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Latina's in America vs Abroad
Calipro:
--- Quote from: Neoblk40 on June 21, 2017, 04:20:34 PM ---Thanks for the great advice guys,
As far why I'm looking outside the US borders.....I am indeed in between leaving NY state and dating in whatever state I move to or dating someone from Colombia in the short term. I believe that there is a difference between a latina or anyone for that matter that was born in a 3rd world country and born in the states. I've found that the women in the countries that i've been to seem to have a lot more comfortable being a good wife instead of trying to be the man of the house. There's an unspoken energy that i pick up from a woman that will let me lead as a man in a relationship and those that refuse to do so.
Perfect example.....I had a friend once whose family was from Puerto Rico, but he was born here. He married a girl from DR that he met there and brought to the US years ago. These were the days when i thought, damn, she's gonna leave him as soon as she gets a better deal. Well, i remember going to his apt for a birthday party. We were all laughing and having some drinks while his new wife was serving us. He was yelling out how his wife is the BEST in the world. He repeatedly stated that he was so happy with her (in his own way) about how she treated him, cooked for him, kept a clean house and always looked good for him and knew her place as a woman of the house when his friends came over. What i mean by this is that she would let the guys drink and talk [snip] as we hung out and wouldn't try to dive into our conversations and occasionally later on use our behavior against us since we were just being loose with our words....know what i mean. I think this moment was the first time i considered traveling and thinking about marrying outside the US. At my age though, you can imagine how much resistance i've built up over the years against a rebellious type of woman.
As far as how i look, i'm a black guy (carribean), over 40 yrs old, closer to 40. Due to not having kids or ever having been married i still have my 35 yrs old look. My spanish is decent as well, but could be better. I'll be able to speak alot more fluently within about 4 months. As i said i'm out and about in the salsa scene so i still can pull em when i'm ready. I do talk to girls occasionally and enjoy my time with them, but a native girl is still the best option as a wife. With that being said, i wouldn't totally consider dating someone within my own community or in another state.
As far as time off during the year, that's a great point that's been on my mind as well. I can probably get 3 to 4 weeks off per year at a time plus long holidays. In a couple of years i hope to be running my own business and able to travel and vacation at least 2 months per year off or more, so i'm good in that department.
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Seems to me that if your Spanish is conversational and you can meet women on the fly....that you might be better off skipping the marriage agencies.
Yes there can be some fairly attractive women in agencies...but there are also inherent pitfalls with meeting women that have already decided that they want to leave their country and everything they have ever known before they have ever even met a foreigner.
If I were you I'd stay at an Airbnb with an active host that can introduce you to people and show you their city.
I found three in Medellin in about 10 minutes that I think would be good as a starting point.
https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/18290657?location=Medell%C3%ADn%20&s=WazpYEfo
https://www.airbnb.com/users/show/15719028
https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/5531390?location=Medell%C3%ADn%20&s=WazpYEfo
Sure a host can cramp your style when you want to bring a chick back to your place....but for the first week they can be a huge advantage.
You can meet women while having your host show you the city and when you find a chick that you want more privacy with....you can just get your own place.
Facebook is a very good place to meet women....but at first it is slow going....once you get 50 or more women from the same city on your facebook the ball really starts moving.
Since you are starting from scratch I would start meeting women on Colombian Cupid and quickly get them to friend you on facebook.....then just start friending her friends that you find attractive.
I have met hundreds of women facebook just by friending other women's friends....and at least 50 percent of the time Colombian women will friend you just because you have a mutual friend with her....that is really all you need to get your foot in the door.
Colombian women are so easy to meet online that it hardly seems necessary to do a cold approaches in person when you are out. But if you can make eye contact with a woman and she holds it for a couple of seconds then I she is open for an approach.
Never approach a chick with a guy unless he is obviously gay.
