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Title: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: vallenatoman on February 11, 2011, 12:29:31 PM
I did some colombiacupid.com gallery views last night.

I spent a decent chunk of time looking. theres like 1000 profiles that pop up so it takes time.

Now i will say this FROM MY VISUAL analysis only.

The quality of pics seems a bit better on there. NOW theres all sorts of implications i know.... could be fake, old pics, could be tweaked....no one is really screening i guess beyond nudity.

But assuming the ones I looked at werent fakes...

I found after 3-4 reviews of 1000 profiles (so about 4000) still the % of girls i thought were minimum cute for my standards was still decently low. i felt there were more CUTE girls on average on cupid but still iffy the pics seem....definitely deliberate showing very specific parts or cut off.

But the ones i did think were to my criteria were cute were educated (stated bachelor degrees and had jobs like Finance, etc) but the odds of getting a response i know are limited because those girls are getting a million a day im sure. And if guys that are on web cam doing nasty things as i think Whitey mentioned well theyll get scared off quickly.

Sometimes when i clicked on some profiles it popped up with other pics if they had more than 1 that didnt match the criteria i told it to search for: example i put a limit of 125lbs for 1 search just to have a limit (which i expanded later to 140lbs) yet some profiles were clearly not 125lbs. a decent amount were like that .. thus telling me many of the ladies are not being honest with their details fro sure.

NOt that i expected this from a site like this but you know one can hope right.

Regardless first few forays with this did bring up a few girls i had hoped would be on jamies site and a few from BAQ.

I still wasnt overly excited by the results.

SO that begs the question:

How do guys who use Colombia cupid really select ladies? Do you guys look at the pics (and there are many) and say "ugly" "cute" and only open cute ones? do you really READ the profiles in detail even if the lady is "not cute"? do you just flip on by until a STUNNING girl appears?

again its hard to really set critieria.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: ignorante on February 11, 2011, 12:41:31 PM
I filter first by physical appearance (duh!), then by the age she desires (duh! duh!), then filter out other undesireable traits (any that mention money, some do!, any that use the word "princess," any that have no real interests beyond "rumbia" and dancing, and so on).  I also tend to ignore the profiles with only one photograph.  I also tend to filter out women whose minimum desired age is younger than herself, as I cannot see her seriously desiring (or happy with) a man older than she is if he really is competing against guys younger than she is.  I typically filter out those with kids.

Education, etc. 

Then I have preferences, too.  English speakers go to the front of the line, because my spanish sucks (working on it, pero tu tienes que hablar muy, muy despacio).  I speak all present tense, so I sound like a retarded grade schooler, probably.  I also mess up simple words sometimes.  I had a conversation with a Mexican lady I met in Charleston on vacation recently.  She spoke very little English, so I thought it would be a good opportunity for my son and I to practice a little.  She kept complimenting my spanish (which probably means that she never hears spanish from white people in Charleston, so she was pleasantly surprised), when I was terribly embarrassed to realize when she corrected me that I had said a syllable on a number wrong - a number!  Argh!  Talk about messing up something simple.

Anyway, English is a huge plus.

I am always amused by the profiles that mention outdoor interests like camping, hunting, and fishing.  I wold love to see what these beautiful young women are hunting in Colombia!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: mudd on February 11, 2011, 02:50:54 PM
one thing i would like to mention about  photos, you really need to look at the details of the photographs.

in the past , i have caught 2 girls  in lies due to seeing things in the background of the photographs and noticing details. just for an example. one girl who was supposedly on vacation with her family, but was in a high end hotel in panama, not cartagena, like she stated, doing what, you don't want to know LOL

other was in a sports bar when she stated she was someplace else. I could tell the photo was not recent and she was lieing about where and when it  was.  always look in the background of photos, sometimes they will tell a completely different story.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: vallenatoman on February 11, 2011, 06:42:10 PM
Good points Mudd.

But jamies gallery pics dont think much there to decipher i think he takes the pics? unless im mistaken.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Researcher on February 11, 2011, 07:06:52 PM



    I don't know what kind of conclusion you are trying to come to from looking at pics but maybe you are trying to base too much on them.Profiles and photos were there for me to decide whether or not I wanted to meet someone.Was she attractive? Did I like what she put in her profile? That was it for me.I knew I wasn't committing to anything when I asked to meet her.

    Researcher
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: JimD on February 11, 2011, 07:37:53 PM
But the ones i did think were to my criteria were cute were educated (stated bachelor degrees and had jobs like Finance, etc)

VM if a girl states on her profile that she has a "bachillera" that means she has graduated from high school. Girls on there that actually have a university degree comparable to a US Bachelor degree will be scarce as hen´s teeth. As to employment indicated on their profile just skip it...it´s sheer optimism.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: mudd on February 12, 2011, 11:20:00 AM
my comment wasn't really geared for profile photos of a marriage agencies , but photos that girls will send you directly, IE cupid, amigos, badoo,match,  their e mail ect
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 12, 2011, 12:41:36 PM
I also can tell about photos whether they work as cam prostitutes or not.  Photos never lie and can also see what is in the background.

Photos aren't the only thing you need to worry about.  They can lie easily on their profiles - age, for example. 

I know a woman who advertised as 46 years old in Cali Charm but as 38 years old in ACG and 1 other site.  I asked this woman for her age, and she told me that she was 38.  I told her about her in CaliCharm, but she told me that CC had made a mistake.  Guess what?  CC showed me photocopy of her cedula.  (I took degree in Mathematics, but do not need a degree to work out her age! lol).    2 years later, last time I checked, she is STILL looking for a man and she is 48 now .... Good luck to her for keeping on telling lies!!


Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 12, 2011, 01:25:22 PM
There's alot that can be said about photos when you're just beginning to browse. Afterall, photos will make or break the deal for the girl in the first 2-3 seconds when you're browsing and they can reveal important details and truth about the person in a way that written words cannot ... if you know what you like and what you're looking for. Think of it this way, when you meet someone in person, you are looking at them. And you wanted to meet them in the first place because you liked how they looked. I have never heard of someone who goes up to meet somebody and hands them a written story about themselves (like a profile) with any hopes of getting anywhere. Photos on a profile are the closest thing we have to reality. So in short, they had better be good.

