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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #25 on: April 21, 2014, 09:09:46 AM »

Some people's marriages last, some don't.  That's life.  But you can't go into a marriage halfway.  That's just setting yourself up for failure.  It's like you're acknowledging from the very beginning that the relationship isn't based on true love and devotion.


If you're thinking "oh I can't bring her to my country and sponsor her green card because she'll probably leave me", then you're OBVIOUSLY WITH A WOMAN WHO YOU DON'T BELIEVE TRULY LOVES YOU.  If you find yourself in that situation, then it's like that guy said earlier, you might as well get yourself a hooker.

I don't think you've been married, much less divorced. Not sure how old you are, but life and experiences can change a person's perspective. It's called learning from experience.

I don't think that even with some guys getting prenuptial agreements (I didn't) and all, that many figure on marrying someone and her leaving once she gets her green card. I don't think that many even marry thinking about divorce down the line. It's certainly not a good idea to marry someone if you think you're going to get divorced. But especially if you've been through that, you know it's very possible, no matter how wonderfully things start out.

Never mind marriage, the fact of life is that very few things last forever. I live my life one day at a time and try not to get too far ahead of myself. I've got it good now and it's been that way for a pretty long time, but I've had it like that before and it's gone bad. So rather than dwell on it now, I just thank my lucky stars for what I have and tell myself that if things ever do go bad, I had a pretty good run of luck, including great times that most men never experience and to just be thankful for that.
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #26 on: April 21, 2014, 10:15:15 AM »
I don't think you've been married, much less divorced. Not sure how old you are, but life and experiences can change a person's perspective. It's called learning from experience.

I don't think that even with some guys getting prenuptial agreements (I didn't) and all, that many figure on marrying someone and her leaving once she gets her green card. I don't think that many even marry thinking about divorce down the line. It's certainly not a good idea to marry someone if you think you're going to get divorced. But especially if you've been through that, you know it's very possible, no matter how wonderfully things start out.

Never mind marriage, the fact of life is that very few things last forever. I live my life one day at a time and try not to get too far ahead of myself. I've got it good now and it's been that way for a pretty long time, but I've had it like that before and it's gone bad. So rather than dwell on it now, I just thank my lucky stars for what I have and tell myself that if things ever do go bad, I had a pretty good run of luck, including great times that most men never experience and to just be thankful for that.
I think being married, especially married with children is humbling. what you've described is true for me too. one day at a time...

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #27 on: April 21, 2014, 11:56:39 AM »
I think being married, especially married with children is humbling. what you've described is true for me too. one day at a time...

Thanks. Another thing I noticed is that I used to look at how crazy parents seemed to me about things like school, sports and other events. They seemed really over the top. Now I understand--I am one of them.

I also was pretty good at looking at other people's kids and thinking "OMG--if I had kids to raise, they'd NEVER behave like that!". Well, well---unless you raise your children in solitary confinement, society--other kids and the media, are going to have an effect on how they turn out. You can mitigate it somewhat, but you can't eliminate the effects all together.

My wife looks at how respectful, appreciative and well behaved kids are back home. When she saw how my USA born kids are, she was taken aback a bit. Then she saw Filipina families who raised their kids here, families that seemed to do all the right things, yet had kids that made our boys look like angels.

Also, both my sons are usually fine young men, but genetics is a roll of the dice and you never know what you're going to get. Aside from pure genetics, their behavior styles can be very different. In our case, they both have different strengths and weaknesses. Fortunately, they don't have things like autism or mental illness--there's a lot of that nowadays.
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #28 on: April 21, 2014, 12:23:21 PM »
I don't think you've been married, much less divorced. Not sure how old you are, but life and experiences can change a person's perspective. It's called learning from experience.

I always refer to second marriages as "The triumph of hope over experience".
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #29 on: April 21, 2014, 12:51:42 PM »
There are certain members here who if they don't live abroad with their wives or woman/women of choice, would like to.

Some members here do live with their wives overseas.

