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She asked me why she keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women?
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I'm not going to laugh, (to loudly) because I could be placed in the opposite catagory! ;)
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Because they think they do not have any other option.
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She asked me why she keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women?
Some guys are fat freaks...
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Because they think they do not have any other option.
There are other options in tve US or anywhere....they are just allí taken
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Maybe it's because they have fat purses as well.
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Maybe it's because they have fat purses as well.
Very unlikely.
Some guys will degrade themselves and go with anything just to satisfy their debased animalistic needs and feelings of lonliness.
Land Whales, sheep , cows, burras..
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american women are just fat, compared to most countries. and the men, well, when your choices are, fat or nothing, i guess they chose fat lol.
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She asked me why she keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women?
For the same reason american guys will marry a woman with another guys children and then not have any of his own.
What kills me is when the guy that has the fat american wife with another guys children..... and then they act jealous when other guys are around. I'm like are you kidding me! jajaja
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I would have to say that American women are the most unattractive on earth. You go into a Walmart (where I never shop) and look at the specimens of Trump's chosen people.
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For the same reason american guys will marry a woman with another guys children and then not have any of his own.
What kills me is when the guy that has the fat american wife with another guys children..... and then they act jealous when other guys are around. I'm like are you kidding me! jajaja
Lmao
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Very unlikely.
Some guys will degrade themselves and go with anything just to satisfy their debased animalistic needs and feelings of lonliness.
Land Whales, sheep , cows, burras..
Those burrs are less expensive and don't complain as much lol
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She asked me why she keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women?
MC, the reason why your wife keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women is because American men generally tend to underestimate their dating market value. American women on the other hand tend to overestimate their dating market value.
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The USAs still FULL of beautiful women, just not everywhere. Charleston and Savannah, as well as St. Augustine, Palm Beach, Boca Raton and Miami have tons. (A little gem is Delray Beach FL. Mmmm) But other densely populated cities, like million + Jacksonville, or Atlanta, to name just 2 others, don't seem to have a lot of hot, or shall we say, cute, pretty women.
For sh!ts and giggles, with my wife's awareness, I posted 6 very current, un photo shopped photos of myself, including of my bald head, along with a short bio that explained that I'm "neither rich nor poor" on Zoosk. I indicated an interest in women ages 40 to 60. To be fair, I let my wife post on "Millionaire's Club".
Yes, I got some real heifers--whales, motor cycle mamas and MAGA types, but in short order, I got over a thousand 'hits' and probably 70--80% were from size two to six, slender to athletic figured PRETTY USA women, with professional degrees.
Never would've happened on match.com.
There were white, black, Latina, Euro and Asian, a few were immigrants to the USA added in the mix, but by and large, most were white and born here.
There were mostly divorcees, kids gone off, some who's careers made marriage and kids not feasible, and an AMAZING amount of attractive widows (some quite young) who made it very clear (and had addressed the fact) that they didn't need a penny.
Were I trying to run a game, I could've played the male gigolo, gold digger role and playing on obviously pretty, financially well off women from Wash. DC/Arlington, VA, on down to Boca Raton.
Florida's lower Gulf side, the aptly named "Gold Coast" has a ton of pretty, available women too. A lot of well off 'snowbirds' who took their fortunes to sunnier climes throughout S Florida.
The deal with my wife and I was that neither of us could/would respond, but I got about 15 'hits' to every 1 that she got. That amazed me, because if I do say so myself, she's young, pretty, presents herself well and is highly educated, with zero 'baggage'.
It was a crazy experiment, with surprising results. But for all the money in the world some other woman might have, I doubt if I could find someone half as wonderful and pleasant to live with as my wife. Or as young and pretty. I didn't indicate interest in under 40 y/o and had I, the 'hits' would have most certainly dropped in number and quality therein.
And while I'm no millionaire yet, the Drs and lawyers, the pilots and Las Vegas, CA entertainment types who ARE, the guys that did write or send 'likes' to my wife, they pretty much all seemed like damaged goods, if you picked apart their profiles.
And we did pick apart the profiles of those sending each of us the 'hits' and 'likes"
Like (and same applies to her, of course,) my wife says:
" You can look, but you'd better not touch" (or chat, write back to)
And those were the and forever will be our 'rules.' We're obviously a lot more secure in that mindset than most couples.
But the 'pickins' for guys 50+ y/o and up, for guys who obviously take care of themselves, present well and are looking for a rather attractive, financially well off '40ish' and up babe, are a whole lot better than you might presume.
If not so for you, get yourself out of the barn and start looking for greener pastures---they're out there-- here AND abroad--but only IF you have the wits and wherewithal to pick the prime cuts from the fat ones.
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The USAs still FULL of beautiful women, just not everywhere. Charleston and Savannah, as well as St. Augustine, Palm Beach, Boca Raton and Miami have tons. (A little gem is Delray Beach FL. Mmmm) But other densely populated cities, like million + Jacksonville, or Atlanta, to name just 2 others, don't seem to have a lot of hot, or shall we say, cute, pretty women.