This is a two way street if you're putting yourself out there on a website to attract her attention. For your own sake, do not skimp on this ... make them the best they can possibly be while keeping yourself true to form. And do not fudge, primp, or fib. Do not pose your proud a$$ sitting on a chromed out Harley if you do not ride. Do not stand next to your buddy's red Corvette. A good woman will tell you every time they hate men who flaunt that they have money. And imagine how much she'll dislike you if she finds out you really don't if you're looking like you do? Instead, take pics doing the things you like and actually do in your everyday life. Pay attention to posture, eye contact with the camera, and your dress code. Take a hundred honest pics if you need to and pick the best ones. We're all preaching and demanding the women on these sites be honest with their pics, you need only do the same in return. Back to the subject at hand...

ignorante said he weeds out if there is only one photo on a profile. This is a very good rule. Mudd made a point about details in the backgrounds ... excellent as well. My minimum on a profile where the girl submits the photos herself would be:

a profile must have at least 3 photos ... and there must be more coming once we are e-mailing and getting to know each other. A woman should not be shy about this. If she is, she is hiding something.

The photos should be different in that they were taken in different places and she is wearing different clothes

The photos should be relatively close up where you can at least see her face and a fairly good portion of her body (dressed, please) in at least one of them. Far away photos where you cannot recognize her are not acceptable.

Click next on girls who only have photos of themselves showing lots of skin, posing like models, little black cocktail dresses, perfect make up, perfect lighting, perfect hair, and the like. Perfect photos of chicks looking like they belong on a magazine cover are not acceptable. Example ... she's in a tiger-striped bikini sitting on a couch in a plush apartment somewhere, hair is perfect, lighting is perfect, make up is perfect ... not a single indicator to be seen that she has or is about to really go swimming. It's like uh-huh ... hey Beavis ... where's the damn pool?

Look for photos that are more like snap-shots over ones that are staged, rigged, and perfect.

finally
any and all photos should look like they are of the same woman ... which is a good indicator that they are probably recent (within the last 6 months).
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: robert angel on February 12, 2011, 04:38:18 PM
When people ask me: "Robert, how do you feel?", I am always honest and I tell them:
                
                                                   "With my hands!"......
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 12, 2011, 07:46:27 PM
This is a helpful thread for new guys like me. I've been on CC and Latin American Cupid (LAC) for a few months now.

Online dating is tricky enough in the SAME city let alone a foreign country.  I had this discussion with a few of you when I posted a thread about Badoo.

So forgive me if I sound like a broken record (I swear I wasn't born yesterday).

1. I found the profile of this 31 yr old woman from Barranquilla on LAC.  
http://www.latinamericancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/2815563

Her profile breaks many of the rules that have been discussed: scantily clad in main profile photo and gives NO indication as to what an acceptable age range is for prospective mates.  I guess she does this to NOT drive away potential clients.  I hate to admit that sometimes I think with my OTHER head so I sent her a message. She replied with her personal hotmail account.  One nice touch was she said she lives with her parents.  Do the working gals in BQ live with Mom and Dad?  Am I nuts to take the bait and play along or do I just run along and forget it??


2. I found this profile of a 24 yr old gal from Santa Marta.
http://www.colombiancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/272255

Girl No. 2 is like night and day compared to girl No. 1.  Clearly states the age range she is looking for and has NOT offered her personal e-mail despite the fact we have exchanged about 3 or 4 e-mails on CC thus far.  Granted, as Eurforia stated, I PREFER mas fotos. She only has two posted.

Having said all that, I did notice what looks like a date stamp on Girld No. 2's profile photo which seems to read 2006!  That makes me wonder if even this innocent looking gal is playing games......or perhaps it is a 9 upside down?

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 12, 2011, 08:06:07 PM
My girlfriend only posted 1 photo when she was in ColombianCupid !!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: utopiacowboy on February 12, 2011, 09:07:59 PM
This is a helpful thread for new guys like me. I've been on CC and Latin American Cupid (LAC) for a few months now.

Online dating is tricky enough in the SAME city let alone a foreign country.  I had this discussion with a few of you when I posted a thread about Badoo.

So forgive me if I sound like a broken record (I swear I wasn't born yesterday).

1. I found the profile of this 31 yr old woman from Barranquilla on LAC.  
http://www.latinamericancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/2815563

Her profile breaks many of the rules that have been discussed: scantily clad in main profile photo and gives NO indication as to what an acceptable age range is for prospective mates.  I guess she does this to NOT drive away potential clients.  I hate to admit that sometimes I think with my OTHER head so I sent her a message. She replied with her personal hotmail account.  One nice touch was she said she lives with her parents.  Do the working gals in BQ live with Mom and Dad?  Am I nuts to take the bait and play along or do I just run along and forget it??


2. I found this profile of a 24 yr old gal from Santa Marta.
http://www.colombiancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/272255

Girl No. 2 is like night and day compared to girl No. 1.  Clearly states the age range she is looking for and has NOT offered her personal e-mail despite the fact we have exchanged about 3 or 4 e-mails on CC thus far.  Granted, as Eurforia stated, I PREFER mas fotos. She only has two posted.

Having said all that, I did notice what looks like a date stamp on Girld No. 2's profile photo which seems to read 2006!  That makes me wonder if even this innocent looking gal is playing games......or perhaps it is a 9 upside down?



I had to laugh. The first chick says she's "self Employed" and as to the second chick's photo, yes it is from 2006.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Bob_S on February 12, 2011, 11:14:55 PM
I had to laugh. The first chick says she's "self Employed" and as to the second chick's photo, yes it is from 2006.
If the second chica posted more photos like chica #1, she could be "self employed" too.   ;) ;D
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 13, 2011, 12:14:47 AM
1. I found the profile of this 31 yr old woman from Barranquilla on LAC. 
http://www.latinamericancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/2815563
... I hate to admit that sometimes I think with my OTHER head so I sent her a message. She replied with her personal hotmail account.  One nice touch was she said she lives with her parents.  Do the working gals in BQ live with Mom and Dad?  Am I nuts to take the bait and play along or do I just run along and forget it??
OK, so you took the bait and began some correspondence. Sounds to me like you're just getting up to speed with this stuff so nothing ventured, nothing gained. See what happens and get some miles. Just don't send her any personal info ... and definitely don't fall for any sweet talk right away. See if she can cough up a few realistic pics for you and don't fall for the my camera's broke or was stolen line of BS.

2. I found this profile of a 24 yr old gal from Santa Marta.
http://www.colombiancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/272255
... Granted, as Eurforia stated, I PREFER mas fotos. She only has two posted.