There are a fair amount of members here who feel that the key to making a relationship last is NOT bringing her to their home country, i.e. the USA.

There are some people like me (and my wife) who actually have a home abroad and as time goes by, find the idea of living there most of the time less and less appealing.

I think the guys who've spent a lot of time overseas, including those married to women from overseas, find the thought of living there permanently less appealing over time.

After the newness of the differences wears off and you grasp the realities of life elsewhere, it can lose its luster.

Never mind  missing products and everyday services or being annoyed with the  infrastructure in general--we know too many people, young and old alike from overseas who immigrated here and without extraordinary measures by our standards, overcame things like cancer, heart attacks and heart disease--things that they say would've been certain death sentences back in their home countries. Think about that.

What you say may be true of the Phillipines but it certainly doesn't apply to Colombia. I couldn't be happier living here and have no desire what so ever to return to live in the US ever. I would be bored stiff. There's just about nothing I can't get here (we have Pricesmarts brimming with American products) and I couldn't ask for better medical services. With my top of the line private insurence I have quick access to the best doctors, specialists and hospitals in Cali and all for a premium of about $175 US a month. I also have a hot twenty year old girlfriend I've been seeing for a year and if her luster ever wears off there's an endless parade of others available. I've cut my annual visits to the US down to about a week and even that's too long.

Regarding the Phillipines though I don't dissagree with you. I've really never heard anything good about them.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #30 on: April 21, 2014, 05:30:30 PM »
What you say may be true of the Phillipines but it certainly doesn't apply to Colombia. I couldn't be happier living here and have no desire what so ever to return to live in the US ever. I would be bored stiff. There's just about nothing I can't get here (we have Pricesmarts brimming with American products) and I couldn't ask for better medical services. With my top of the line private insurence I have quick access to the best doctors, specialists and hospitals in Cali and all for a premium of about $175 US a month. I also have a hot twenty year old girlfriend I've been seeing for a year and if her luster ever wears off there's an endless parade of others available. I've cut my annual visits to the US down to about a week and even that's too long.


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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #31 on: April 21, 2014, 05:49:12 PM »
I don't think you've been married, much less divorced. Not sure how old you are, but life and experiences can change a person's perspective. It's called learning from experience.

I don't think that even with some guys getting prenuptial agreements (I didn't) and all, that many figure on marrying someone and her leaving once she gets her green card. I don't think that many even marry thinking about divorce down the line. It's certainly not a good idea to marry someone if you think you're going to get divorced. But especially if you've been through that, you know it's very possible, no matter how wonderfully things start out.





What was your reason for quoting my post?  You didn't even disagree with anything I said.


I'll say it again.  Anybody who's of the mindset, "I don't want to bring my wife to the usa because I think she'll get her green card and then leave my ass" is obviously not convinced that the woman is with him because of true love.  Therefore a guy like that is already accepting that the woman is with him for something other than true love.  If it isn't true love then it must be money, hence he might as well be with a hooker.  I'm not saying anything is wrong with that.  I'm sure plenty of men are in that same situation and are extremely happy.  Especially the ones that keep two or three novias at the same time.  To each his own.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #32 on: April 21, 2014, 06:13:36 PM »
I'll say it again.  Anybody who's of the mindset, "I don't want to bring my wife to the usa because I think she'll get her green card and then leave my ass" is obviously not convinced that the woman is with him because of true love.  Therefore a guy like that is already accepting that the woman is with him for something other than true love.  If it isn't true love then it must be money, hence he might as well be with a hooker.  I'm not saying anything is wrong with that.  I'm sure plenty of men are in that same situation and are extremely happy.  Especially the ones that keep two or three novias at the same time.  To each his own.


