Simple Introduction

[A_Thomas]

  I thought I would introduce myself.


 My name is Anthony, I live in the San Fernando Valley area of Los Angeles.


 43 year old, easily pass for younger. Often mistaken for mid to late 20's.


 I am African-American (as much as I hate that term)


 Very experienced dating non-Black women and women from Europe mainly. I don't have much experienced with Latin American women but very interested in Brazilian and Argentinian women.
 
 My first trip overseas in 2007 was a choice between going to South America or going to Europe. Since I had made contacts in Europe, I decided to go that route. Through a series of misunderstandings and wrong decisions on my part, I ended up coming home empty handed.


 My intention was then, as it is now; To find my wife, the woman who wants to have my children and live an unbelievable experience.


 Right now I am torn between returning to Europe or going to South America. One of the reasons I didn't go to South America last time is because of the language barrier. Reading post around here and elsewhere just confirm this, you are better off knowing the language (either Spanish or Portuguese) as most of the women in these countries have limited to no ability to speak English.


 Since I planned my first trip fairly quickly and because I felt I had locked in a few long term possibilities I just went with Europe. I like Europe, especially Scandinavia and Germany. I also visited Ukraine while I was there and met a few women (not like I wanted however).


 I came here to learn more about Latin Women.

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[V_Man]

Welcome.

[size=78%] 43 year old, easily pass for younger. Often mistaken for mid to late 20's.[/size]

That is a shame. The majority of serious Latin women want a 43 year old that looks like a 43 year old. But hopefully it will not hold you back too much.


Perhaps a good route for you would be to go to South America primarily for a vacation and only secondly to see if you can find a wife. This approach may ironically work out much better in the end for you.


Yes you need at least basic Spanish or Portuguese. Otherwise you are kicking tires.

[A_Thomas]

 Not sure why my younger looks (very little grey, soft skin, few blemishes, etc) would be a major issue. It usually means I can date (and have) younger women.


 Vacation would be fine, but I am not time limited. I can go as long as I have money to stay and I am building a source of income from the internet. The fact you can stay in Brazil for up to six months is very appealing.


 I am willing to learn the languages IF it will improve my chances. That said I have and know quite a few English speaking women in Brazil as it stands.


 I also have a connection in Argentina.


 We'll see if I can do "One and Done" even if I go back to Europe I wouldn't be going back to the same countries save for visiting a friend in Norway.


 I am also considering DR and CR for wife shopping.

[Bob_S]

Welcome, Mr. Thomas.  Whatever your goal is in S.A., there are guys here who can give you a shove in the right direction.  First a few points:
1.  In Eastern Europe or Asia, the women do not expect you to know their language.  They appreciate it if you do, but it is not a requirement.  But in S.A., knowledge of the local language is an absolute prerequisite for this adventure.  Fortunately, Spanish and other Latin languages are ranked as the easiest foreign language to learn for native English speakers.  So you might want to plan to spend at least a good 6 months in intensive language study before you board a plane.
2.  From what I've read here, in S.A., young guys tend to get dismissed as just players.  Looking a bit older can be an advantage since it is then assumed you've already sown your wild oats and are now finally serious about settling down.   
3.  It's wife "hunting", not "shopping".  You don't want to give lurkers the wrong impression about what is really involved in this process.   

[A_Thomas]

Welcome, Mr. Thomas.  Whatever your goal is in S.A., there are guys here who can give you a shove in the right direction.  First a few points:
1.  In Eastern Europe or Asia, the women do not expect you to know their language.  They appreciate it if you do, but it is not a requirement.  But in S.A., knowledge of the local language is an absolute prerequisite for this adventure.  Fortunately, Spanish and other Latin languages are ranked as the easiest foreign language to learn for native English speakers.  So you might want to plan to spend at least a good 6 months in intensive language study before you board a plane.
2.  From what I've read here, in S.A., young guys tend to get dismissed as just players.  Looking a bit older can be an advantage since it is then assumed you've already sown your wild oats and are now finally serious about settling down.   
3.  It's wife "hunting", not "shopping".  You don't want to give lurkers the wrong impression about what is really involved in this process.   

 Thanks


 1) That is my own experience in Ukraine (2007). I was in contact with two women, one from Siberia, Russia and the other in Kiev, Ukraine. Its a bit of a long story, but I should have gone to Turkey were the Siberian was vacationing and she invited me to come see her.


  The podcast Expat Files suggested immersion bootcamp. Going as far as installing the Spanish version of Windows (Windows 8 in this case on this laptop) and consuming nothing but Spanish based media (TV Shows, Movies, even Music).


 I believe this would work very well and its such that I am currently in contact with nobody really when it comes to the opposite sex and only a few people on Facebook. I am in daily contact with my parents though, that's not an issue though.


 I'm giving that idea some thought...


 2) I understand that younger men are considered players and what you have to do is convince the women that your serious. I don't have a problem with that, because I am serious....This is a bit less of a problem with Slavic women because I have talked to women as young as 19 and the oldest was 32. I spent time with the 32 year old. Of course she had a child already. But younger women didn't have a problem with me not being serious. Things just didn't play out like I thought they would and I turned to that part of my trip late, so time was an issue.


 3) Hunter sounds good, but shopping sounds no different than the song "Shop around" and it wasn't talking about buying a coat.


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[fathertime]

 3) Hunter sounds good, but shopping sounds no different than the song "Shop around" and it wasn't talking about buying a coat.


 Semantics... 
 

Well I have to agree with Bob_S on this one.  We are not shopping for household frilly soap dishes at Bed Bath and Beyond, we are hunters stalking female prey, and I was always equipped with quite a lethal ‘spear’

Fathertime!

[robert angel]

  I thought I would introduce myself.





 Very experienced dating non-Black women and women from Europe mainly. I don't have much experienced with Latin American women but very interested in Brazilian and Argentinian women.
 
 My first trip overseas in 2007 was a choice between going to South America or going to Europe. Since I had made contacts in Europe, I decided to go that route. Through a series of misunderstandings and wrong decisions on my part, I ended up coming home empty handed.


 My intention was then, as it is now; To find my wife, the woman who wants to have my children and live an unbelievable experience.


 Right now I am torn between returning to Europe or going to South America. One of the reasons I didn't go to South America last time is because of the language barrier. Reading post around here and elsewhere just confirm this, you are better off knowing the language (either Spanish or Portuguese) as most of the women in these countries have limited to no ability to speak English.


 Since I planned my first trip fairly quickly and because I felt I had locked in a few long term possibilities I just went with Europe. I like Europe, especially Scandinavia and Germany. I also visited Ukraine while I was there and met a few women (not like I wanted however).



 I came here to learn more about Latin Women.

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Welcome aboard.
 
Just joshing you a bit, but sounds like you've read the quotes of perhaps the ultimate malapropist, Yogi Berra and paid special heed to this gem of his:
 
"When you come to a fork in the road, take it"
Maybe this one too...
"If you don't know where you are going, you will wind up somewhere else."
http://www.rinkworks.com/said/yogiberra.shtml