Having said all that, I did notice what looks like a date stamp on Girld No. 2's profile photo which seems to read 2006!  That makes me wonder if even this innocent looking gal is playing games......or perhaps it is a 9 upside down?
These guys on here are pulling your chain a little, don't mind them ... it's all in fun. Now this is the kind of girl who has fairly good photos; despite only posting two. They're not perfect photos like Chica #1. Once again, you gotta see what happens. You've sent 3-4 e-mails back and forth so far. Now ask her for some recent pics before you start getting hooked. The year on the one pic in her profile is 2006. But she could have easily set her camera wrong or didn't set it at all. Chicks generally don't care about stuff like this. Glory's camera was making pics dated March, 2009 in Christmas of 2010. But I'd quiz her on it just the same.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Zon on February 13, 2011, 06:42:44 AM
online S U C K S ...

It takes tons of time.  Latinas do not fully express themselves in letters.  Chat is like torture to me.  The girls on CC, mostly, are looking for a ticket out, or a sponsor.  And, I do tons better in person.

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 13, 2011, 06:45:50 AM
I had to laugh. The first chick says she's "self Employed" .

Self-employed could be anything from selling accessories or selling in the flea market to cam prostitutes.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 13, 2011, 06:47:21 AM
online S U C K S ...

It takes tons of time.  Latinas do not fully express themselves in letters.  Chat is like torture to me.  The girls on CC, mostly, are looking for a ticket out, or a sponsor.  And, I do tons better in person.



so is giving up!  The old saying "Patience gets rewards"
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: mudd on February 13, 2011, 09:15:55 AM
when i  see this in a profile on any internet site, i immediately dismiss it

Quote
I seek a man with good feelings, that the auction to converse, to know places, and to travel


this has " I'm looking for some guy who will spend $$ on me on trips,  take me to panama, cartagena, san andres or some other country,
 no  thanks.

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 09:37:46 AM
online S U C K S ...

It takes tons of time.  Latinas do not fully express themselves in letters.  Chat is like torture to me.  The girls on CC, mostly, are looking for a ticket out, or a sponsor.  And, I do tons better in person.



I AGREE Zon, Online SUCKS.  I am not very photogenic.  Nearly every woman I've met through the online universe (here in the U.S.) tells me I look "better" in person. 

So if the Online process SUCKS....what is your method?  Just show up in the country and mingle with some chicas and see what happens?
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 09:41:16 AM
OK, so you took the bait and began some correspondence. Sounds to me like you're just getting up to speed with this stuff so nothing ventured, nothing gained. See what happens and get some miles. Just don't send her any personal info ... and definitely don't fall for any sweet talk right away. See if she can cough up a few realistic pics for you and don't fall for the my camera's broke or was stolen line of BS.
These guys on here are pulling your chain a little, don't mind them ... it's all in fun. Now this is the kind of girl who has fairly good photos; despite only posting two. They're not perfect photos like Chica #1. Once again, you gotta see what happens. You've sent 3-4 e-mails back and forth so far. Now ask her for some recent pics before you start getting hooked. The year on the one pic in her profile is 2006. But she could have easily set her camera wrong or didn't set it at all. Chicks generally don't care about stuff like this. Glory's camera was making pics dated March, 2009 in Christmas of 2010. But I'd quiz her on it just the same.

Good to know.  Just the same 2006 vs. 2010 is a much bigger difference than 2009 vs. 2010!!  Again, thanks for the input. I am flying blind here and you guys are really helpful.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 13, 2011, 10:29:15 AM
I AGREE Zon, Online SUCKS.  I am not very photogenic.  Nearly every woman I've met through the online universe (here in the U.S.) tells me I look "better" in person. 

So if the Online process SUCKS....what is your method?  Just show up in the country and mingle with some chicas and see what happens?
To each is own. Online is a convenient form of communication for what some would call the lazy, ignorant, and uninspired. And, maybe they'd be right. But oddly enough, is it not funny how you're reading about how online sucks on a board that is ... online? I'm not knocking the meeting women in person method. I actually envy guys who can do this successfully and consistently ... I just have yet to see or meet one in person who is really as good as he says he is. Regardless, no matter the method you choose, there is no shame but you want to do it well. Enough...

The point is meeting women online is a gold mine with tons of opportunity. Now you're not stuck with choices in your own city or anywhere within a reasonable driving distance ... now you can go interstate and international if you have the means. And you can do all this from the safety and comfort of your own home sitting in your underwear with a jar of peanut butter.  :o Scratch that.

Since you want to pursue this route, use it to your advantage. If you're not photogenic, learn to be. Take tons of pics to get use to being in front of a camera. Learn to hone your skills with writing profiles and e-mails to generate interest. Remember, the romance novel industry is not huge for no good reason, women love to read stories ... and moreso be able to place themselves in the story. They visualize things differently than we do. Keep that in mind when writing an e-mail. Instead of saying something like ... I saw your profile and I'm interested ... yawn ... say something like ... you know, after seeing your profile, I wondered if you'd make a good profesora de Salsa if I ever wanted to take lessons ... Ask her simple questions about herself that don't at first relate to the boring sh*t in her everyday life. And definitely a must ... make her laugh. Think of cutesy things you might say to your little sister, refine it if you have to, and apply here. Anything you can say to get her talking about something besides just throwing out the typical "...well look me up if you ever get to my country" is going to be a major plus above all the other boring gringos she's heard from today. This will also help to get a decent conversation going so you can quickly begin to see if she's a scam or not.

Sorry for the multiple edits ... I keep thinking of things to add to the mix and I'm not a big proof reader before hitting send.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 13, 2011, 10:54:46 AM
I AGREE Zon, Online SUCKS.  I am not very photogenic.  Nearly every woman I've met through the online universe (here in the U.S.) tells me I look "better" in person. 

So if the Online process SUCKS....what is your method?  Just show up in the country and mingle with some chicas and see what happens?

Unfortunatey, online does have some advantage over going there for the 1st time. 
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: beginthebeguin on February 13, 2011, 11:15:22 AM
Latinas have trouble expressing themselves on-line? Have any of the members here ever had this problem in the beginning? When we chat on-line I have noticed there are at times my girlfriend seems rather formal almost stilted in trying to express herself. It was quite noticable at first, but after months of near daily chatting I still get the impression that she is still having trouble letting herself 'get through' so to speak.

Video chats are quite different, the advantage of using images gives her an added way to express so to speak. I'm not sure the difficulty has to do with education, inclination or if it is a cultural thing.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Zon on February 13, 2011, 01:01:05 PM
Compared to similar sites that originate in Eastern Europe / Russia?  NO CONTEST.  Those women can write and express themselves perfectly.  You can fall in love with a photo and 5 letters ( I guess I am admitting my patterns)  Latinas?  attention deficit; live in the moment / do not value that which is not in their physical life right now; have difficulties with possibilities / abstractions. I have met very intelligent latinas - they do exist. But, most of the garden variety women are not running at full speed in the head.