Yeah, I agree 100%... I guess some guys are happy being married to a young, hot interesada and that's ok. I just don't really get it myself. Why marry someone you can't even trust? What's the point? Hookers are much cheaper in the long run and certainly will save you a lot of stress...  ;D 
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #33 on: April 21, 2014, 06:43:24 PM »

Yeah, I agree 100%... I guess some guys are happy being married to a young, hot interesada and that's ok. I just don't really get it myself. Why marry someone you can't even trust? What's the point? Hookers are much cheaper in the long run and certainly will save you a lot of stress...  ;D


Intersada, hooker, not much differnce there.  Actually, it's not a bad lifestyle to keep a few beautiful novias hanging around.  And there are so many of them down there, you can change them up and rotate them out as you wish.  As long as you can afford it and you don't lie to yourself that the relationships are more than what they really are.  Of course you don't have to leave the country to do that, the only difference is that lifestyle in the states would be more expensive.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #34 on: April 21, 2014, 06:44:07 PM »
What you say may be true of the Phillipines but it certainly doesn't apply to Colombia. I couldn't be happier living here and have no desire what so ever to return to live in the US ever. I would be bored stiff. There's just about nothing I can't get here (we have Pricesmarts brimming with American products) and I couldn't ask for better medical services. With my top of the line private insurence I have quick access to the best doctors, specialists and hospitals in Cali and all for a premium of about $175 US a month. I also have a hot twenty year old girlfriend I've been seeing for a year and if her luster ever wears off there's an endless parade of others available. I've cut my annual visits to the US down to about a week and even that's too long.


Regarding the Phillipines though I don't dissagree with you. I've really never heard anything good about them.

That's great--sounds like you have a really good thing going that'd be just the ticket for some guys here--really.
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #35 on: April 21, 2014, 06:45:41 PM »
I'll say it again.  Anybody who's of the mindset, "I don't want to bring my wife to the usa because I think she'll get her green card and then leave my ass" is obviously not convinced that the woman is with him because of true love.  Therefore a guy like that is already accepting that the woman is with him for something other than true love.  If it isn't true love then it must be money, hence he might as well be with a hooker. I'm not saying anything is wrong with that.  I'm sure plenty of men are in that same situation and are extremely happy.  Especially the ones that keep two or three novias at the same time.  To each his own.


There's more than one reason a man wouldn't want to bring his girlfriend/wife back to the U.S., Canada, Europe, Australia, etc. from her country. I wouldn't do it either, and I can guarantee you that has nothing to do with a fear of her getting a green card and leaving me. I would never marry a woman if I wasn't 100%, without a doubt convinced she was completely in love with me. One of my reasons is my assets. I marry a woman here and eventually things don't work out...she can't clean me out. I'd never leave an ex-wife of mine high and dry. Especially if we had children. But she's not getting half or more of the $hit I spent a lifetime working for. [snip] THAT! Another reason is the U.S. inevitably changes women for the worse in my opinion. I know guys that have brought girls back to the U.S. from other countries and the girls really loved them, but they eventually got more materialistic. More worried about trivial things like name brands and keeping up appearances. I know some very frugal women in the U.S. I can't think of one woman, frugal or not, without at least one designer hand bag. I could list tons of other changes I've seen and there are dozens of other reasons not to bring a girl back. I guess it's up to the man and the risks he's willing to accept in the end.   
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #36 on: April 21, 2014, 06:57:43 PM »
I would never marry a woman if I wasn't 100%, without a doubt convinced she was completely in love with me. One of my reasons is my assets. I marry a woman here and eventually things don't work out...she can't clean me out.


Sorry bro, but that looks like you're contradicting yourself.




I just don't understand how if a man and a woman share a profound, devoted, til death do us part, genuine love, things can change so drastically just by moving to another country.


