Next time we'll rent one place with lots of room and resort amenities on the nearby Island Garden of Samal--minutes away from home base.
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