Then there is the "guard-up" / assume the man is lying thing - which is HUGE. 

So, there it is.  Sure online can work.  I am not saying it can't.  I am saying it's a frustration.  Or, at least it has been for me. I have found myself "talking to" people I would never has chosen to speak to in the first place.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 13, 2011, 01:43:49 PM
I looked at the two profiles you posted and I compliment you on your good taste ;) There is something about Scorpio women that turns me on, too. Just out of curiosity (and not I'm not trying to pick you up) what is your sun sign? Mine is Taurus, 180 degrees opposite Scorpio, which creates a lot of sexual tension.
Just as a quick take on photos, I like your door number 2 a lot better. She seems more natural and unassuming and unpretentious. The photo date is 2006 but as stated before, so what, the camera might not even be set, and besides, at that age group, a few years one way or the other isn't that big of a deal. I like the idea that she hasn't gushed out her email and cell phone during the first email which is very common with many Colombianas.
Seems to me you're doing the right things, meeting some girls on line, learning the ins and outs of dating sites and generally increasing your knowledge each day. That's how we all do it and it's really the only way to success.
BTW, just for my 2 cents, ZON is a good poster but has an offbeat and often out of sync take on a lot of these topics. His input is worth considering but there are a couple others on this thread who I put more faith in.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 02:51:25 PM
I looked at the two profiles you posted and I compliment you on your good taste ;) There is something about Scorpio women that turns me on, too. Just out of curiosity (and not I'm not trying to pick you up) what is your sun sign? Mine is Taurus, 180 degrees opposite Scorpio, which creates a lot of sexual tension.
Just as a quick take on photos, I like your door number 2 a lot better. She seems more natural and unassuming and unpretentious. The photo date is 2006 but as stated before, so what, the camera might not even be set, and besides, at that age group, a few years one way or the other isn't that big of a deal. I like the idea that she hasn't gushed out her email and cell phone during the first email which is very common with many Colombianas.
Seems to me you're doing the right things, meeting some girls on line, learning the ins and outs of dating sites and generally increasing your knowledge each day. That's how we all do it and it's really the only way to success.

Thanks for the post Andy. Your on the ground posts from Colombia are very helpful.

I did NOT notice that both those ladies are scorpio.  Yet, both seem so very different.  I am Sagittarius but I honestly don't pay much attention to signs. Don't worry I know you are not trying to make a move on me!  

I agree that Chica #2 appears to be a better long term prospect.  That said, Chica #1 is very sexy.  
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 13, 2011, 03:48:23 PM
Ah, a Sag male....no wonder! :D The lady in door number one is a fake....she has made up a profile that means nothing to the universe.....my instincts and my intuition are screaming at me...please, for all that is remarkable about humanity, choose door number two! This is a girl who is sincere, homey without being homely, a campesino who is trustworthy, sincere, humble. She REALLY wants to meet the love of her life. You, the Sag, perfect match for her, the Scorp. Do not be dissuaded by false goddess at door number 1, she is not your girl, instead, explore number 2, she has proven her worth, do not be dissuaded by the date on her photo. Instead, ask her about her brothers and sisters, it is a humble story that will melt your heart. She is a bonafide person, she needs you.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: michaelb on February 13, 2011, 04:17:41 PM
Self-employed could be anything from selling accessories or selling in the flea market to cam prostitutes.

Most likely it means unemployed.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: william3rd on February 13, 2011, 04:45:08 PM
kinda like being a free lance. . . .
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 05:15:38 PM
Ah, a Sag male....no wonder! :D The lady in door number one is a fake....she has made up a profile that means nothing to the universe.....my instincts and my intuition are screaming at me...please, for all that is remarkable about humanity, choose door number two! This is a girl who is sincere, homey without being homely, a campesino who is trustworthy, sincere, humble. She REALLY wants to meet the love of her life. You, the Sag, perfect match for her, the Scorp. Do not be dissuaded by false goddess at door number 1, she is not your girl, instead, explore number 2, she has proven her worth, do not be dissuaded by the date on her photo. Instead, ask her about her brothers and sisters, it is a humble story that will melt your heart. She is a bonafide person, she needs you.

You make a convincing case for Girl No. 2.  Not that I needed convincing.  Thanks just the same!

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 05:31:43 PM
While I PREFER more than 1 photo....there are some girls that are so striking that I don't think twice about sending them a message.

These two come to mind.....although both have not been active in over a month so perhaps some other lucky S.O.B. has engaged their attention.

http://www.latinamericancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/840424


http://www.latinamericancupid.com/en/profile/showProfile/ID/575004
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 13, 2011, 05:35:38 PM
Ah, a Sag male....

For a few second, I thought I read a she-male  lol
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CeeTeeEnn on February 13, 2011, 05:39:10 PM
Regrettably, i find myself agreeing with Zon's comments. I tried the online thing with Latinas and didn't get very far. I never used Colombian Cupid but did use several other sites (some of which were Spanish only) and managed to accumulate a few new MSN and FB friends who I must admit i probably wouldn't have bothered swapping phone numbers with had I met in real life. I don't want to rehash the comments already made here about Latinas and their intelligence or education, but the level and quality of writing and communication i experienced from them were sorely lacking, save for perhaps 1-2 exceptions, and that's simply not good enough for me - period.

Of course intelligent, educated and resourceful Latinas do exist, but as of today are not likely to be found en masse on Latin dating sites. This may be due to their relative rarity and a certain sense of "dating site stigma" still present within many Latin societies. But for those Latina fanciers to whom education, career and intellectual development in a woman are must-have qualities for which other qualities offer no substitute, it looks like only two options are feasible. One is to trawl through (literally) thousands of profiles online until a handful of interesting contacts are made which then make a trip south worthwhile. The other is to simply fly out there to a capital or major city and then to network the old fashioned way within the cultural, business and academic circles until interesting contacts start to appear. Both options require time, expense, a knowledge of Spanish or Portuguese and a whole load of donkeywork; neither is for the faint-hearted. My hunch is that the second option would probably yield positive results faster than the former.