If you think she's going to change on you and fall out of love with you just because you move her to the states, I honestly believe she was never truly in love in the first place.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #37 on: April 21, 2014, 06:58:50 PM »

Yeah, I agree 100%... I guess some guys are happy being married to a young, hot interesada and that's ok. I just don't really get it myself. Why marry someone you can't even trust? What's the point? Hookers are much cheaper in the long run and certainly will save you a lot of stress...  ;D

Point is these kind of guys who marry these kind of girls typically have snowed themselves into thinking that somehow it's all going to be fine till death do them part. Blinded by beauty, sometimes intrigued with the 'kisses and hand grenades' dynamics that some of these Latinas bring to a relationship. My Uncle Luke  lived that life with a Latina for near thirty years and it was a sight, alright. Sure they should know better--but all too often they don't and a lot of times people tried to warn them, to no avail.
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #38 on: April 21, 2014, 07:13:12 PM »

Sorry bro, but that looks like you're contradicting yourself.




I just don't understand how if a man and a woman share a profound, devoted, til death do us part, genuine love, things can change so drastically just by moving to another country.


If you think she's going to change on you and fall out of love with you just because you move her to the states, I honestly believe she was never truly in love in the first place.


Your argument has been about a man knowing from the jump that a woman doesn't truly love him and is with him for the money; and him not wanting to move a girl to the states for that. If you're actually suggesting that two people can't be completely in love, then fall out of love 10 or 20 years later and end up getting a divorce, you're dilusional. People inevitably change. I learned that in my teens. How old are you?
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #39 on: April 21, 2014, 07:41:58 PM »

Your argument has been about a man knowing from the jump that a woman doesn't truly love him and is with him for the money; and him not wanting to move a girl to the states for that. If you're actually suggesting that two people can't be completely in love, then fall out of love 10 or 20 years later and end up getting a divorce, you're dilusional. People inevitably change. I learned that in my teens. How old are you?


I'm 34 about to turn 35.  I've seen plenty of marriages fall apart past the 10 year mark.  My dad and his second wife, my mom and her second husband.  Every single one of my aunts and unlces.  I could go on and on.


Still I think that if you're basing your choice of where to live based on the DIVORCE LAWS of that country, that right there says that you don't expect the marriage to last.  Setting yourself up for failure.  Maybe deep down inside you don't want a lifelong marriage, maybe deep down inside you just want to be a player.

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« Reply #40 on: April 21, 2014, 07:52:52 PM »

I'm 34 about to turn 35.  I've seen plenty of marriages fall apart past the 10 year mark.  My dad and his second wife, my mom and her second husband.  Every single one of my aunts and unlces.  I could go on and on.


Still I think that if you're basing your choice of where to live based on the DIVORCE LAWS of that country, that right there says that you don't expect the marriage to last.  Setting yourself up for failure.  Maybe deep down inside you don't want a lifelong marriage, maybe deep down inside you just want to be a player.


Believing you're going to fail and being prepared for it are two completely different things.

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« Reply #41 on: April 22, 2014, 06:37:02 AM »

 I know guys that have brought girls back to the U.S. from other countries and the girls really loved them, but they eventually got more materialistic. More worried about trivial things like name brands and keeping up appearances. I know some very frugal women in the U.S. I can't think of one woman, frugal or not, without at least one designer hand bag.


I'm not American, but I don't understand why people say that. A lot of latinas I know are pretty materialisitic already, they just can't afford the same things American or European woman can... They already WANT these things, they just don't have the money to buy them. In fact I would say many of them are MORE materialistic because they never had these luxury items and they are more impressed by them. Of course all of this depends on the individual as well. I don't like generalisations.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #42 on: April 22, 2014, 08:58:07 AM »
I'm not American, but I don't understand why people say that. A lot of latinas I know are pretty materialisitic already, they just can't afford the same things American or European woman can... They already WANT these things, they just don't have the money to buy them. In fact I would say many of them are MORE materialistic because they never had these luxury items and they are more impressed by them.

