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Title: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 22, 2016, 03:09:57 AM
Had a very nice week in Cartagena history city very nice and safe I couldn't get over the amount of people bothering you nonstop to buy sunglasses trips to Playa Blanca which by the way was no where's near Paradise it was nothing but hostels and people selling everything for messages to puppies   
Most people were very friendly and nice if they weren't trying to sell you something.    Overall a great experience but happy to be home
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: fathertime on June 23, 2016, 07:36:55 AM
hey Rschnb67...thanks for the thoughts...were you able to meet any ladies, and if so what did you think of them? 


Fathertime! 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 23, 2016, 05:29:07 PM
I met a woman that I've been talking to for seven months we met once already in Cancun and we're meeting again in Cancun in September hopefully by Christmas she will have her visa
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 25, 2016, 04:50:35 PM
I met a woman that I've been talking to for seven months we met once already in Cancun and we're meeting again in Cancun in September hopefully by Christmas she will have her visa




hhhmmmmm


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=krD4hdGvGHM
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Hector_Lavoe on June 26, 2016, 11:56:57 AM
I met a woman that I've been talking to for seven months we met once already in Cancun and we're meeting again in Cancun in September hopefully by Christmas she will have her visa

She is trying to get a "tourist visa" to visit you? 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 27, 2016, 03:01:14 AM
No
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Juan Valdez on June 27, 2016, 07:30:22 PM
Rsch:

Based on what I'm interpreting by your post, you met her only once in Cancun, and you guys are planning to reconvene in Cancun for your 2nd meeting.

However, I simply assumed by your post title that she was with you in Cartagena.  But after reading the thread about Cancun, now it looks to me like you were in Cartagena without her?

If you were in Cartagena without her... is your Spanish pretty good and/or did you find communication challenging while you were there?

I would also assume you are bringing her on a fiancee visa, since you said "no" to the tourist visa question?

I'm not sure if you are aware, but "Visa Journey" is a forum that has people in various stages of the visa process all over the world, for all types of visas, that you may find up-to-date (as in real time) and helpful.

Buena suerte part ti y tu novia :-)  (Good luck to you and your girlfriend/fiancee)
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 28, 2016, 03:04:36 AM
Yes we met in Cancun once we met in Cartagena once and we are meeting in Cancun again
She's incredible I originally went online and stumbled onto Jamie's site so I was just checking it out
I never expected in a million years to find someone so incredible
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on June 28, 2016, 08:15:04 AM
Yes we met in Cancun once we met in Cartagena once and we are meeting in Cancun again
She's incredible I originally went online and stumbled onto Jamie's site so I was just checking it out
I never expected in a million years to find someone so incredible


Great news!! Best of luck!
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: utopiacowboy on June 28, 2016, 09:48:07 AM
Yes we met in Cancun once we met in Cartagena once and we are meeting in Cancun again
She's incredible I originally went online and stumbled onto Jamie's site so I was just checking it out
I never expected in a million years to find someone so incredible


I can understand why you are being tight-lipped about this. Your approach runs counter to the PL party line but is one that has been used by most of the happily married men here. My advice is, when you find a keeper, keep her!
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on June 28, 2016, 06:31:28 PM

I can understand why you are being tight-lipped about this. Your approach runs counter to the PL party line but is one that has been used by most of the happily married men here. My advice is, when you find a keeper, keep her!
Was used by Jason A. His marriage lasted 14 months...
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 29, 2016, 02:37:46 AM
This is why I don't blast my information all over here I didn't even want to post anything people like mambo cowboy and their two cents without knowing what's even going on think they know everything. People asked for a trip report that's all I was doing
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on June 29, 2016, 07:06:56 AM
This is why I don't blast my information all over here I didn't even want to post anything people like mambo cowboy and their two cents without knowing what's even going on think they know everything. People asked for a trip report that's all I was doing
I must have missed the trip report lol. Taking your girl on vacation isn't the best way to prepare for foreign marriage. At any rate, good luck you'll need it.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 29, 2016, 03:57:48 PM
Hey man I was married to an American woman for 20 years it was miserable and now I found somebody sweet and I'm trying my best to get to know her little by little I don't need you bashing me. If you're such an expert what are you even doing on this site ? if you're happily married why don't you go enjoy your wife instead of commenting on every other post.   
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: SkyNorth on June 29, 2016, 04:14:22 PM
Rschnb67...sarcastic remarks and petty bickering is all you will get here.  So don't sweat anything anyone says from this site.