And this puts the whole exercise into focus. Is it worth your while suspending your career, life, interests etc. just to meet a woman on your mental level in a part of the world where they are not so easy to find? It's a tough question. For most guys, the answer would likely be no. For me, i have the freedom to travel (or will do at the end of the college year) plus the means to undertake such an exercise, but I'm also exploring other options. As someone who often finds the rumba-loving, playful, carinosa etc. side to Latinas somewhat nauseous, and also someone who likes women to be taller than average, my options in LA are limited. Certainly the women of the FSU possess many of the qualities that most Latinas lack, and although that part of the world is also no easy option for the faint-hearted, at least it's possible to get to know FSU women online in a more constructive manner than is the case with the majority of Latinas. Perhaps for the time-pressed traveller who demands a certain degree of education and culture in a woman, the FSU still presents a better option all-round.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Kiltboy1 on February 13, 2011, 07:17:08 PM
I met my wife online and was a very good experience and was able to give us the time to know us very well. With the exception of my ex Cali wife(distaster) who I met in an agency, I met all of my girlfriends online and most were very good experiences. I am very selective and picked apart most of them, but never  met a woman online I went to visit that did not turn out to be exactly as advertised, good people and sincere. I just did not meet any that made my heart pound until my wife. Online was a really blessing for me but Spanish was an absolute necessity

KB
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CalifSur on February 13, 2011, 07:29:22 PM
I met my wife online and was a very good experience and was able to give us the time to know us very well. With the exception of my ex Cali wife(distaster) who I met in an agency, I met all of my girlfriends online and most were very good experiences. I am very selective and picked apart most of them, but never  met a woman online I went to visit that did not turn out to be exactly as advertised, good people and sincere. I just did not meet any that made my heart pound until my wife. Online was a really blessing for me but Spanish was an absolute necessity

KB

KB: Good to hear of your "success" story through online means. 

Question for you about your approach: Did you just focus on ONE girl and interact for weeks/months until your first visit? Or, did you make numberous connections online and then fly down for several "first" dates?

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 13, 2011, 07:52:01 PM
KB: Good to hear of your "success" story through online means. 

Question for you about your approach: Did you just focus on ONE girl and interact for weeks/months until your first visit? Or, did you make numberous connections online and then fly down for several "first" dates?



I am not KB, but I focused on ONE girl and interacted for months until I meet her in Medellin.  It works for me, but it is risky to do it in case things do not work.  I prefer to get to know someone before meeting.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: robert angel on February 13, 2011, 08:42:49 PM
Until you actually go meet her in person, the experience is all too much like buying a dress suit from an on-line catalog.

Time and familiarity will improve your chances exponentially, but there's no substitute for getting your butt on the plane and going eye ball to eye ball. If all goes well, maybe you'll even get to 'tango' together.

If you're on-line long enough and move to cam, telephone and text, given enough time, your chance of meeting someone and if nothing else, having a great time, is a lot greater. Life's a trip where you don't know exactly what's going to happen, but nothing ventured, nothing gained and if nothing else, look at it as an 'interesting vacation' instead of a wasted journey.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Woody on February 13, 2011, 10:03:34 PM
It is worth noting that girl number two has been on CC for YEARS. Look at her profile ID number. I would not be surprised if the mirrored photo has been her picture for the entire time she has been on the site. Come to think of it, it probably isnt. Given her ID, she probably joined in 2004/2005.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Researcher on February 13, 2011, 10:30:34 PM



     Meeting women online is good,IMHO.It works for some guys and some don't care for it.My wife and I chatted alot online after we met.It is a good way to keep in touch, especially using a webcam.But I would not rely completely on it.Just like Roberto said, nothing beats meeting face to face. When I was looking I used every way there is to meet women but I always intended to meet them in person if things progressed to that point.


   Researcher
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 14, 2011, 04:47:00 AM
It is worth noting that girl number two has been on CC for YEARS. Look at her profile ID number. I would not be surprised if the mirrored photo has been her picture for the entire time she has been on the site. Come to think of it, it probably isnt. Given her ID, she probably joined in 2004/2005.


Your right... I have forgotten about ID number.  When I used the CC, I always avoid low ID numbers
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: william3rd on February 14, 2011, 04:53:03 AM
I met my wife online and was a very good experience and was able to give us the time to know us very well. . . . but never  met a woman online I went to visit that did not turn out to be exactly as advertised, good people and sincere. I just did not meet any that made my heart pound until my wife. Online was a really blessing for me but Spanish was an absolute necessity
KB

Yep- your experience mirrors my own- except for the continent. Online meeting through a service, going to cams,  and then a face to face. The insincere ones were pretty transparent on the site. I made two exploratory trips meeting two girls in person from the TLL site on the first trip and meeting my wife in person on the second trip.  Taking the relationship to live cam was essential.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: william3rd on February 14, 2011, 04:54:46 AM
Your right... I have forgotten about ID number.  When I used the CC, I always avoid low ID numbers

That is why certain scumbag agencies RECYCLE the numbers. Prevents the girl from aging and inflates their membership numbers
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Zon on February 14, 2011, 06:23:32 AM
I know some guys that met their wives online and they are excellent, and happy, and things could not be better.   I think that is great.  I am just saying it is more rare than less rare.  Plus, it does take a lot of work.  And, every single ingredient that your can control - photo; language; etc - adds to your success.  It is a lottery.

A little comment about "ZON is a good poster but has an offbeat and often out of sync take on a lot of these topics" And the notion of "regrettably, I have to agree with Zon on this point."  (by the way, I TAKE ABSOLUTELY NO OFFENSE)

For what it is worth, I used to have a more sunny disposition.  More romantic and hopeful that I could find my "soul mate" bla bla bla.  When I first was introduced to international dating, I thought I hit the jackpot.  "How could anybody screw this up!"  I thought I was going to be able to find my perfect woman bla bla bla.

Then, I got some real experience.  Then, I got some more.  You know what they say about seeing sausage getting made?  It tends to ruin you appetite.  So, yes, be hopeful and try.  Just take my occasional posts for what they are: counter-markers. 

Here is one from last week:  I was speaking with a 25 year old friend from Cali.  She speaks every language and is attractive - she's great.  She was a translator for many of the agencies for years.  When I told her I put my profile up on Colombian Cupid, she was dead silent.  I said, don't worry, I know what kind of girls are on there.  To which she replied "mentirosas"   And, I asked do you think the men are any better?  To which she replied "locos." (admittedly, she is right in my case:) Even though she is ambitious and needs the money, she says she does not translate for agencies anymore.  She said it bothered her too much.  So, take it for what it's worth - and happy hunting.