Man, I can honestly say my mouth dropped when I read this. Where have you spent most of your time in Latin America? Sounds like you've been hanging out with some of those girls that are up to BCC's standards. LOL! ;D

From country to country, region to region, even city to city, the cultures of Latin America are very different. But one of the few characteristics common to almost every place I've been SOTB is very little to no middle class. You have very few upper class women that can afford those things, and a lot more poor women who've seen them but can't. Sure they would like to have them, but from day to day they're a lot more worried about what the hell they're going to eat and keeping the lights on another month. Believe me...the struggle is real. I won't even bother to look up and lists the poverty statistics for Latin America, but from my experience most poor women don't sit around and obsess over designer purses like American and European Women do. Not a single poor girl I've dated in any country in Latin America ever mentioned anything like that. NOT ONCE!!! They've pretty much accepted their place in the world and are well aware they have much bigger problems to tackle. You're talking about the desire for material things. Everyone has that on some level. We would all be content with saving all our money and living like monks if that weren't the case. I'm talking about the
EXPECTATION of those things. That paradigm is only prominent in 1st World Countries.

Of course all of this depends on the individual as well. I don't like generalisations.


I'm not sure why you've decided to stick around for 116 post on this board then. That's pretty much all we do.
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« Reply #43 on: April 22, 2014, 09:11:50 AM »
Doesn't sound like Japan, with teenagers hooking to get enough yen together for a Chanel purse--not even remotely close.... ::)
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« Reply #44 on: April 22, 2014, 09:49:32 AM »
Man, I can honestly say my mouth dropped when I read this. Where have you spent most of your time in Latin America? Sounds like you've been hanging out with some of those girls that are up to BCC's standards. LOL! ;D

From country to country, region to region, even city to city, the cultures of Latin America are very different. But one of the few characteristics common to almost every place I've been SOTB is very little to no middle class. You have very few upper class women that can afford those things, and a lot more poor women who've seen them but can't. Sure they would like to have them, but from day to day they're a lot more worried about what the hell they're going to eat and keeping the lights on another month. Believe me...the struggle is real. I won't even bother to look up and lists the poverty statistics for Latin America, but from my experience most poor women don't sit around and obsess over designer purses like American and European Women do. Not a single poor girl I've dated in any country in Latin America ever mentioned anything like that. NOT ONCE!!! They've pretty much accepted their place in the world and are well aware they have much bigger problems to tackle. You're talking about the desire for material things. Everyone has that on some level. We would all be content with saving all our money and living like monks if that weren't the case. I'm talking about the
EXPECTATION of those things. That paradigm is only prominent in 1st World Countries.


I'm not sure why you've decided to stick around for 116 post on this board then. That's pretty much all we do.


I think these latinas aren't good at running game on American men, they make there intentions blatantly obvious. I've met some very coy ones that are good but there intentions were to get married not soo much stuff imo. ie Costa rica one night my some friends were out and I approached these 4 chicks. We were dancing and she turned around and put my hand on her titty and she was like can you pay for drinks for me and my friend? ಠ_ಠ. Yea right, I didn't pay 800usd flying down here to feed you drinks, I can do that here in Dallas. I just fell back and continued on my own grove. Any woman that asks for a drink sure as hell doesn't deserve one. That rule applies to ALL women

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #45 on: April 22, 2014, 09:52:53 AM »
Man, I can honestly say my mouth dropped when I read this. Where have you spent most of your time in Latin America? Sounds like you've been hanging out with some of those girls that are up to BCC's standards. LOL! ;D

From country to country, region to region, even city to city, the cultures of Latin America are very different. But one of the few characteristics common to almost every place I've been SOTB is very little to no middle class. You have very few upper class women that can afford those things, and a lot more poor women who've seen them but can't. Sure they would like to have them, but from day to day they're a lot more worried about what the hell they're going to eat and keeping the lights on another month. Believe me...the struggle is real. I won't even bother to look up and lists the poverty statistics for Latin America, but from my experience most poor women don't sit around and obsess over designer purses like American and European Women do. Not a single poor girl I've dated in any country in Latin America ever mentioned anything like that. NOT ONCE!!! They've pretty much accepted their place in the world and are well aware they have much bigger problems to tackle. You're talking about the desire for material things. Everyone has that on some level. We would all be content with saving all our money and living like monks if that weren't the case. I'm talking about the
EXPECTATION of those things. That paradigm is only prominent in 1st World Countries.