God Speed & Good Luck
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 29, 2016, 04:27:59 PM
I see that !! every time somebody puts a comment up the same five people jump all over them like they are some authority on women. I wasn't looking for advice I only put my trip report because somebody asked me to.  that guy I'm sure is a loser and thinks he's a big shot here on the Internet good for him he's the king of foreign brides
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on June 29, 2016, 05:03:13 PM
I see that !! every time somebody puts a comment up the same five people jump all over them like they are some authority on women. I wasn't looking for advice I only put my trip report because somebody asked me to.  that guy I'm sure is a loser and thinks he's a big shot here on the Internet good for him he's the king of foreign brides
There was no trip report ; nothing that would be considered a trip report by PL standards. you don't want any feedback from a guy who is married to a Colombiana, why are you here? And stop sending me PM's telling me not to comment on your thread.  What do you want? A parade because you might get married? Any Adam Henry can get married. Making it work is more challenging, Mr. Thin Skin.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 29, 2016, 05:44:24 PM
You're right tool.  I am going to just break up with her now because what's the point of getting to know someone when the only guy in the world who understands women is you.  Maybe I don't have time to grab a backpack and live in a hut for six months in another country to get to know somebody like you do I have a job and benefits and a very big 401(k) plan so I'll just save myself the heart ache it take your advice and break up with her thanks you can carry-on with your great life being the senior adviser here and everybody in the world who finds a woman from another country should check with you. I was just saying how my trip went I wasn't asking for your two cents so keep it to yourself a hole
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 29, 2016, 06:27:42 PM
Yes we met in Cancun once we met in Cartagena once and we are meeting in Cancun again
She's incredible I originally went online and stumbled onto Jamie's site so I was just checking it out
I never expected in a million years to find someone so incredible


Too good to be true eh?


Betcha she is saying the same thing about a guy that paid her way to Cancun..twice yet..


Jeeze three weeks a woman and shes incredible and your gonna marry her..what a fairy tale..
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 29, 2016, 06:30:42 PM
Hey man I was married to an American woman for 20 years it was miserable and now I found somebody sweet and I'm trying my best to get to know her little by little I don't need you bashing me. If you're such an expert what are you even doing on this site ? if you're happily married why don't you go enjoy your wife instead of commenting on every other post.   


Because he is trying to give you a warning Mr. Naive....


Just make sure that liitle head doing all the thinking for you doesnt give you a sprain..


Marrage to a foreign woman is a serious thing. Not some "get her a Visa and bring her home-like requisitioning a little portable R&R.



Hope you dont mind sharing 50% of your 401(K)
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on June 29, 2016, 06:48:35 PM
Can we all be honest here and admit that no warning a fellow board member has received via this forum with regard to how he chooses to court a woman in another country has altered that man's course of action. I can't remember a single time. And with that being said....as negative or as positive as we choose to be based on a guy's situation, what we say has no bearing on the relationship's outcome. At this point I say congratulate a guy and let him make grown man decisions instead of treating him like a teenager you just gave the cars keys for the first time. If it works out....AWESOME!!! Another fairy tale that will convince the next dozen gringos lurking on this site that they can make the same thing happen for themselves. If it doesn't work out no one will have to pay the price except the guy that didn't listen. And ultimately, that's just heartache he'll get over and money he can make again.


Give the guy a break already. He sounds happy to me. And as short as this life is, for the time being that's all that matters.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on June 29, 2016, 06:55:10 PM
A few years ago I tried to warn a guy via PM about a girl I knew personally and he still didn't listen. Check the archives. We need to let everyone here make their choices and live with them.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on June 29, 2016, 07:30:39 PM
I agree with Expat. There are no fairy tale foreign marriages. And Benjio I  remember LatinSharpei well. The thread where he came back to tell us the gory details was probably the best thread ever on this site...
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: fathertime on June 29, 2016, 08:54:48 PM
I met a woman that I've been talking to for seven months we met once already in Cancun and we're meeting again in Cancun in September hopefully by Christmas she will have her visa


Sounds like a very good time you are having.  Any particular reason you are hitting Cancun a 2nd time?  I mean so many different countries/places to check out with a beautiful woman.  Perhaps there is a limitation due to her Colombian citizenship?


Thanks,
Fathertime! 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 30, 2016, 02:15:03 AM
No we just like Cancun and logistically it's easy to get to hey ex-pat who says I'm paying her way?
Like I said the same four or five idiots with their comments like they are the authority on everything this site cracks me up. Why don't you guys go enjoy your beautiful Columbian wives instead of being online all the time
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 30, 2016, 02:19:25 AM
That will be my last post I don't think this site is for me I don't need advice from four or five backpacking idiots who think they know everything but then they are online every night as if they were the authority. Do you all have a perfect marriage is with beautiful Columbian wives or maybe your wives are so hot that's why you're online all the time instead of hanging out with them. Probably the same guys who didn't fit in with the jocks where the nerds wear can't even get a decent American woman so this is their thing in life. And anybody who puts a post up is at their mercy like we are all supposed to look at them and take their word for Laura give me a break. Hey mambo I never said I was getting married stop commenting on everything you see bud  just read it and go back to your big fat wife. Thanks for nothing
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Gato4Astrid on June 30, 2016, 03:38:09 AM
That will be my last post I don't think this site is for me I don't need advice from four or five backpacking idiots who think they know everything but then they are online every night as if they were the authority. Do you all have a perfect marriage is with beautiful Columbian wives or maybe your wives are so hot that's why you're online all the time instead of hanging out with them. Probably the same guys who didn't fit in with the jocks where the nerds wear can't even get a decent American woman so this is their thing in life. And anybody who puts a post up is at their mercy like we are all supposed to look at them and take their word for Laura give me a break. Hey mambo I never said I was getting married stop commenting on everything you see bud  just read it and go back to your big fat wife. Thanks for nothing