BTW - I have no agenda, or ax to grind.  When I read about a guy with stars in his eyes, I relate to him as me 3 years ago.  I try to pop the bubble gently just for reality's sake. 
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CeeTeeEnn on February 14, 2011, 10:45:01 AM
I certainly didn't mean to cause any offence, Zon. Quite the contrary - I am minded to agree with your findings in regard to meeting Latinas online, though i wish sincerely my own experiences could persuade me to take an opposing view.

I'm not as bright-eyed and positive about Latinas as I was when I started dating them in the early 90s, and if i had know back then what i know now I'd surely be in a different place today (of course that goes for everyone.) And I definitely think this forum needs some more healthy reality checks in order to help the newbies reach more informed decisions as to whether the option of pursuing Latinas and/or Colombianas is the right one for them, or if it's a worthwhile alternative to the other FW options - or for that matter the option of trying harder at home.

Interestingly, i also met a young lady online who worked as a translator for a certain well-known agency in BQ. Her younger sister got lucky though this agency, but she's still searching. She also has a jaded view of us gringos, thanks to the exploits of sex tourists, and also of most agency girls thanks to the depths some of them will plumb in order to make a fast buck out of these tourists. She no longer translates and is concentrating on completing her studies. I regard her as just about the most sincere and eligible Latina I met online out of the 150-odd i wrote to some two years ago.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 14, 2011, 03:18:19 PM
There are good points in this thread, both for and against online searching and for and against Latinas. Some things I agree with:
1. Many FSU women generally seem better educated and more intelligent/conversant than many Latinas. I think it has to do with the greater degree of emphasis on education in the FSU where many women have more than one college degree, whereas few Latinas have access to free university educations.
2. It is terribly difficult to build an online conversation with a Latina when she talks in one or two line messages. After the first one or two of these "briefs" I just stop responding to the girl.
3. I find using the advanced search mechanism on Cupid is very effective. It automatically filters the profile information that I want (high school or above, my zodiac choices, pictures, etc.) The advanced search  eliminates about 75% of the field. Then a quick scan of the pictures (and to see if they are obviously dumb, unemployed, self-employed or hairdressers) eliminates another 75%. Out of 1000 girls I could have looked at I might only look at 200 and place an interest on only 50. then on my second go through of the 50 the next day I eliminate another 50% so I'm left with 25 out of a thousand that I contact directly with my stock intro letter. I've not measured it but I'm guessing I get about a 25%-35% response rate that actually turns into letter writing. If the response is just her email address and cell number and "I like your profile" I hit delete. I'm looking for a significant and meaningful conversation from the very first email. If I get three good emails from her then I give her my email address and ask to meet her on gmail cam chat or Skype cam chat.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 14, 2011, 03:26:55 PM
The reason I don't give out my email address until the 3rd or 4th good letter is because so many of these girls love to send FORWARDED religious tracts that have like a million people in the address line. If I get one of these from a girl I automatically send her email to filter and spam.
another reason is because I don't want my inbox cluttered up with names of girls I don't recognize. On their profile they might say their name is Lorena but their real name is Dafney and their email address is Amparo so it clutters things up if I have to send her an email and ask Who Are You?
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: fathertime on February 14, 2011, 03:55:26 PM
3. I find using the advanced search mechanism on Cupid is very effective. It automatically filters the profile information that I want (high school or above, my zodiac choices, pictures, etc.) The advanced search  eliminates about 75% of the field. Then a quick scan of the pictures (and to see if they are obviously dumb, unemployed, self-employed or hairdressers) eliminates another 75%. Out of 1000 girls I could have looked at I might only look at 200 and place an interest on only 50. then on my second go through of the 50 the next day I eliminate another 50% so I'm left with 25 out of a thousand that I contact directly with my stock intro letter. 

Andylee, 

are you kidding us?  You are eliminating ladies based of their 'zodiac' sign and  also are eliminating other ladies that are 'obviously dumb'?   
Being eliminated based on being self-employed or a hairdresser seems rather odd too.  Do you have an evil ex-wife that was an self-employed hairdresser.  I can see you are bald but why so much hate for the hairdressers?
I gotta say, the processes people are using to find a woman are cracking me up.   

Fathertime!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: beginthebeguin on February 14, 2011, 04:56:59 PM
The 2nd lonliest day of the year must be Valentine's Day. I saw an 12-1 ratio of men to women logged-on at another latin dating site just a few hours ago.  :-\
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 14, 2011, 05:01:44 PM
If the response is just her email address and cell number and "I like your profile" I hit delete. I'm looking for a significant and meaningful conversation from the very first email. If I get three good emails from her then I give her my email address and ask to meet her on gmail cam chat or Skype cam chat.
Yeah no kidding, Andy. One would think your qualifications might be searching for a western gringa whom by default might be expected to possess at least 75% of these pre-requisites. And given my short time on this board thus far, I'm beginning to believe you'll be lucky to get a woman with 50% ... and this without her even being astrologically compatible.

I started a thread last night asking what did you give up (if anything) with your Latina. I was hoping the replies would help bring some clarity with helping to form a laundry list to what one could expect when pursuing a Latina vs. a western gringa (for example). Nonetheless, this is your search however, I do wish you luck, and I hope you will post on your findings with it...
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: ignorante on February 15, 2011, 08:42:24 AM
Are the colombiacupid profiles also on latinamericacupid, which includes Colombia and other countries, or are the two not related in that way?
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Woody on February 15, 2011, 10:19:12 AM
Are the colombiacupid profiles also on latinamericacupid, which includes Colombia and other countries, or are the two not related in that way?

Independent sites. Sign up for both, decide which one has the most women you are interested in, pay for that one. Same owner, but subscriptions are not cross site.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 15, 2011, 11:36:03 AM
one thing you need to know when  you are in ColombianCupid.  You will probably received lots of "Who's Interested In Me"

Also look at "Who Viewed My Profile" from these ladies who are in your "Who's Interested In Me"

If these ladies who are in your "Who's Interested In Me" list, but they are not in your "Who Viewed My Profile", then they are not realy interested in you.   I believe if they are interested in you, they should at least look at your profie
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 15, 2011, 11:47:34 AM
3. I find using the advanced search mechanism on Cupid is very effective. It automatically filters the profile information that I want (high school or above, my zodiac choices, pictures, etc.) The advanced search  eliminates about 75% of the field. Then a quick scan of the pictures (and to see if they are obviously dumb, unemployed, self-employed or hairdressers) eliminates another 75%.

I don't really understand why you need to eliminate ladies based on zodiac signs.   One of these ladies whom you eliminated might be your true love. 
My current girlfriend - 16th December but my ex-prometida - 14th December, so should I eliminated Sagittarrus before I met my current novia ???