For sh!ts and giggles, with my wife's awareness, I posted 6 very current, un photo shopped photos of myself, including of my bald head, along with a short bio that explained that I'm "neither rich nor poor" on Zoosk. I indicated an interest in women ages 40 to 60. To be fair, I let my wife post on "Millionaire's Club".
Yes, I got some real heifers--whales, motor cycle mamas and MAGA types, but in short order, I got over a thousand 'hits' and probably 70--80% were from size two to six, slender to athletic figured PRETTY USA women, with professional degrees.
Never would've happened on match.com.
There were white, black, Latina, Euro and Asian, a few were immigrants to the USA added in the mix, but by and large, most were white and born here.
There were mostly divorcees, kids gone off, some who's careers made marriage and kids not feasible, and an AMAZING amount of attractive widows (some quite young) who made it very clear (and had addressed the fact) that they didn't need a penny.
Were I trying to run a game, I could've played the male gigolo, gold digger role and playing on obviously pretty, financially well off women from Wash. DC/Arlington, VA, on down to Boca Raton.
Florida's lower Gulf side, the aptly named "Gold Coast" has a ton of pretty, available women too. A lot of well off 'snowbirds' who took their fortunes to sunnier climes throughout S Florida.
The deal with my wife and I was that neither of us could/would respond, but I got about 15 'hits' to every 1 that she got. That amazed me, because if I do say so myself, she's young, pretty, presents herself well and is highly educated, with zero 'baggage'.
It was a crazy experiment, with surprising results. But for all the money in the world some other woman might have, I doubt if I could find someone half as wonderful and pleasant to live with as my wife. Or as young and pretty. I didn't indicate interest in under 40 y/o and had I, the 'hits' would have most certainly dropped in number and quality therein.
And while I'm no millionaire yet, the Drs and lawyers, the pilots and Las Vegas, CA entertainment types who ARE, the guys that did write or send 'likes' to my wife, they pretty much all seemed like damaged goods, if you picked apart their profiles.
And we did pick apart the profiles of those sending each of us the 'hits' and 'likes"
Like (and same applies to her, of course,) my wife says:
" You can look, but you'd better not touch" (or chat, write back to)
And those were the and forever will be our 'rules.' We're obviously a lot more secure in that mindset than most couples.
But the 'pickins' for guys 50+ y/o and up, for guys who obviously take care of themselves, present well and are looking for a rather attractive, financially well off '40ish' and up babe, are a whole lot better than you might presume.
If not so for you, get yourself out of the barn and start looking for greener pastures---they're out there-- here AND abroad--but only IF you have the wits and wherewithal to pick the prime cuts from the fat ones.
So you must have taken the fotos with a banana in your pants is the only reason I could think of you got so many "hits",
Seems strange a married guy would play this game..and with his wifes knowledge.
You guys arent swingers are you?
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So you must have taken the fotos with a banana in your pants is the only reason I could think of you got so many "hits",
Seems strange a married guy would play this game..and with his wifes knowledge.
You guys arent swingers are you?
Banana in my pants, LOL? Not necessary. Truth in advertising works best long term.
I think it's clear to anybody who's intelligent and is able to, or at least DOES (did) take the time to read my post, that NO, we're not "swingers"--far from it. Like I said, the hard rule for us was (is) no replying, no chatting, and never ever, any outside touching, never mind dating. That dating site post experiment was a joke.
And we never lead a single person on--never 'used' anybody, no 'ham sandwich lunches', LOL.
I didn't mention it, but the whole experiment came about because one of my wife's sisters has a nice profile online--lovely pictures, short n sweet profile write up, she's cute, definitely not snobby, she's an RN, but rarely does she get 'hits'. So my wife and I tried to figure what works and doesn't.
What probably does work if a woman wants (literally) action, but lots of shallow 'hits' on her profile, is bathing suit, and sexy pics. But nobody in my wife's family would do that. Fashionable, form fitting clothing yes, but not a lot of flesh, not 'click bait". What you put out will effect the quality of what comes in, and a lot of your better babes like "something left for the imagination"--and that extends to guy's profiles too.
With a lot of guys, the first thing they ask for (if they respond) to a woman's profile, is for "more pics", and you can be sure they want less clothes.
That's only good if you're playing "short game.' If he or she is worth the time, waiting and playing the longer game will probably be the better iidea.
Oddly, what people seem to want and not want-- it's the opposite with women. Countless women post profiles saying things like "I DON'T want to see bathroom selfies, old pics, you flexing your muscles, wearing all hats, sunglasses or holding a dead fish."
Surprise, I guess they wouldn't be too excited over a banana, but guess it depends on where your mind's coming from. That said, I had one bathing suit pic, by the sea, shirt open, unbuttoned, and while a few ladies said I was handsome, sexy, not a single one referred to that photo.
You can often tell if someone's a smoker--a lot of 40 y/o smokers look like leathery 60 y/o's Then some 60 y/o's who don't smoke and and who work out regularly, and who might drink lightly if at all, looked great.