So what's is the visa for?   'Sex Visa'  is there one?
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Ricardo1 on June 30, 2016, 04:39:08 AM
That will be my last post I don't think this site is for me I don't need advice from four or five backpacking idiots who think they know everything but then they are online every night as if they were the authority. Do you all have a perfect marriage is with beautiful Columbian wives or maybe your wives are so hot that's why you're online all the time instead of hanging out with them. Probably the same guys who didn't fit in with the jocks where the nerds wear can't even get a decent American woman so this is their thing in life. And anybody who puts a post up is at their mercy like we are all supposed to look at them and take their word for Laura give me a break. Hey mambo I never said I was getting married stop commenting on everything you see bud  just read it and go back to your big fat wife. Thanks for nothing




Then why do you post in the first place, if you aren't open to getting comments.  You put stuff on here, that screams "red flag" and when you get replies that you don't like, you now threaten to pick up your marbles and go home.  Get a grip bud - this is a forum for, hopefully, open, civil, and free dialogue.  Someone, previously used the term "Mr. Thin Skin".  I suppose it was intended to refer to you, and apparently some folks here are already getting under yours.
Hey, if you're not prepared to take some verbal bruising, you're likely on your way to getting some for real, 'coz you don't seem ready to bear constructive criticism. 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 30, 2016, 08:02:19 AM
Okay, I said too much.


I am the biggest talking hypocrite myself when it comes to doing dumb things,and thinking with my little head,  but at least I keep my mistakes in Colombia, not drag them back to Canada (or the US) where they get magnified 10 times.


Backpacker..LOL ...yeah, like all expats are like what you saw on the beach in Cartagena


Jocks and Nerds... LMAOF ;D ;D


Half they guys her living in Colombia (even though they fight amongst each other) could buy your company and get your a$$ fired if they wanted to..not that they go on with childhood rants about how much they own, what their net worth is,  jocks and nerds, 401(K)s, Fat wives, and my dick is bigger than your dick..nyah,nyah,nyah..
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 30, 2016, 08:28:30 AM
Father Gato Expat mambo Ricardo  you are the main reasons this site sucks you people sit around and think you know everything about women obviously you know nothing or you wouldn't be on the computer by the way is that your woman on the profile pic  Geez  wonder you're on the computer all day and night
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Gato4Astrid on June 30, 2016, 08:53:05 AM
Father Gato Expat mambo Ricardo  you are the main reasons this site sucks you people sit around and think you know everything about women obviously you know nothing or you wouldn't be on the computer by the way is that your woman on the profile pic  Geez  wonder you're on the computer all day and night


but you are ALSO sitting on the computer.  You are as loser as we all are  :D
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: kai #2 on June 30, 2016, 12:02:51 PM
This place should just be renamed to 'planet-hate and sometimes we meet girls'
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: fathertime on June 30, 2016, 12:09:04 PM
I'm sorry to hear you have had such a terrible experience visiting here.  If you find that you want information there are probably some other websites out there with less losers on it, where you will for more comfortable.
Thanks for the mini trip report and good luck with the lady.

Fathertime! 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 30, 2016, 02:00:29 PM
I got Hate Mail from the guy too, but I deleted it before I read it..LOL ;)


Ha ha.. As m old bass in Oregon said "If they cant take a joke, foch em"
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 30, 2016, 02:05:24 PM
This place should just be renamed to 'planet-hate and sometimes we meet girls'


Speaking of "Haters" why didnt MUDD and Calipro get their licks in here?


Nobody hates anybody, some people just take things too seriously.


Hes only known the gal 3 weeks,and hasnt even maried her.  if he was married to her 5 years, or even 6 months it would be another story, andt people wouldn be so critical and judgmental, out of compassion.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Calipro on June 30, 2016, 02:22:18 PM


Jeeze three weeks a woman and shes incredible and your gonna marry her..what a fairy tale..



Well I don't see any thing wrong with a guy taking a chick he likes to Cancun and aren't they all incredible three weeks into a relationship.


I did think about calling you out on the misleading comment "your gonna marry her...what a fairy tale"....since I didn't see anything that he posted that would indicate that he was considering marriage at this point.


But I don't think it is really necessary to nit pick your posts to much these days as most posters have gotten to know your views on women and relationships by now.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on June 30, 2016, 05:13:19 PM
Calipro too bad everybody on this site is not like you it would be a pretty cool site yes I'm doing the best I can every three months I get a week off and we been doing things Cancun Colombia and Cancun again I don't see what's wrong with that these guys are jumping all over me also I really really enjoyed Colombia  I had a great time there. There are other kinds of visa besides fiancé maybe you guys don't know that ?my lawyer says there is he's handling it.   OK ex-pat it's your turn you can say whatever you want again buddy
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on June 30, 2016, 09:18:56 PM
I'm sorry to hear you have had such a terrible experience visiting here.  If you find that you want information there are probably some other websites out there with less losers on it, where you will for more comfortable.
Thanks for the mini trip report and good luck with the lady.

Fathertime!
What a hypocrite. Do you think we've forgotten who you are? You were the king of personal attacks  on ZON, Dennis Levy (RIP), Robert Angel, and Benjio among others.  What a bunch of phoney baloney ...
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on June 30, 2016, 10:44:58 PM
im not saying anymore. I said enough. I am not one to talk. like i said i am the expert on thinking with my little head and [snip]ing up with the women


I honestly hope it works out.  JUst Take care, ok?.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: fathertime on June 30, 2016, 11:19:06 PM
What a hypocrite. Do you think we've forgotten who you are? You were the king of personal attacks  on ZON, Dennis Levy (RIP), Robert Angel, and Benjio among others.  What a bunch of phoney baloney ...


