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[CyberGlitch]

Well, newly divorced after 10 years and seeking new love abroud. Have signed up at DateInAsia and talking to a few women in China. Just wanted to drop my introduction and if anyone has any tips I'm all ears.

[z_k_g]

Well, newly divorced after 10 years and seeking new love abroud. Have signed up at DateInAsia and talking to a few women in China. Just wanted to drop my introduction and if anyone has any tips I'm all ears.

Welcome to the Board CG!

DIA is a great free resource, but you will have to do a lot of weeding to get to a good match!

Just be patient and keep your red flag meter working.

Create a set of standards and make sure you apply them to each of the women you meet.

Good Luck!

Zulu

[Jeff S]

Hi Cyber and welcome. We've all been where you are, well many of us. I haven't ever been divorced, but certainly got fed up with the slim pickings here in the US for quality wife material.

China has really come into its own lately. It reminds me a lot of Japan in the 1970s - vibrant, optimistic, and balancing the traditional culture and ideas with modern life. It's a great place to visit, safe, exotic, inexpensive, and fascinating, and has no shortage of beautiful and devoted single women, too.

There's tons of great info here on P/L. Spend a few hours reading through the archives.

We're happy you're here and am looking forward to your participation.

- Jeff

[Ray]

Hi Glitch!


     

Ray

[z_k_g]

...if anyone has any tips I'm all ears.

Oh yeah, I forgot......Read the archives!

Did someone already say that? 

Zulu

[Tanuki]

One new member to another;

Yes, read the archives.  You will find a lot of great information that will help you in your search.  It took me a while but, I am very thankful that I did.  Plus, you'll learn about many of the colorful characters who post on this forum (mean it in the most kindest of ways).

In my search, I had established some criteria up front, took it slow and easy.  I have been search for a while but; now, I have been talking to one nice lady exclusively. I hope for the best but, I am mindful what might be potential red flags.  That is why reading the archives is important.  You can find out what some of those red flags might be.

Good luck!  And, I wish you well in your search.

Tanuki

[piglett]

welcome to the board Cyber i found my wife in the Philippines so if you don't end up finding what you looking for in China try a little further south where many of the ladies already speek english 


best of luck
piglett

[Bob_S]

Welcome to the adventure, CG.  Lots of cheerleaders here for their own favorite country.  Ignore the riffraff, stick with what you like and where you think you'd be most comfortable.  If China's your thing, there's guys here who've been there done that.  But, as always, read the archives first.  It may answer a lot of your questions, even those you haven't thought of yet.

[Researcher]

  Hi Glitch, welcome to the board. I've been where you are and finding a wife in another country was the best decision I have ever made....


    Researcher

[z_k_g]

welcome to the board Cyber i found my wife in the Philippines so if you don't end up finding what you looking for in China try a little further south where many of the ladies already speek english 


best of luck
piglett

Hey Porkie,

Bob has elevated your status from Pig to riffraff!!  lol

Zulu

[CyberGlitch]

I've always been intriuged by the chinese culture. Years ago I started to learn mandarin on my own for no other reason then to just know some. I need to pick it up again though and learn more now.

I've got a few women from the Philippines sending me messages. I'll still chat with and see how things go, so I'm not fully closed minded.

[CyberGlitch]

Ok, wow. A girl from the Philippines messaged me and we started chatting over yahoo. Then we both had webcams so we could see other but continued to type. We must of sat there and talked for a good 3 hours. Now I can't stop looking at her picture and profile on DiA. 

[Jedironin]

Hey Porkie,

Bob has elevated your status from Pig to riffraff!!  lol

Zulu

So... can we just call him "Riff", or will it have to be "Mr. Raff" from now on?         

 

[robert angel]

Hey CG,

Welcome. In some ways, the beginning--the search itself as the journey of discovery unwinds and then the first time you visit 'the one' in her home country, those are the best of times, so enjoy these 'once in a lifetime' experiences.

You'll get all kinds of advice here and only you and time can determine what will turn out to be the correct advice. You'll have to base 'correct' on what's best for you--different stroke for different folks..

However there's one thing 99% of the people here will tell you that you can bet is correct and will never hurt you.

"Don't drink the water"

[thekfc]

Hi CG,
Welcome to the Planet.