Maybe a "banana" works for you, but I mentioned my education, that I was retired, well traveled, easy to get along with, can dress up or down, that I'm neither rich nor poor, but THE line that probably 'worked ' best, was "lately I'm more grateful for the things I DON'T have, such as illness, debt and big dramas in my life.
I'm sure that what sort of profile works best here is different than in Colombia, but wherever you put together a profile, the difference in what you put on it will directly effect the types of responders you get.
I'd guess a lot of guys put profiles that whether they know it or not, appeal to 'short time' affairs more than they do for attracting women wanting long term relationships with solid, steady guys.
But I didn't even check the box to say if I was single, never married, divorced, or widowed. Didn't tell a single lie, never even said I was looking for this or that type of woman.
My wife doesn't even 'look at', make eye contact with, handsome guys---any guys beyond what called for at the conservative company she works at.
When we're in public, I can and do look at the ladies, and sometimes when she is well aware I'm 'scoping' some hottie out, she'll squeeze my hand (we hold hands in public) but she's not irrationally jealous.
She's asked a bunch of times why she's not a 'hottie' and I tell her, "because you don't, and you, yourself don't WANT to dress like one--- you don't wear fire engine red lipstick, tight blouses with your tits hanging out, no 5 inch stiletto heels that scream "come f___k me; no jean's so tight they look sprayed on".
Hell, when I do encourage her to wear some lipstick or make up, she's got a tissue as soon as we're in the car, looking in the mirror, dabbing and toning it down.
I think a pair of tight white, thin fabric jean's looks great, but I have to coax her to wear the pair I got her on our 'date nights' and then she'll wear a long blouse, lol....
She saves that other kind of 'appeal' for ME, behind locked doors.
She'd 'kind of' like to be a movie star kinda 'hottie' looking babe sometimes, and although she dresses fashionably, even with a wee bit of fashion forward 'edge' sometimes, her built in limiter, her modesty, precludes her dressing the hottie look that a 'swinger' would put out there.
But she and I can privately discuss how in our mutual opinions, people are dressed tastefully or are pushing it too much, or seem to be asking for 'attention' a bit much.
What we do find strange is people who are single and around tons of available singles of the opposite sex, yet always seem to end up alone and or speak disparagingly of them and don't have, or can't maintain long lasting relationships.
They can never ever seem to find someone good enough and even when do, they unconsciously sabotage relationships, then like the fox unable to reach the grapes on the higher branch, gripe: "They're probably sour anyway". Malcontents.
We can look at all the fruit in the world and admire it in different ways, but because we got lucky and are thankful and most fortunate that here and now, we feel our cup's quite full and in the best, 'real' way, that's made all the difference.
Sometimes the only way to know, to realize what you've really got, is to compare. And as long as you don't step over pre agreed lines, that can be OK.
One might say we invited temptations in, perhaps even 'played with fire' and I could see that as a valid point, but in an odd way, in being transparent, it's actually strengthened our relationship.
Besides, although my wife never discusses the things I do that DO upset her, other women piss and moan to her about their husbands, marriages etc , and it makes ours look pretty good against their 'norm.'
Even if we were interested in the proverbial 'grass on the other side of the fence' we both seem to realize that:
"One in the hand is certainly better than three in the bush"----that's for sure!!!
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Robert angel said:
... And we never lead a single person on--never 'used' anybody, no 'ham sandwich lunches', LOL....
ZING!!!!!
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Banana in my pants, LOL? Not necessary. Truth in advertising works best long term.
I think it's clear to anybody who's intelligent and is able to, or at least DOES (did) take the time to read my post, that NO, we're not "swingers"--far from it. Like I said, the hard rule for us was (is) no replying, no chatting, and never ever, any outside touching, never mind dating. That dating site post experiment was a joke.
And we never lead a single person on--never 'used' anybody, no 'ham sandwich lunches', LOL.
I didn't mention it, but the whole experiment came about because one of my wife's sisters has a nice profile online--lovely pictures, short n sweet profile write up, she's cute, definitely not snobby, she's an RN, but rarely does she get 'hits'. So my wife and I tried to figure what works and doesn't.
What probably does work if a woman wants (literally) action, but lots of shallow 'hits' on her profile, is bathing suit, and sexy pics. But nobody in my wife's family would do that. Fashionable, form fitting clothing yes, but not a lot of flesh, not 'click bait". What you put out will effect the quality of what comes in, and a lot of your better babes like "something left for the imagination"--and that extends to guy's profiles too.
With a lot of guys, the first thing they ask for (if they respond) to a woman's profile, is for "more pics", and you can be sure they want less clothes.
That's only good if you're playing "short game.' If he or she is worth the time, waiting and playing the longer game will probably be the better iidea.
Oddly, what people seem to want and not want-- it's the opposite with women. Countless women post profiles saying things like "I DON'T want to see bathroom selfies, old pics, you flexing your muscles, wearing all hats, sunglasses or holding a dead fish."
Surprise, I guess they wouldn't be too excited over a banana, but guess it depends on where your mind's coming from. That said, I had one bathing suit pic, by the sea, shirt open, unbuttoned, and while a few ladies said I was handsome, sexy, not a single one referred to that photo.