I'm pretty sure you misunderstood the post I made as I didn't word it as good as I should have, I was also listed by Rchsb as one of the site losers, so I should have said "us losers" instead of only 'losers'.  Of course I don't actually believe the site is full of losers, but I do believe that Rchsb believes it is true....so if that is the case, he might be happier finding a different group to discuss his adventures with. 



Yes I was the king of personal attacks many moons ago, but nowadays I'm less interested in engaging like that on PL. 


Fathertime! 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Kiltboy1 on July 01, 2016, 06:09:35 AM
let the guy have some fun and enjoy the Honeymoon period of courting his lady. We all had those great times on vacation , no responsibilities, ect. The real work will start if he indeed brings his lady back to the States. Honeymoon over !!!! . He will need to have a lot of patience as bringing a woman here is just like raising a small children, no matter how mature he thinks the is. He will have to do everything for her, teach her to drive, take her to her classes, make sure she is not hanging out with what I like to call " The Latin Mafia Women".
Let him have fun because regardless of what he thinks he knows, he does not know because hey," you don't know what you don't know"

Enjoy Cancun, CTG or where ever else you want to hook up

KB
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Awesome on July 01, 2016, 07:44:06 PM
Rschnb67 just because someone voices their opinion about the way you're going about things, you shouldn't let it bother you.  Maybe they're wrong, or they might even right.  It doesn't matter.  Treat it as what it is, just chatter on the internet, nothing more nothing less.  You're a grown man and you're going to do what you feel is best for you.  If a poster thinks you're doing something wrong just respectfully agree to disagree.  Would you rather Mambocowboy genuinely think that you're making a mistake and not say anything so as not to hurt your sensitive feelings?  Or would you rather that he give his honest opinion?


I can tell you one thing if you're this sensitive over a couple of mild comments on an internet forum how are you going to react when your novia has one of her notorious Colombiana mood swings?  Do you think you'd be able to handle that?  Hopefully you won't have to experience that as not all Colombianas are like that, but the ones who are like that...whew you better watch out.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on July 02, 2016, 09:56:57 AM
I can tell you one thing if you're this sensitive over a couple of mild comments on an internet forum how are you going to react when your novia has one of her notorious Colombiana mood swings?  Do you think you'd be able to handle that?  Hopefully you won't have to experience that as not all Colombianas are like that, but the ones who are like that...whew you better watch out.


That's a very good point.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Shadow_mas on July 04, 2016, 05:37:03 AM
Rschnb67 (http://www.planet-love.com/index.php?action=profile;u=34406) let me tell you a secret. Both on this and other sites I manage I often seen people like you who get upset at the long time members and (sometimes) disappear in a huff of smoke.In almost all cases it turns out that the things that were said hit very close to home, but instead of taking the advice the instinctive reaction was to ignore and get angry. I am aware that the people here can turn a mole hill in to a mountain, and if you would see everything as a red flag you might to be able to build any relationship. On the other hand you hve to understand you are not the first person that comes along with such a story, and the long time members here know what happened to most of them.

You are the only one who knows how your relationship is going and you determine what advice you ask and take. Just do not expect people here to cheer you on in anything you do.
Even the most crusty and antagonizing poster here would like to see a happy outcome rather than the (amusing) train wreck. There for never be shy to post good news.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Juan Valdez on July 04, 2016, 03:32:51 PM
Rschnb67 (http://www.planet-love.com/index.php?action=profile;u=34406) let me tell you a secret. Both on this and other sites I manage I often seen people like you who get upset at the long time members and (sometimes) disappear in a huff of smoke.In almost all cases it turns out that the things that were said hit very close to home, but instead of taking the advice the instinctive reaction was to ignore and get angry. I am aware that the people here can turn a mole hill in to a mountain, and if you would see everything as a red flag you might to be able to build any relationship. On the other hand you hve to understand you are not the first person that comes along with such a story, and the long time members here know what happened to most of them.

You are the only one who knows how your relationship is going and you determine what advice you ask and take. Just do not expect people here to cheer you on in anything you do.
Even the most crusty and antagonizing poster here would like to see a happy outcome rather than the (amusing) train wreck. There for never be shy to post good news.

+1
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on July 05, 2016, 03:35:05 AM
OK sorry about the short temper I guess I took things a little too personally I do read everything and I appreciate the advice I will keep my eyes open and try to realize it's not always going to be like a vacation thank you.i know there will be lots of challenges and things to overcome but like most of you I am focusing on the good points of my girl she's sweet and affectionate beautiful and loving and I'm just hoping that will overcome the other habits that might arise. I was married to an American for 17 years and I could barely get a kiss on the cheek from her she was the most cold unaffectionate woman in the world that is the reason I originally looked to Colombia[size=78%] Sorry about the war of words with everybody I'll try to keep an open mind just keep your comments positive somewhat haha[/size]
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Kiltboy1 on July 05, 2016, 06:18:22 AM
OK sorry about the short temper I guess I took things a little too personally I do read everything and I appreciate the advice I will keep my eyes open and try to realize it's not always going to be like a vacation thank you.i know there will be lots of challenges and things to overcome but like most of you I am focusing on the good points of my girl she's sweet and affectionate beautiful and loving and I'm just hoping that will overcome the other habits that might arise. I was married to an American for 17 years and I could barely get a kiss on the cheek from her she was the most cold unaffectionate woman in the world that is the reason I originally looked to Colombia[size=78%] Sorry about the war of words with everybody I'll try to keep an open mind just keep your comments positive somewhat haha[/size]