Some Colombian women are really attention whores....and will stare at you long and hard while they are with a guy. But if you make an approach they will act like they have never seen you before....even if they have been staring a hole through you for 15 minutes.
robert angel:
--- Quote from: Calipro on June 22, 2017, 01:01:10 AM ---
Seems to me that if your Spanish is conversational and you can meet women on the fly....that you might be better off skipping the marriage agencies.
Yes there can be some fairly attractive women in agencies...but there are also inherent pitfalls with meeting women that have already decided that they want to leave their country and everything they have ever known before they have ever even met a foreigner.
If I were you I'd stay at an Airbnb with an active host that can introduce you to people and show you their city.
I found three in Medellin in about 10 minutes that I think would be good as a starting point.
https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/18290657?location=Medell%C3%ADn%20&s=WazpYEfo
https://www.airbnb.com/users/show/15719028
https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/5531390?location=Medell%C3%ADn%20&s=WazpYEfo
Sure a host can cramp your style when you want to bring a chick back to your place....but for the first week they can be a huge advantage.
You can meet women while having your host show you the city and when you find a chick that you want more privacy with....you can just get your own place.
Facebook is a very good place to meet women....but at first it is slow going....once you get 50 or more women from the same city on your facebook the ball really starts moving.
Since you are starting from scratch I would start meeting women on Colombian Cupid and quickly get them to friend you on facebook.....then just start friending her friends that you find attractive.
I have met hundreds of women facebook just by friending other women's friends....and at least 50 percent of the time Colombian women will friend you just because you have a mutual friend with her....that is really all you need to get your foot in the door.
Colombian women are so easy to meet online that it hardly seems necessary to do a cold approaches in person when you are out. But if you can make eye contact with a woman and she holds it for a couple of seconds then I she is open for an approach.
Never approach a chick with a guy unless he is obviously gay.
Some Colombian women are really attention whores....and will stare at you long and hard while they are with a guy. But if you make an approach they will act like they have never seen you before....even if they have been staring a hole through you for 15 minutes.
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+1---wish we had more insightful, informative posts like that here lately. Even though it dosen't pertain to my situation by and large, it's good stuff and interesting at that.
benjio:
--- Quote from: Neoblk40 on June 20, 2017, 11:46:57 AM ---Next on my list was brazil, but after looking at places down there in south america and speaking to many of my lady friends, it's become apparent to me that I'm not going to learn Portuguese as i am spanish due to the fact that I already know lots of spanish.
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I find it amazing how many men rule out Brazil because of the language barrier. The high cost of traveling and staying there during the summertime months? That I understand. But Portuguese isn't Mandarin or Arabic. For the most part the same rules of Latin Languages apply. I will admit there are several reasons Spanish is much easier for Americans to pick up. We're used to hearing it and it's usually the 2nd language of choice in high school and college in the United States. It's always on some TV station or on the radio here as well. If you're not living in some small town in the Midwest you can usually find plenty of people to practice with. But here's the thing though....I've never met a guy that came to Brazil and started meeting women not be able to pick up the language. The pronunciation can be tough and native Brazilian Portuguese speakers have very unforgiving ears. But believe me when it say there's PLENTY of motivation to learn once you get there.
Neoblk40:
Greeeeaaattt idea bro!! I'll def keep these ideas in mind. I did Air B&B in DR and i loved it. Had a jacuzzi, hammock disco room and everything. I'll save this post for my notes. Hadn't even thought about it that way in terms of what the agency girls would be looking for either. Although, I'll take that with a 50% chance of being problematic.
Well in terms online dating, I've done lots of that here and things tend to jump off nicely and quickly. Two people having the similar goals can have great outcomes. It's just that in that land of online dating its almost hopeless since most people are single for different reasons.
Love this idea though, will let it marinate. The other hangup is that I'll only have 1 week (2 weekends), and i'll want to start in Baranquilla. Love the costena morenas.
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Neoblk40:
Brazil is on my list, just thinking about Colombia first. I may or may not make it that far though, lol!!
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