You can often tell if someone's a smoker--a lot of 40 y/o smokers look like leathery 60 y/o's Then some 60 y/o's who don't smoke and and who work out regularly, and who might drink lightly if at all, looked great.
Maybe a "banana" works for you, but I mentioned my education, that I was retired, well traveled, easy to get along with, can dress up or down, that I'm neither rich nor poor, but THE line that probably 'worked ' best, was "lately I'm more grateful for the things I DON'T have, such as illness, debt and big dramas in my life.
I'm sure that what sort of profile works best here is different than in Colombia, but wherever you put together a profile, the difference in what you put on it will directly effect the types of responders you get.
I'd guess a lot of guys put profiles that whether they know it or not, appeal to 'short time' affairs more than they do for attracting women wanting long term relationships with solid, steady guys.
But I didn't even check the box to say if I was single, never married, divorced, or widowed. Didn't tell a single lie, never even said I was looking for this or that type of woman.
My wife doesn't even 'look at', make eye contact with, handsome guys---any guys beyond what called for at the conservative company she works at.
When we're in public, I can and do look at the ladies, and sometimes when she is well aware I'm 'scoping' some hottie out, she'll squeeze my hand (we hold hands in public) but she's not irrationally jealous.
She's asked a bunch of times why she's not a 'hottie' and I tell her, "because you don't, and you, yourself don't WANT to dress like one--- you don't wear fire engine red lipstick, tight blouses with your tits hanging out, no 5 inch stiletto heels that scream "come f___k me; no jean's so tight they look sprayed on".
Hell, when I do encourage her to wear some lipstick or make up, she's got a tissue as soon as we're in the car, looking in the mirror, dabbing and toning it down.
I think a pair of tight white, thin fabric jean's looks great, but I have to coax her to wear the pair I got her on our 'date nights' and then she'll wear a long blouse, lol....
She saves that other kind of 'appeal' for ME, behind locked doors.
She'd 'kind of' like to be a movie star kinda 'hottie' looking babe sometimes, and although she dresses fashionably, even with a wee bit of fashion forward 'edge' sometimes, her built in limiter, her modesty, precludes her dressing the hottie look that a 'swinger' would put out there.
But she and I can privately discuss how in our mutual opinions, people are dressed tastefully or are pushing it too much, or seem to be asking for 'attention' a bit much.
What we do find strange is people who are single and around tons of available singles of the opposite sex, yet always seem to end up alone and or speak disparagingly of them and don't have, or can't maintain long lasting relationships.
They can never ever seem to find someone good enough and even when do, they unconsciously sabotage relationships, then like the fox unable to reach the grapes on the higher branch, gripe: "They're probably sour anyway". Malcontents.
We can look at all the fruit in the world and admire it in different ways, but because we got lucky and are thankful and most fortunate that here and now, we feel our cup's quite full and in the best, 'real' way, that's made all the difference.
Sometimes the only way to know, to realize what you've really got, is to compare. And as long as you don't step over pre agreed lines, that can be OK.
One might say we invited temptations in, perhaps even 'played with fire' and I could see that as a valid point, but in an odd way, in being transparent, it's actually strengthened our relationship.
Besides, although my wife never discusses the things I do that DO upset her, other women piss and moan to her about their husbands, marriages etc , and it makes ours look pretty good against their 'norm.'
Even if we were interested in the proverbial 'grass on the other side of the fence' we both seem to realize that:
"One in the hand is certainly better than three in the bush"----that's for sure!!!
Ohh..so no Banana in the pants..
Must have been a Polish Sausage then..
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Ohh..so no Banana in the pants..
Must have been a Polish Sausage then..
If bananas and sausages in your pants work for you, if one night stands and countless 'crash and burns' with the women you consistently speak so badly of works for you, so be it. Carry on.
If not, change it up. Although I don't think anybody here sees that happening, I suppose it's remotely possible.
Meanwhile, you don't sound or at least you don't come across here, like a particularly happy fella. More like someone who's gonna die in some cheap room, maybe with a ham sandwich ho, one who will take anything materially valuable before leaving your cold dead body alone. Again.
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If bananas and sausages in your pants work for you, if one night stands and countless 'crash and burns' with the women you consistently speak so badly of works for you, so be it. Carry on.
If not, change it up. Although I don't think anybody here sees that happening, I suppose it's remotely possible.
Meanwhile, you don't sound or at least you don't come across here, like a particularly happy fella. More like someone who's gonna die in some cheap room, maybe with a ham sandwich ho, one who will take anything materially valuable before leaving your cold dead body alone. Again.
LOL zero sense of humor ja ja
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https://www.ebaumsworld.com/jokes/potato-pants/5280/
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LOL zero sense of humor ja ja
I think Robert takes you and Mudd way to seriously.
I think all of your posts should start out with...... I live in Colombia and I have lived there for many years and I absolutely have no intention of ever leaving Colombia. jajaja
And after that say what ever it is you are going to say and let people put it in the proper context.
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I think Robert takes you and Mudd way to seriously.