Eliminate hairdressers?  Because you are bald?  Don't need your hair done ??   (Fathertime: Same thought lol)

"Self-employed" can be anything.   Worst case scernio:  cam prostitutes.   My novia works onoccassions as grooming for young girls mainly for communion, 15th birthday .....................and also works in accessories, so should I eliminated her before I met her?


Andy, to get to the point, if I had followed your posting, I would have:

eliminated Sagittarius
eliminated self-employed (fear for cam prostotutes)

then I would never have met my novia!!


Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: ignorante on February 18, 2011, 09:16:33 AM
I believe if they are interested in you, they should at least look at your profie

 ;D  I would think so!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 18, 2011, 10:48:53 AM
  Do you have an evil ex-wife that was an self-employed hairdresser.  I can see you are bald but why so much hate for the hairdressers?
I gotta say, the processes people are using to find a woman are cracking me up.   

Fathertime!
BINGO! My ex was self employed hairdresser......but for another reason, too. Here in Colombia the hair dressers are very low paid in most cases and work horrendous hours. Unless there are other factors that are way in their favor I won't date a Colombian hairdresser, or a Colombiana who owns a sidewalk arepa stand.

Yes, I use astrology, and after dating over 100 women (counting the ones I've had  more than 2 dates) in the last 10 years I'm convinced astrology helps me pick women who will more likely be compatible with me. I'm Taurus and I don't date Gemini, Sagittarius, Aries or Pisces. I hesitate to date Cancer, Leo, Aquarius and Libra. My preferred dates are Scorpio, Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus.

Everybody has to believe in something. I believe I'll live in Colombia and date wonderful women who are prettier and younger than any I could possibly date in my home country.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 18, 2011, 11:48:35 AM
Yes, I use astrology, and after dating over 100 women

That's explains!

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: vallenatoman on February 18, 2011, 08:53:49 PM
BINGO! My ex was self employed hairdresser......but for another reason, too. Here in Colombia the hair dressers are very low paid in most cases and work horrendous hours. Unless there are other factors that are way in their favor I won't date a Colombian hairdresser, or a Colombiana who owns a sidewalk arepa stand.

Yes, I use astrology, and after dating over 100 women (counting the ones I've had  more than 2 dates) in the last 10 years I'm convinced astrology helps me pick women who will more likely be compatible with me. I'm Taurus and I don't date Gemini, Sagittarius, Aries or Pisces. I hesitate to date Cancer, Leo, Aquarius and Libra. My preferred dates are Scorpio, Virgo, Capricorn and Taurus.

Everybody has to believe in something. I believe I'll live in Colombia and date wonderful women who are prettier and younger than any I could possibly date in my home country.

Hey andy

Well i just have to say you can do what you like of course but

I have found 99% of anything astrology has not been correct.

Most people who check their sign i have talked to say "That isnt me" or i know they are opposite of what their sign "says" so i dont if you should BASE all your choices on that i think youll lose out.

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 19, 2011, 12:54:34 AM
That's explains!
Explains what?  ::) The guy is using a method to land a few dates? He's obviously enjoying himself. Give him a break!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 19, 2011, 05:08:56 AM
Explains what?  ::) The guy is using a method to land a few dates? He's obviously enjoying himself. Give him a break!
thanks euf, you got it.

Reread my original post and you will see the question had to do with narrowing the field of choices. Even in my age group there are still thousands of choices in Colombia. Rather than wade through them all I narrow the field with some quick advanced search techniques. The 10% or less of the profiles that make it into my final search field are the ones from which I can pick the ones most suited to me. This way I don't waste my time or their time. I already know, and this is just one example that pertains JUST to me, that I am not going to hit it off with a Sagittarius woman so I don't even bother contacting her or responding to her if she contacts me. Same with Aries and Gemini. However, one of my close friends LOVES these three signs.

I may have already told this story on here before, so forgive me if it is repeated. After 10 years in the US with about 5 dates I joined Match.com. The first week I searched through about 2000 profiles in the mid-Atlantic and sent out 176 introductory letters and winks. The first six responses were "thanks but no thanks", and the few other responses weren't much better. After a month I had actually scored one date, with a fat woman who's picture was nowhere near what she actually looked like. Anybody else ever have a stunning success like that?
The next month I joined ColombianCupid and posted my profile and photographs, essentially the same pictures and descriptions I had used in Match.com. Then I started searching. To say the least I was overwhelmed by the number of choices. I was like a kid in a candy store. The first day I sent out something like 250 winks and introductory letters. Jeez, I got 10 GOOD replies that night and 20 more the next day! It took me days to straighten out which ones I was really interested in. As it turned out only 5 of those original 30 were of real interest to me.
After that experience I started using the filtering techniques in advanced search. By the way, one of the 5 turned out to be my girlfriend for several months and it might have lasted longer if I hadn't had all these other choices to turn my head.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 19, 2011, 06:55:45 AM
Explains what?  ::) The guy is using a method to land a few dates? He's obviously enjoying himself. Give him a break!

Yes, but based on Astrology, got to be kidding!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Colgando on February 19, 2011, 09:41:08 AM
Yes, but based on Astrology, got to be kidding!

To each his own Gato!  What works for some, does not work for others, life is a little crazy like that sometimes.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 19, 2011, 09:57:56 AM
Yes, but based on Astrology, got to be kidding!
I check bra size, too ;)
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 19, 2011, 10:11:28 AM
To each his own Gato!  What works for some, does not work for others, life is a little crazy like that sometimes.

Yes work for illogical reasons.  Based on astrology, you could have missed out meeting your Miss Right.

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 19, 2011, 10:12:22 AM
I check bra size, too ;)


very funny!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 20, 2011, 08:16:59 AM
Yes work for illogical reasons.  Based on astrology, you could have missed out meeting your Miss Right.
Illogical why? Because you don't believe in it?  ::) Based on astrology as only partial criteria, he (not you) is meeting and dating the kind of women he likes. Has it occurred to you that there are other readers like him who have taken an interest in this thread? Like I said before ... get off it and give the guy a break!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 20, 2011, 08:25:35 AM
Illogical why? Because you don't believe in it?  ::) Based on astrology as only partial criteria, he (not you) is meeting and dating the kind of women he likes. Has it occurred to you that there are other readers like him who have taken an interest in this thread? Like I said before ... get off it and give the guy a break!