Good advice in the post above mine.

[robert angel]

Re:

>>as always, read the archives first.  It may answer a lot of your questions, even those you haven't thought of yet<<

Yup, As usual, Bob_S is right. It's all pretty much 'reruns' here. Instead of waiting for what might be useful you to show up here, do dig in the archives. Lot's of good stuff, wicked poop and chuckles to be had in there.

In the mean time, if you have specific unanswered questions, bring em on--the usual peanut gallery will be here, along with its wise crackers.

[z_k_g]

So... can we just call him "Riff", or will it have to be "Mr. Raff" from now on?         

 

Jedi,

I'm Highly respectful of his porkiness!

he's still Mr. Porky Pig!!!   

Zulu

[piglett]

So... can we just call him "Riff", or will it have to be "Mr. Raff" from now on?         

 

Jedi,

I'm Highly respectful of his porkiness!

he's still Mr. Porky Pig!!!   

Zulu

Hey Porkie,

Bob has elevated your status from Pig to riffraff!!  lol

Zulu

as long as no one says "hey can you pass the bacon?" i'm good to go

[Bob_S]

So... can we just call him "Riff", or will it have to be "Mr. Raff" from now on?         

Just Riff, but only if he knows how to Time Warp.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ff0cOPSpVA

[piglett]

i'm not much of a dancer but i'll try most anything once

pig

[CyberGlitch]

Ok, maybe I just got very lucky. There were 1 or 2 girls I was talking to, 1 Chinese 1 pinay. Only the Chinese girl continued to chat with me and still does most days but it's a slow boring conversation. For now it also seems she only interested in find new friends to chat with when she is bored. I'm fine with that for the most part since you never know where that friendship could lead.

Another pinay messaged me and we started chatting on yahoo and really hit it off. Started using the webcam to see each other but continue to text. We've had some lengthy conversation about whatever comes up. I've made sure to ask some general questions I wanted to know as well. No red flags at all have come up. She only signed up just last week. A friend talked her into it. That friend, I actually met today, used DiA and ended up getting married. She is very laid back and easy going, we seem to get along very well. Right now I look forward to the mornings when I get to work so we can talk. I know that sounds crazy so soon.

Is this a 1 in a million coincidence here?

[Bob_S]

Is this a 1 in a million coincidence here?

Not coincidence, par for the course.  It's a common story in these here parts.  Enjoy the ride!

[CyberGlitch]

Yea, I mean today was great. I enjoy picking on her and her friend as they fought for the keyboard to tell me stuff. I think my pinay got a little jelous at the time, I told her not to worry. Now I look forward to our conversation. She promised to sing me happy birthday next week for the big 30. Haven't heard her voice yet. Even started to learn some tagalog with her.

I guess the biggest thing is the huge difference in response. When I first got divorced I put up a profile on plentyoffish. For a week or 2 I was seeking out people to hang out with. Nothing. I said screw it, the profile is up there and if someone is interested they'll msg me. I just put up my profile on DiA on Friday and have 1 I'm really interested in now.

[jm21-2]

I guess the biggest thing is the huge difference in response. When I first got divorced I put up a profile on plentyoffish. For a week or 2 I was seeking out people to hang out with. Nothing. I said screw it, the profile is up there and if someone is interested they'll msg me. I just put up my profile on DiA on Friday and have 1 I'm really interested in now.

With plenty of fish, and probably any domestic dating site, the onus is definitely on you as a guy to go after the girl. Those sites are basically lying bastards that use all sorts of tricks to get people to sign up and pay. Typically there will be some sort of trick mechanism that flags the site they "visited" when they sign in to yahoo messenger, facebook, or something like that (i.e. they really didn't actually sign into the site, but it says they did). A lot of the girls already have boyfriends or whatever but because of the way the sites work it makes it seem like they're visiting a lot and still looking. But try to message them and they never respond because they gave up on the site or found someone long ago. Do a search for the most recently created profiles and you will see a whole world of difference.

But I think online dating domestically is a bit difficult in the under-30 range. Younger girls view it as desperate to do online dating. When they get in their 30's and still aren't married they become willing to try new things.

[z_k_g]

i'm not much of a dancer but i'll try most anything once

pig

Porky,

Can you dance with those boots on? 

Zulu