I think all of your posts should start out with...... I live in Colombia and I have lived there for many years and I absolutely have no intention of ever leaving Colombia. jajaja
And after that say what ever it is you are going to say and let people put it in the proper context.
They dont call it "Locombia" for nothing...
;D ;D :D :o :o ::)
And I am one of the "saner" ones..
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They dont call it "Locombia" for nothing...
;D ;D :D :o :o ::)
And I am one of the "saner" ones..
You forgot the part about how you love Colombia and will never leave.
Remember Robert has never set foot in Colombia and probably believes you give an accurate portrayal of Colombian life
He doesn't understsnd that every thing you say is exaggerated for dramatic effect jajaja
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You forgot the part about how you love it and will never leave.
Remember Robert has never set foot in Colombia and probably believes you give an accurste portrail of Colombian life
He doesn't understsnd that every thing you say is exaggerated for dramatic effect jajaja
Now that was amusing. I chuckled.
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Robert angel said:
If bananas and sausages in your pants work for you, if one night stands and countless 'crash and burns' with the women you consistently speak so badly of works for you, so be it. Carry on.
If not, change it up. Although I don't think anybody here sees that happening, I suppose it's remotely possible.
Meanwhile, you don't sound or at least you don't come across here, like a particularly happy fella. More like someone who's gonna die in some cheap room, maybe with a ham sandwich ho, one who will take anything materially valuable before leaving your cold dead body alone. Again.
Don't forget the infamous "puta de cara"!
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Robert angel said:Don't forget the infamous "puta de cara"!
Cara de puta.
AKA thousand cock stare
https://youtu.be/f4ZU6Nra5LQ
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I think Robert takes you and Mudd way to seriously.
I think all of your posts should start out with...... I live in Colombia and I have lived there for many years and I absolutely have no intention of ever leaving Colombia. jajaja
And after that say what ever it is you are going to say and let people put it in the proper context.
Yea, I need to lighten up a bit. I paint a lot of things and sometimes, even people, with too much piss, venom and poison ink.
Nothing and nobody, is as black (or for that matter) probably as white = good, as I lay down.
More humor, my just rolling with it, would do nothing but good.
Most of us here do dramatize a bit, but I need to take a chill pill, not take this place too seriously.
Makes a guy petty, older, a waste of energy. Sleep more, piss less and for crying out loud, try and laugh more....
Internet's an odd animal.
Good Lord, I'd probably buy my ole nemisis and battle axe 'Ray' a beer in S. California bar, if I met him and didn't know he was from here.
I might even pay Awesome to wash my car, while Ray and and I quaffed some brewskies....LOL...
My nose just gets outta joint when there's any even remote negative connotation about my wife.
But hey, I admit my own post set up a stage scene, a 'poke op' (a new phrase?)---I set up---like a bowling lane, pins and all, for potshots.
Props to those who didn't call me out, because I was over the top.
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Yea, I need to lighten up a bit. I paint a lot of things and sometimes, even people, with too much piss, venom and poison ink.
Nothing and nobody, is as black (or for that matter) probably as white = good, as I lay down.
More humor, my just rolling with it, would do nothing but good.
Most of us here do dramatize a bit, but I need to take a chill pill, not take this place too seriously.
Makes a guy petty, older, a waste of energy. Sleep more, piss less and for crying out loud, try and laugh more....
Internet's an odd animal.
Good Lord, I'd probably buy my ole nemisis and battle axe 'Ray' a beer in S. California bar, if I met him and didn't know he was from here.
I might even pay Awesome to wash my car, while Ray and and I quaffed some brewskies....LOL...
My nose just gets outta joint when there's any even remote negative connotation about my wife.
But hey, I admit my own post set up a stage scene, a 'poke op' (a new phrase?)---I set up---like a bowling lane, pins and all, for potshots.
Props to those who didn't call me out, because I was over the top.
Sorry Robert- dint mean to cross the line withthe wife swapping thing. Still , with all due respect, the whole thing seems a little immature - wasting these womens time just to boost your ego?
Anyway, I think people give a little too much detail about their personal lives on here-thats why I dont go into too much detail on my own.
Speaking of wife swapping-or "swingers" better said- there was one guy on another now defunct site who married a Caleña and supposedly him and her were "swingers" in Cali.
My personal feelings is he guy is a Cuck. Vey low self esteem.Who in their right mind wants to share. ? Espescially if you are supporting her economically in anyway. Might as well just be into hookers , relations of convenience and one night stands. Forget about marriage or cohabitation.
Same with cheating and having mozas like the Colombians do.. If things arent good enough in the bedroom, time to see a sex therapist and work it out.
Guess I am old fashioned.I deliver loyalty and I wont tolerate nothing else from my partner. Punto cerrado
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Sorry Robert- dint mean to cross the line withthe wife swapping thing. Still , with all due respect, the whole thing seems a little immature - wasting these womens time just to boost your ego?
Anyway, I think people give a little too much detail about their personal lives on here-thats why I dont go into too much detail on my own.
Speaking of wife swapping-or "swingers" better said- there was one guy on another now defunct site who married a Caleña and supposedly him and her were "swingers" in Cali.