Most of us here went through years of Coldpuss from ex wives. Go back and look at some of my history in the 2003-2005  years. I got divorced  from a sourpuss just like you and within 2 years I was married to a woman from Cali I thought was just the best thing since sliced bread. She pushed all the right buttons and earned an Academy Award for Best Actress. It  was a nightmare. So when we try to help you out though our bad experiences, just keep your eyes open.One thing that has seemed to work well for guys here to see if red flags popped up is to tell the women that you are not interested living in the USA anymore and want to move to Colombia. Tell her that you think with your savings you could get a nice Strata 3 apartment for you both and then see what her reaction might be. That could tell you a lot of things about how she perceives your relationship.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: fathertime on July 05, 2016, 07:47:02 AM
OK sorry about the short temper I guess I took things a little too personally I do read everything and I appreciate the advice I will keep my eyes open and try to realize it's not always going to be like a vacation thank you.i know there will be lots of challenges and things to overcome but like most of you I am focusing on the good points of my girl she's sweet and affectionate beautiful and loving and I'm just hoping that will overcome the other habits that might arise. I was married to an American for 17 years and I could barely get a kiss on the cheek from her she was the most cold unaffectionate woman in the world that is the reason I originally looked to Colombia[size=78%] Sorry about the war of words with everybody I'll try to keep an open mind just keep your comments positive somewhat haha[/size]
Hola Rschnb67!
Just as you are focusing on the good points of your new lady, you can consider focusing on the posts you feel contain information/experiences that you can utilize.  If there are other points you would rather not hear, then you can disregard them.  Overall it sounds like you are enjoying yourself, and have the life experience to make your own choices in an educated way...after that the chips fall where they may...at least that is the way I see it.


Fathertime! 
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Juan Valdez on July 05, 2016, 08:13:47 AM
Rsch:
Keep in mind that this is an internet forum, and you have a multitude of personality types.

Believe it or not, even the comments you perceive as "negative" actually have your self-interest at heart.

The delivery may oftentimes leave a little, or a lot, to be desired, but there is no other reason for someone to make suggestions to you, unless it's been from their own personal experience, or someone who they know has experienced.
I believe at this point in time, all the active posters are people who have actually travelled to (mostly) Colombia (a few guys, other countries), met / dated multiple women. 

Some guys like Calipro have married Colombians in the past and value their ability to play the field (not deceitfully) with no desire to get married again. 

Other guys like Utopiacowboy are happily married to his Colombiana.
So you have a wide range of experiences, approaches, and preferences. 

But at the end of the day, you have a wealth of experience here, in all stages of relationships, and while you may perceive the message delivery to be flawed at times, the messages themselves may still be of great value to you.
We all hope for your story to become a success story :-)

Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Elexpatriado on July 11, 2016, 07:51:16 AM

A guy once gave me good advice. With these Colombianas, dont confuse affection and sex with love. These girls are great actors. Tet will do what ever is necessary to get what they want. This is especially true when they are "starry Eyed" and being taken on fancy vacations. Its okay to do this, but you have to get them in real life situations as well. And dont wear your heart on your sleeve or make any commitments until you are absolutely sure. It s better to be single and play the field like CP or  even just enjoy life with friends and other activities apart from women and love yourself than getting sucked int the drama of a wrong woman.


If someone is still feeling upset and feeling neglected over a "battle Axe" gringa, it is probably the worst time to get hooked up with a Colombiana.


You have no idea what some of these women  have been through, until you listen to some of the personal experiences. And once they have been "damaged" no amount of "Fixing" is going to work.


The best advise I can give is to have a circle of friends, preferably Colombian, or even Colombian American you can  y introduce your GF to. Take your time and value their opinions. Dont get excited and offended when they tell you something you dont like. You can easily lose good friends (and maybe even another potential better GF) by fighting with them and being defensive.


I also like KBs idea of telling her you want to live in Colombia. That cuts out 90% of the visadoras right there.


The girl has got o be into you, and into you more than you are into her. And that means being with you under any conditions (within reason). Otherwise, its just a glorified "Girl Friend Experience".


Some things are just the truth, and have to be faced, like Death, Taxes, and the question "Does your Colombiana really love you?"

Most of us here went through years of Coldpuss from ex wives. Go back and look at some of my history in the 2003-2005  years. I got divorced  from a sourpuss just like you and within 2 years I was married to a woman from Cali I thought was just the best thing since sliced bread. She pushed all the right buttons and earned an Academy Award for Best Actress. It  was a nightmare. So when we try to help you out though our bad experiences, just keep your eyes open.One thing that has seemed to work well for guys here to see if red flags popped up is to tell the women that you are not interested living in the USA anymore and want to move to Colombia. Tell her that you think with your savings you could get a nice Strata 3 apartment for you both and then see what her reaction might be. That could tell you a lot of things about how she perceives your relationship.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on July 11, 2016, 10:26:26 AM
A guy once gave me good advice. With these Colombianas, dont confuse affection and sex with love. These girls are great actors. Tet will do what ever is necessary to get what they want. This is especially true when they are "starry Eyed" and being taken on fancy vacations. Its okay to do this, but you have to get them in real life situations as well. And dont wear your heart on your sleeve or make any commitments until you are absolutely sure. It s better to be single and play the field like CP or  even just enjoy life with friends and other activities apart from women and love yourself than getting sucked int the drama of a wrong woman.