I don't think you understand.  If you had used his way, you might never have met your Gloria!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: mudd on February 20, 2011, 08:29:58 AM
i really don't believe in it,  but i had a friend who had a friend who was,,,,, how to say, a little different.  he was into astrology and birthdates and times etc. he wasn't the most socially progressive guy, but i kid you not. even how strange it was to talk with this guy, he could take your birthdate and time of birth, and tell your personality, and a girl you were dating, take her birthdate and time and tell you 80% of their personality traits and if you two were compatible.

i thought it was complete krap, so my friend called him by phone, we were sitting there, me, my friend jay  and a two girlfriends of mine. he asked everybody birthdates, and basically described everybodys personalities whitin about 80% accurate. i was flabbergasted and still couldn't believe it. so he asked me if i had kids, which i have 2. he asked their birthdates, which i told him, and then he described their personalities pretty close to what they were, even knew my daughter was more street smart than her brother, where he is more book smart and he knew my daughter was left handed.   too strange.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 20, 2011, 09:20:21 AM
I don't think you understand.  If you had used his way, you might never have met your Gloria!
This is pointless ... and still I dare to persist.  ::) Gato ... I know you don't understand. How I met Glory is not relavent in this thread ... because I am not stating I used any methods. The man is simply stating here that he uses astrology as partial ... read it again ... partial criteria to match himself and weed out women he believes are incompatible with him on a dating site(s). He has posted another thread to further explain his method ... take it or leave it. Now stay with me here because this is the most important point ...

He appears to be having a comfortable level of success that is working for him ... not you ... not anyone else.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 20, 2011, 11:24:11 AM
This is pointless ... and still I dare to persist.  ::) Gato ... I know you don't understand. How I met Glory is not relavent in this thread ... because I am not stating I used any methods. The man is simply stating here that he uses astrology as partial ... read it again ... partial criteria to match himself and weed out women he believes are incompatible with him on a dating site(s). He has posted another thread to further explain his method ... take it or leave it. Now stay with me here because this is the most important point ...

He appears to be having a comfortable level of success that is working for him ... not you ... not anyone else.

I am not talking about how you have met Gloria, but all I am saying if you had used Andy's method's of eliminating ladies based on Astrology, you might never have met your 'Gloria'

Once again it is very illogical reason to eliminate ladies based on astrology. 
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 20, 2011, 01:07:45 PM
Once again it is very illogical reason to eliminate ladies based on astrology. 
Uh, yeah, but, then.....what's logical? What's logical for you works for millions of other people, what's logical for me works for other millions more.....
I'm reminded of a man who once told me how "judgmental" I am for choosing dates partly based on their astrological profile. These are just my personal preferences and don't help or hinder anyone else from using their own method(s).
When I look at a profile there are SO MANY chances for her to win my interest. First is her photograph. If no photograph or not attractive to me then I hit delete. Second is her education. If she is primary or secondary-school drop out then I hit delete (I value intelligence higher than I value attractiveness). If she is unemployed or dramatically underemployed (i.e. has bachelor's degree but working as "domestic helper"), has more than two kids, states her goal in life is to have breast implants and a career, and so forth. Astrology is just one of many of my criteria.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: JimD on February 20, 2011, 04:33:37 PM
Gato I don´t buy into that astrology crapola either, I always throw the I Ching.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Woody on February 20, 2011, 06:03:44 PM
Once again it is very illogical reason to eliminate ladies based on astrology. 

Not really illogical. The thing is, belief by us isn't required for it to work. Andy believes, therefore it is relevant to HIM. The mind works in funny ways, you really believe that something will happen, you tend to stack the deck to make it happen.

Our belief is not required, all that is required is HIS belief and astrology will work for him.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: utopiacowboy on February 20, 2011, 09:42:36 PM
Gato, you assume that the Colombianas themselves are all rationalists as well. Far from the case. Even my college-educated wife believes in the power of brujas and la brujeria. So a belief in astrology is not too far out of line with their mindset anyway.
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: CeeTeeEnn on February 20, 2011, 09:45:31 PM
I don't buy into any of it either, though i sometimes speculate if a mother's overall physiology is influenced in some way by earthly seasonal factors and what impact this might have on the development of her baby.

Also, don't forget also that some women may be choosing their partners according to astrology. I wouldn't regard it as a sign of inspiring mental competence, but then again i am something of a hard ass to please in that department.

Still, if you can persuade a woman like that of the "extra special conditions" that happened at the time of your conception and birth, throw in some scientific mumbo jumbo, and mention that these conditions influenced the Asian bond markets and even made your healing crystals change colour...  you never know, she might just let you play her like a violin!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Bob_S on February 21, 2011, 10:13:17 AM
she might just let you play her like a violin!
Play her like a violin or bang her like a drum?  ;D

Sorry.  (http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-ashamed005.gif) (http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys.php)
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 21, 2011, 10:40:54 AM
For some people, believe whatever you like, but if you had eliminated ladies based on Astrology, you might have never met your wives/current girlfriend/prometida.

If they said that Leo should eliminate Sagarrittus, then I wouldn't have met my Astrid.  It is based on lies - not scientific facts.

If you people believe in it, why don't you try to eliminate ladies based on it!!

Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: euforia51 on February 21, 2011, 11:52:28 AM
If they said that Leo should eliminate Sagarrittus, then I wouldn't have met my Astrid.
Whew! Fortunately for you, "they" didn't say that. Leo is compatible with Sagittarius!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: Gato4Astrid on February 21, 2011, 12:30:01 PM
Whew! Fortunately for you, "they" didn't say that. Leo is compatible with Sagittarius!
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My ex-novia's birthday is only 2 days difference with my current girlfriend and they are both Sagirrarius!!
Title: Re: Colombia Cupid my next step and still leaves me wondering how guys feel
Post by: AndyLee on February 21, 2011, 02:05:19 PM
Gato, you are so in luck, I actually envy you........I think what I originally said was "Taurus (me) does not get along well with Sagg". If I said anything other than that I sincerely apologize....
here's to you mate ;)
Leo and Sagittarius:
Sagittarius will be drawn to Leo’s intensity and wild side. Both love to play with fire and neither will mind using flattery to get sex. They get along great as friends and lovers and a strong attraction could lead to a long-term love. A love of the good life and lots of laughter will be experienced together. Children and animals will be involved in this relationship. Finally, both have found someone that matches their stamina, in and out of the bedroom. Sex could be explosive and will be a reason to keep coming back to one another. Friends will also say they look great together. If they are looking for great sex, stop the search and get going already. They don’t need to look anymore. Friends, it really does not ever get any better than this!