My personal feelings is he guy is a Cuck. Vey low self esteem.Who in their right mind wants to share. ? Espescially if you are supporting her economically in anyway. Might as well just be into hookers , relations of convenience and one night stands. Forget about marriage or cohabitation.
Same with cheating and having mozas like the Colombians do.. If things arent good enough in the bedroom, time to see a sex therapist and work it out.
Guess I am old fashioned.I deliver loyalty and I wont tolerate nothing else from my partner. Punto cerrado
Reveal too much? I don't think so. RA's disclosure about his first marriage and numerous other things could be very helpful to many...Besides, every post is revealing. Even those who are very guarded reveal alot in part because they are guarded. Who gives a s--- anyway? Nobody's giving away credit or debit card numbers here...you have given very few details about your marriage experience but I am sure it could be useful to someone reading and possibly help them avoid the same....
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Reveal too much? I don't think so. RA's disclosure about his first marriage and numerous other things could be very helpful to many...Besides, every post is revealing. Even those who are very guarded reveal alot in part because they are guarded. Who gives a s--- anyway? Nobody's giving away credit or debit card numbers here...you have given very few details about your marriage experience but I am sure it could be useful to someone reading and possibly help them avoid the same....
My experience wouldnt be any different than anybody elses story who has posted horror stories on here.
Suffice to say I have not been heeding the old adage "fool me once shame on me..fool me twice...etc."..and not follwing my own "advice " which I have posted on here (eg the 24 red flags, so many others).
At least I have not made the major mistake of importing a woman to Canada.
Anyway, I am in a New relationship now for over year.Hope it works out..but there are no gusrantees in life.
I did make a recommendation to a.member on here not to bring a whole family ( 3 people) to the US at more than 50 years of age, better just to wait a couple years and retire and move to Colombia to Panamá... based on the same.mistake I almost made when I was 50..but it fell.on deaf ears.
You can lead a horse to water but you cant.make him drink
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mambocowboy said:
Reveal too much? I don't think so. RA's disclosure about his first marriage and numerous other things could be very helpful to many...Besides, every post is revealing. Even those who are very guarded reveal alot in part because they are guarded. Who gives a s--- anyway? Nobody's giving away credit or debit card numbers here...you have given very few details about your marriage experience but I am sure it could be useful to someone reading and possibly help them avoid the same..
I thought that was what the reason for these boards? I know elex has accused me of revealing too much information. My deal is that if someone can benefit by avoiding a pitfall that I stepped in, more power to him! Like I stated before, I am rooting for everyone to be a winner, (including you elex!). I'm not sitting here thinking, "Well, I hope that stupid bastard makes the same mistake as me and falls flat on his face!"
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Reveal too much? I don't think so. RA's disclosure about his first marriage and numerous other things could be very helpful to many...Besides, every post is revealing. Even those who are very guarded reveal alot in part because they are guarded. Who gives a s--- anyway? Nobody's giving away credit or debit card numbers here...you have given very few details about your marriage experience but I am sure it could be useful to someone reading and possibly help them avoid the same....
Thanks, M.C.!!!
I never asked, but some members here have sent me unsolicited information about certain guys, people who tend to irritate here, some who doth claim to value their 'privacy' , but I got info they felt compelled to give me. Basically at times was like their 'resume', albeit not submitted with their approval. Hell, stuff telling me what town they were born in, high school, college, companies they worked at over the years, general reputation, where they REALLY resided abroad etc.
Like in the general world, some people say one thing and the reality is quite possibly different. I'm not into 'all that' but at times i've weighed the stories, the sources and just thought, 'wow man', unable to make any true, valid conclusion, even if I cared to. It's just a weird world out there.
But like I owed up to yesterday, once you put something out here in the main, once the 'modify post' period is done, or after like some guys love to do, immediately quoting it right below your orginal post (for posterity, I suppose) you're fair game for all to respond, for them to 'call you out' here.
Sure I get pissed off and spout my venom sometimes here, but once I've got a grip on myself back on, and I realize it's not my place to judge like as if I was running heavens gate, here, there or anywhere.
Gotta enough of my own dirt to worry about, LOL. But like my son's used to scream in the bathtub about around age four, "It's MY dirt, put it back!" Now that I am bald, I can better appreciate their first visit to the barber, where it was: "It's MY hair, take it off the floor and put it back ON"
Not minding my own business, one idle time, really the only time I took the initiative to do such a thing, I 'googled' a guy's unusual handle, namely his member name here.
It was a guy from the Asian forum and much to my suprise, a lot about his church, family pictures and more, came up. Sobered me up, and I don't even drink!
Especially if you post across a lot of boards, it's hard to not reveal enough eventually that if a diggers gonna dig, they won't find stuff.
Hell, anybody here who's on face book has literally had their personal life bought and sold and that's just from and to the so called 'legit' people.
There's tons more, other sketchy people who'll take pics of people and info on FB, dating sites, from anywhere and find someway to explot you, try aND sell you something. Your cellphone is a conduit to people seeking info, even if you turn ( like I do) turn 'location' OFF. Deleted texts, call RECORDINGS, numbers called and when, all can be retrieved.