Well, first of all, I don't agree that there is little or no middle class in Latin America. In Peru, the middle class is growing FAST. You can see this by the number of new malls that are popping up all over the country, even in the smallest cities. It is still small, but there are already plenty of middle class Peruvians.

Well, maybe I misunderstood what you are saying, but to me materialistic means a STRONG DESIRE for material things. Many poor latinas (and latinos) I have met are easily impressed by material stuff and if they had the money they would spend it on luxury items, and yes, sometimes even before they would spend it necessities! I know people living in the slums in Peru who live in shacks, yet they own brand new computers with internet access or flatscreen tvs... That said, poor girls are usually content with LESS material stuff than women in first world countries, I agree with you there.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #46 on: April 22, 2014, 10:10:38 AM »

I'm not sure why you've decided to stick around for 116 post on this board then. That's pretty much all we do.
Well maybe you guys should stop doing it then LOL! I think generalising and saying "all women from X are like this" is just plain silly. Women are individuals, just like men. Culture plays a part, but the woman's individual personality is FAR more important IMHO.

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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #47 on: April 22, 2014, 10:44:32 AM »
Well, first of all, I don't agree that there is little or no middle class in Latin America. In Peru, the middle class is growing FAST. You can see this by the number of new malls that are popping up all over the country, even in the smallest cities. It is still small, but there are already plenty of middle class Peruvians.

Well, maybe I misunderstood what you are saying, but to me materialistic means a STRONG DESIRE for material things. Many poor latinas (and latinos) I have met are easily impressed by material stuff and if they had the money they would spend it on luxury items, and yes, sometimes even before they would spend it necessities! I know people living in the slums in Peru who live in shacks, yet they own brand new computers with internet access or flatscreen tvs... That said, poor girls are usually content with LESS material stuff than women in first world countries, I agree with you there.


Middle class is growing faster here in Brazil...but to suggest that more than a very small percentage of the population would be classified as middle class in Latin America is simply wrong. You're trying to prove your point by talking about one experience from one country. I'm talking about an entire continent. I won't bother throwing a bunch of links on here with statistics because it's simply a well know fact. While in Peru I stayed amongst the affluent so I can't comment much on anyone outside of that, but I can honestly tell you that after spending time all over Colombia, Ecuador, Honduras, Brazil, Panama, El Salvador, Bolivia, etc., most of the population of Latin America is still living in poverty. You don't have to cruch numbers or read studies to realize that's the truth. You can see it! Even those millions living just above the international standard for poverty can't afford the high end, luxury products women in the U.S. just have to have. Saying, "if they had the money they would spend it on luxury items, and yes, sometimes even before they would spend it necessities," is a hypothetical that's your personal opinion and there's no way you could prove that. Because they don't have the money. And again, that's not my experience after spending years with poor people in Latin America. A ton of these girls get pregnant by the "barrio boys" (as Elexpatriado likes to call them) at a very young age and they're much more concerned with taking care of their children. Give them just enough money to go and buy a Michael Kors Handbag, and you actually think they're going to blow it all on that before helping their families? ???
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #48 on: April 22, 2014, 10:46:43 AM »
Well maybe you guys should stop doing it then LOL! I think generalising and saying "all women from X are like this" is just plain silly. Women are individuals, just like men. Culture plays a part, but the woman's individual personality is FAR more important IMHO.


I agree and I try to stay away from words like "all" and "always" because there are plenty of exceptions. I will use words like "most" however. There's usually some truth to most of the generalizations made here though.
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Re: No info on El Salvador
« Reply #49 on: April 22, 2014, 11:33:27 AM »

I agree and I try to stay away from words like "all" and "always" because there are plenty of exceptions. I will use words like "most" however. There's usually some truth to most of the generalizations made here though.


I think all the guys on this thread prefer Latinas. Excuse me if I'm over generalizing :)

 

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