If someone is still feeling upset and feeling neglected over a "battle Axe" gringa, it is probably the worst time to get hooked up with a Colombiana.


You have no idea what some of these women  have been through, until you listen to some of the personal experiences. And once they have been "damaged" no amount of "Fixing" is going to work.


The best advise I can give is to have a circle of friends, preferably Colombian, or even Colombian American you can  y introduce your GF to. Take your time and value their opinions. Dont get excited and offended when they tell you something you dont like. You can easily lose good friends (and maybe even another potential better GF) by fighting with them and being defensive.


I also like KBs idea of telling her you want to live in Colombia. That cuts out 90% of the visadoras right there.


The girl has got o be into you, and into you more than you are into her. And that means being with you under any conditions (within reason). Otherwise, its just a glorified "Girl Friend Experience".


Some things are just the truth, and have to be faced, like Death, Taxes, and the question "Does your Colombiana really love you?"
Good advice. If a gringo is too nice or vulnerable, these Latinas can really toy with a guy. Just read LatinSharpei's threads. Most of us saw that train wreck coming a mile away and tried to warn him...
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: robert angel on October 15, 2016, 07:01:06 PM
Yes we met in Cancun once we met in Cartagena once and we are meeting in Cancun again
She's incredible I originally went online and stumbled onto Jamie's site so I was just checking it out
I never expected in a million years to find someone so incredible
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on April 06, 2019, 08:43:27 AM
I must have missed the trip report lol. Taking your girl on vacation isn't the best way to prepare for foreign marriage. At any rate, good luck you'll need it.

  Been a couple years since I was on this forum just looking back over my old post and thought I'd share how happy we still are after being marri 2.5 years it gets better every day that's why I don't go on here because [snip] comments like yours telling me good luck I'll need it
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on April 06, 2019, 08:44:24 AM



hhhmmmmm


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=krD4hdGvGHM

 Still married dickhead gets better every day
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on April 06, 2019, 08:45:28 AM

Too good to be true eh?


Betcha she is saying the same thing about a guy that paid her way to Cancun..twice yet..


Jeeze three weeks a woman and shes incredible and your gonna marry her..what a fairy tale..
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: robert angel on April 06, 2019, 10:08:37 AM
Great to hear and congratulations!


We have no idea the hope a story such as yours can give a guy.


It might be the very thing it took to finally get some guy in Wyoming on the plane. Can you buy into that?



Now you're in a great place, rather than grind an axe towards the nay sayers, howabout a tip or two about what makes her so 'livable'?


If I had to pick a couple things, I'd say my wife not getting upset over me being a lazy, unorganized slob is a great start. Sometimes I just push it too far and (always in private) she let's loose a bit, but in short order--minutes, a few hours, almost never over night---and she's back to her beautiful, level easy going self.


On my end, I think she appreciates me being concerned about her Mom and family, although they don't spend much of my money, or even too much of the money my wife gets from her job.


Really, I think the reason why we're going on 14 years (I knew her four years before that and she still gets carded--last week someone asked what high school she goes to, LOL) is:


When she's with me, she pretends everyday is:


"BE KIND TO ANIMALS DAY"
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on April 06, 2019, 10:27:39 AM
  Been a couple years since I was on this forum just looking back over my old post and thought I'd share how happy we still are after being marri 2.5 years it gets better every day that's why I don't go on here because [snip] comments like yours telling me good luck I'll need it
Still holding a grudge? Wow. Hadn't thought of you in years but flattered you still think of me lol
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on April 06, 2019, 05:09:21 PM
Like I always say: Great women in Latin America that make some of the best wives even if you take them back to the U.S. I’ve very rarely came after a guy on here for speaking his truth if his experience in Colombia hasn’t been what they expected (maybe those that exaggerate a bit ;) ). Expectations are a huge deal in this game when you first get started.

Even though we lasted the better part of 3 years (the last year being very rocky and off and on) my first serious relationship after going to Jamie’s left a bad taste in my mouth. Luckily I fell in love with the culture there and I continue to return. Met some great women and some that weren’t so great. I have no regrets.

Tell you what...the guys I meet that have nothing but horror stories usually show me pictures of exes and I’m never surprised. Photo albums full of Latina Barbie Dolls. And they swear every Colombiana is exactly the same like they can’t see the common denominator. It’s actually worse than the women I know that are attracted to thugs and gangsters and wonder why it never ends well.

Congrats Rschnb67!!! Best wishes!

Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on April 06, 2019, 05:45:20 PM
Still holding a grudge? Wow. Hadn't thought of you in years but flattered you still think of me lol
Nope never  Think about you or this room just today was remembering how discouraging all you [snip]s were so I thought I'd let you know that's why am living my life and you're still in this [snip]ing room every day
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on April 06, 2019, 06:08:29 PM
Nope never  Think about you or this room just today was remembering how discouraging all you [snip]s were so I thought I'd let you know that's why am living my life and you're still in this [snip]ing room every day
Good luck to you sir
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: robert angel on April 06, 2019, 09:29:08 PM
Nope never  Think about you or this room just today was remembering how discouraging all you [snip]s were so I thought I'd let you know that's why am living my life and you're still in this [snip]ing room every day

Compare the above post to one you posted in December,  2016. (Below) and your above post kind of sounds like a "Nah, nana boo boo---told you so" ---I thought (hope) you're a better fellow than that.

I beg to differ as to Asian vs Latin American women (very broad generalization, there, so much variance within ea population) but I thought you were pretty on top of your game, that you expressed it well as follows, back in December 2016:

"""Latin -> Introductions and Ice-Breakers / Re: newbie here
« on: December 09, 2016, 06:32:48 AM »
 I'm no expert by any means but my girlfriend from Barranquilla has all of those good qualities except she's not sexy she's super sexy and the negative qualities so far all I have seen she a girl who's super organized always punctual very attentive   The furthest thing from a Golddigger you could ever find and a super super nice person  sometimes a little impulsive.  She has  been taking English lessons and it's coming along slowly but surely but then again I'm taking salsa lessons and I am probably doing far worse than she is at English   To say an American child learns faster to me doesn't sound very accurate but maybe I have a rare gem but I would not trade her for a Filipino for all the money in the world I dated them before and  I work in healthcare where there are tons of Filipinos and I know them pretty well now and I don't think you could even compare my girl loves to dress sexy for me but yet she's at church every Sunday I think I have the best of both worlds""""

Hope you can share some insights as to what a couple years in the. USA has brought. I have a hunch her head was pretty together to start (not always common with an unusually pretty, exotic lady brought to the USA) and that the core characteristics that attracted you initially, are still there.

But I wouldn't weigh too heavily the posts of those less fortunate than you, the guys who may have seemed to be 'sharpening their knives' and predicting doom.

While again it's your prerogative to disappear for a year or two, or forever, it's also your choice as to whether or not you want to face (counter) "the dark side' by sharing your true, contrasting story's light and offering hope to guys new to the process.

Surely, you don't see us all as a bunch of fecker peckers......
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on April 07, 2019, 12:37:17 AM
Compare the above post to one you posted in December,  2016. (Below) and your above post kind of sounds like a "Nah, nana boo boo---told you so" ---I thought (hope) you're a better fellow than that.

I beg to differ as to Asian vs Latin American women (very broad generalization, there, so much variance within ea population) but I thought you were pretty on top of your game, that you expressed it well as follows, back in December 2016:

"""Latin -> Introductions and Ice-Breakers / Re: newbie here
« on: December 09, 2016, 06:32:48 AM »
 I'm no expert by any means but my girlfriend from Barranquilla has all of those good qualities except she's not sexy she's super sexy and the negative qualities so far all I have seen she a girl who's super organized always punctual very attentive   The furthest thing from a Golddigger you could ever find and a super super nice person  sometimes a little impulsive.  She has  been taking English lessons and it's coming along slowly but surely but then again I'm taking salsa lessons and I am probably doing far worse than she is at English   To say an American child learns faster to me doesn't sound very accurate but maybe I have a rare gem but I would not trade her for a Filipino for all the money in the world I dated them before and  I work in healthcare where there are tons of Filipinos and I know them pretty well now and I don't think you could even compare my girl loves to dress sexy for me but yet she's at church every Sunday I think I have the best of both worlds""""

Hope you can share some insights as to what a couple years in the. USA has brought. I have a hunch her head was pretty together to start (not always common with an unusually pretty, exotic lady brought to the USA) and that the core characteristics that attracted you initially, are still there.

But I wouldn't weigh too heavily the posts of those less fortunate than you, the guys who may have seemed to be 'sharpening their knives' and predicting doom.

While again it's your prerogative to disappear for a year or two, or forever, it's also your choice as to whether or not you want to face (counter) "the dark side' by sharing your true, contrasting story's light and offering hope to guys new to the process.

Surely, you don't see us all as a bunch of fecker peckers......
Some guys check in every blue moon to say "everything 's great," without offering any specifics about how they've made it work.  Sure would be nice to know. And even though things are swell  it's also good to know how any bumps in the road (which are part of all marriages) were overcome....
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: robert angel on April 07, 2019, 08:23:56 AM
I'm certainly no exception,  but most here post just the good, happy, 'living the life' stories, that is if they come back at all. Very few details though.

And good or bad, the details are usually interesting.  I mean, just the stories about adjusting to domestic life in the USA, cooking, different appliances etc. are entertaining.

But let's face it, this has never been an altruistic group of guys. It's pretty much alpha wolves, and wolves not even with a 'pack mentality.'

I briefly made mention of my spinal surgery, and the time I got into a wreck and rolled my Honda three times, no one said sh!t. Lost both parents in the last two years, but never dreamed of mentioning it here.

Come on, let's face it--most of the posts here are all about ourselves and that includes mine.

The other, perhaps even larger portion of dribble here is slagging women whilst telling single guys how they're doing it all wrong, that they're doomed.