There's reasons why cellphone batteries aren't removable anymore and it's NOT fire safety.
I don't do facebook, but I once spent ten minutes looking at my wife's FB , (which is well guarded, conservative) and at her Linkdin and business profiles and before I CHANGED them, we were shocked at how easy it was to get access to her picture, phone number and address--it WAS all available online at that time, if you searched and put together a few pieces. For all the Ted Bundies out there!
No more.
But anything you do online is traceable. Just assume where ever you go website wise, whatever you write here and anywhere on line, whatever you order, that it's KEYLOGGED somewhere. Google and you'll find your PL posts online, where they quoted something that you said. The cops find it easier in court to get a search warrant and present any dirt on you from a confiscated hard drive. But even if you melted it in hydrochloric acid, they can still nail you. Even a VPN = 'virtual private network' isn't a total answer.
My son is in a Masters Degreen program that has an incredibly intense focus on AI--- "Artificial Intelligence" ultra high level Math--Math subjects I never heard of--they make 'Calculus' look like a couple kid's wooden play blocks. PLUS coding, programming....
I thought that the ten thousand pound gorilla of 'being too nosy in our business' was Google, maybe Microsoft. So I asked him.
He said, " No Dad, it's Bezos and AMAZON --they own more of 'The CLOUD' than Google, Microsoft and about the next ten purveyors, owners of cloud storage combined. A large % of the corporate world uses amazon. Their tentacles extend into space, with their multi billion dollar space program, (Musk competitor), but the tentacle are getting more invasive back on earth too.
Whether you have Amazon's 'Alexa' or Google's 'Home' devices , they're not just 'listening' to everything that goes on in your house, they're RECORDING it.
Just one example below, where the court ordered Amazon Alexa recordings of a 48 hour period from a home where a double murder occurred.
https://techcrunch.com/2018/11/14/amazon-echo-recordings-judge-murder-case/
I remember one of my kids said if I smacked him ( with good cause) that he'd call the cops, have me arrested, make me lose my professional working credentials and put me in a trailer park.
Stranger things have happened and do and nowadays, like murders, they are recorded by Alexa and Google Home EVERY day and hour, 24X7. They're just ramping up, 'big brother's ' eyes and EARS are bigger than ever, worldwide.
https://techcrunch.com/2018/11/14/amazon-echo-recordings-judge-murder-case/
Anyway, I then smacked him twice as hard and said: "Don't forget to bring your Xbox 360 with you to the trailer park, punk"
I guess nowadays, he could just ask Alexa to play back the recording for the cops.And get a amazon video recording setup for Christmas too.
Uncle Jeff has everything, except for the hot (for his and her age wife), the lovely Honda Oddesey minivan Mama who's driving his 4 kids. (And made good money from her job, writing novels, has made her own $$$.
Soon to be a divorcee with about 70 billion dollars, all you eligible bachelors!
Hell, there are cameras in most medium and up population size toens/cities nowadays, in commercial and residential areas, to the point where I can hardly find a bush or alley to take a piss without worrying about being on 'candid camera' and hauled into court.
There's city in China, millions in population, that does nothing but make outdoor video cameras. Could LOOK like a brick, building siding, street light, tree branch, even a bird, all that---- they make a camera disguised as such, and sell millions of such cameras for the entire world.
We have satellites in space that can read individual car's license plates.
Not all this tech is nearly as fully used as it will be in the future. It's been around a while actually, but they're looking at new ways it can be used generate income and gather more 'personal' info on us. Storage does cost money, but earns it too.
But I don't care HOW much you might think your life's private, how far off, how much you might think that you 'live off the grid' ----privacy AIN'T what it used to be, and somebody, something's got your name and number and probably some sh!t on you somehow, somewhere....
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I enjoy Elex's posts because he lives down there, and it's just interesting hearing from someone who's made the move. Some of the boring stuff like cost of living, and how guys go about their life on a daily basis is not boring to me. Maybe there's some guys around here that don't post, but who would also like to hear more of the basics. Maybe it's boring to write about, but I appreciate the posts.
I find myself at a stage in life where I'm 55, no kids/family, and financially able to do pretty much whatever I want. I could go live in Colombia 6 months out of the year, or even go live there permanently if I wanted. I think having too many options is sometimes more confusing then only having a couple to choose from. Indecision is really the only thing that holds me back from making another move.
I do agree with some of Elex's and other guys opinions about leaving them down there. Once you're in your mid 50s it's probably better to not put yourself financially at great risk. It's pretty hard to bounce back financially if you lose a heap when closer to retiring age.
Overall I've spent a couple years down there, and 6 months down there and 6 months up here seems about the right mix for me. Problem is there isn't much way to keep a good relationship going with that sort of plan.
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mambocowboy said:I thought that was what the reason for these boards? I know elex has accused me of revealing too much information. My deal is that if someone can benefit by avoiding a pitfall that I stepped in, more power to him! Like I stated before, I am rooting for everyone to be a winner, (including you elex!). I'm not sitting here thinking, "Well, I hope that stupid bastard makes the same mistake as me and falls flat on his face!"
