Ha ha, Dave--re:
>>I found my Filipina wife when I wasn't looking<<
Ain't love a kick? I was introduced to my now wife and we knew each other for years as 'friends' as we both wandered around pursuing others, before we realized "why not US?" after we had both broken up with others.
Even weirder, she had been introduced to me by a Filipina living in Vermont--AFTER things didn't work out betwen the Vermont lady's sister and I.
Yes, sometimes the best things that happen are unexpected and sometimes backing off and not making a full court press enhances the 'game' and its chances.