By and large, this is a place where guys come looking to see what's in it for themselves, maybe to let off steam, kill time, to certainly readily rant when someone offends them in the slightest and last but not least, revel in lurid, violent stories, predicting that new members are on their way to a massive train wreck.

Guys who act like they've got it all figured out, but who in reality, are holding a whole lot of nothing.

The negativity here far outweighs the positive.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: benjio on April 07, 2019, 08:54:19 AM
I'm certainly no exception,  but most here post just the good, happy, 'living the life' stories, that is if they come back at all. Very few details though.

And good or bad, the details are usually interesting.  I mean, just the stories about adjusting to domestic life in the USA, cooking, different appliances etc. are entertaining.

But let's face it, this has never been an altruistic group of guys. It's pretty much alpha wolves, and wolves not even with a 'pack mentality.'

I briefly made mention of my spinal surgery, and the time I got into a wreck and rolled my Honda three times, no one said sh!t. Lost both parents in the last two years, but never dreamed of mentioning it here.

Come on, let's face it--most of the posts here are all about ourselves and that includes mine.

The other, perhaps even larger portion of dribble here is slagging women whilst telling single guys how they're doing it all wrong, that they're doomed.

By and large, this is a place where guys come looking to see what's in it for themselves, maybe to let off steam, kill time, to certainly readily rant when someone offends them in the slightest and last but not least, revel in lurid, violent stories, predicting that new members are on their way to a massive train wreck.

Guys who act like they've got it all figured out, but who in reality, are holding a whole lot of nothing.

The negativity here far outweighs the positive.

Some guys that post here went to Latin America/Asia for one reason or another years ago. They had expectations with respect to what the women were like but turns out there are $hitty people everywhere. They’re just giving you their experiences and warning you it isn’t the fairy tale some foreign dating sites or travel guides or social media make it out to be. I don’t see any real harm in that.

Other guys get lucky, find great gals, marry them and never have to see how ugly it can get. I agree with Mambo. The success stories don’t get a lot of print here; so the site gives the perception of having a negative tone. It’s just all our personal experiences though.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: mambocowboy on April 07, 2019, 10:43:02 AM
I'm certainly no exception,  but most here post just the good, happy, 'living the life' stories, that is if they come back at all. Very few details though.

And good or bad, the details are usually interesting.  I mean, just the stories about adjusting to domestic life in the USA, cooking, different appliances etc. are entertaining.

But let's face it, this has never been an altruistic group of guys. It's pretty much alpha wolves, and wolves not even with a 'pack mentality.'

I briefly made mention of my spinal surgery, and the time I got into a wreck and rolled my Honda three times, no one said sh!t. Lost both parents in the last two years, but never dreamed of mentioning it here.

Come on, let's face it--most of the posts here are all about ourselves and that includes mine.

The other, perhaps even larger portion of dribble here is slagging women whilst telling single guys how they're doing it all wrong, that they're doomed.

By and large, this is a place where guys come looking to see what's in it for themselves, maybe to let off steam, kill time, to certainly readily rant when someone offends them in the slightest and last but not least, revel in lurid, violent stories, predicting that new members are on their way to a massive train wreck.

Guys who act like they've got it all figured out, but who in reality, are holding a whole lot of nothing.

The negativity here far outweighs the positive.
I do remember the spinal surgery part and thinking how brutal that sounded. I do have a little empathy , but you are correct,  many on here have little and are focused solely on themselves....


Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: robert angel on April 07, 2019, 02:41:09 PM
I do remember the spinal surgery part and thinking how brutal that sounded. I do have a little empathy , but you are correct,  many on here have little and are focused solely on themselves....

NP, The reality is that with the relative anonymity a website like this provides, basically anything's par the course.

If I have a problem with that, I have a problem like that,  lol.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Calipro on April 08, 2019, 10:12:57 PM
Some guys that post here went to Latin America/Asia for one reason or another years ago. They had expectations with respect to what the women were like but turns out there are $hitty people everywhere. They’re just giving you their experiences and warning you it isn’t the fairy tale some foreign dating sites or travel guides or social media make it out to be. I don’t see any real harm in that.

Other guys get lucky, find great gals, marry them and never have to see how ugly it can get. I agree with Mambo. The success stories don’t get a lot of print here; so the site gives the perception of having a negative tone. It’s just all our personal experiences though.

Overall the board does a disservice to guys that are looking for a wife or anything else in Colombia

If you are a complete idiot with very few life expriences with wome.n it might scare you away

For normal people that are not normally victims in life
This board have damn near nothing to offer
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: utopiacowboy on April 09, 2019, 09:09:58 AM
Overall the board does a disservice to guys that are looking for a wife or anything else in Colombia

If you are a complete idiot with very few life expriences with wome.n it might scare you away

For normal people that are not normally victims in life
This board have damn near nothing to offer


Yes, you are probably right about that.
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: Rschnb67 on April 27, 2019, 11:54:00 AM
Hey Mambo and Robert.   Yes I checked in every couple years just to give an update how things are going I don't really feel the need to give any details because all  you guys have done in the past is pick things apart and try to analyze them but you guys are living your lives here I just check in once in a while so see you later in a couple years maybe
Title: Re: Back from Colombia
Post by: ag1987 on December 27, 2021, 06:52:30 AM
how is everything going?