You really think I think that way?
Sorry but. I just call them.like I see them .If people dont want to.listen..I truly hope for the best for everyone.
But remember Benjies statistics..only 30% of guys who bring their wives to North América marraige last more than 2 years.
I can find that really easy to believe, especially from a guy who has lived it.
And in 2 more Human beings to take care of and I personally dont think.the odds go up.
But maybe I am too negative. I hope so. I hope everyone is sucsessful.in their endeavours.
But that kind of thing is not for me.
I am.not afraid to die "alone". Thats what morphine, Euthanasia and live in Colombian nurses are for.
There are really no guarantees anyway.You can o ly make tehe best choice you can as far as.people go and hope for the best.
I am too busy enjoying my life than to worry about the last few weeks of existence.
THATS FOR YOU MUDD LOL
My life is and has been too good to worry about dieing. LoL
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That's the difference elex. You live your life and I'll live mine!
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Gotta say I enjoy most posts here. That said, I take them all with a grain of salt the size of a large rock.
I probably over state how well my marriage is. Mine's pretty low maintainance, but I take it for granted too much. Any marriage worth anything, takes some work, some active action to keep it 'alive'.
For example. I could, I should do more. I no doubt have it pretty good, but my wife's probably TOO patient when I'm not sorting thru and tossing tons of stuff, books, magazines, all the crap in the garage, stuff I leave lying around the house, plants to be planted in the garden--all piling up. I'm a pack rat, she's a minimalist. Once in a while, she'll blow up, but in hours, she's cool again.
Not holding onto to anger is one of our greatest blessings.
But if there's ANYTHING I'd like you guys to take away from this post ( I should've front loaded it)
MAKE HER LAUGH MORE. Sometimes we get too caught up in work, cellphones, TV, electronics, media, interpersonal family dramas, etc.
My wife's had to remind me we haven't had a good laugh in quite a while. RESPECT is 1st and formost, but if ya ain't having any funny moments, if the laughter's gone, it's kinda like sex in a way.....
She asks me to tell her the crazy stories, the unbelievable (but true) stories about me growing up, my siblings, family, etc.
Too easy to take each other granted, especially after the years have gone by, too easy to not try and have fun in different, fresh ways.
If not careful, she might wake up one day and think "Is that all there is?"
I've probably relayed more crazy sh!t about growing up, posting it here, than I told her. Last night, while walking a few miles around the lake, I realized that while telling her how I was forging report cards back in 3rd grade, then later on got blank report cards from a sweetheart of an otherwise wholesome high school office girl, who liked my delinquent ass. I'd never told her. She had a bunch if questions--why I never asked the girl to be my GF, etc....
So on a roll, I told her more--- how I'd go to NYC's 42nd st. and get blank driver's licenses and college IDs, fill them out on typewriters, then laminate and sell them, charging more for higher grades or for more prestigious colleges. She about fell over when I recalled how I 'put' one fellow delinquent kid in the "University of Alcatraz". She was cracking up!!!
All you guys have tales about growing up she'd be interested in more than the news or weather.
Yea, if you can't make each other laugh and smile anymore, if life's mysteries and humor are lost between the two of you, if the 'thrill', if the fun is all gone----it's gonna go from grey to dark. To dust....
If you have kids, go to great lengths to get a good sitter and take her out on dates, to the beach, dinner a movie, etc. Get wild, 'helping' her in the kitchen. Make the the time and events happen. Plan, but also be spontaneous sometimes. Women love surprises. It'll be better for the whole family.
Don't let it all go down hill after the 'courting' days and months, don't let the 'honeymoon' be the highest peak you ever get to.
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Yea, I need to lighten up a bit. I paint a lot of things and sometimes, even people, with too much piss, venom and poison ink.
Nothing and nobody, is as black (or for that matter) probably as white = good, as I lay down.
More humor, my just rolling with it, would do nothing but good.
Most of us here do dramatize a bit, but I need to take a chill pill, not take this place too seriously.
Makes a guy petty, older, a waste of energy. Sleep more, piss less and for crying out loud, try and laugh more....
Internet's an odd animal.
Good Lord, I'd probably buy my ole nemisis and battle axe 'Ray' a beer in S. California bar, if I met him and didn't know he was from here.
I might even pay Awesome to wash my car, while Ray and and I quaffed some brewskies....LOL...
My nose just gets outta joint when there's any even remote negative connotation about my wife.
But hey, I admit my own post set up a stage scene, a 'poke op' (a new phrase?)---I set up---like a bowling lane, pins and all, for potshots.
Props to those who didn't call me out, because I was over the top.
Good post Robert, I'd forgotten those guys but be careful who you meet. I met Hoda once (remember him?) at Chipichapi and we had had a good long friendly conversation. Then he turned out to be a real back stabber.
Also your personal anecdotes are often informative but they're too long.
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Good post Robert, I'd forgotten those guys but be careful who you meet. I met Hoda once (remember him?) at Chipichapi and we had had a good long friendly conversation. Then he turned out to be a real back stabber.
Also your personal anecdotes are often informative but they're too long.
I hear you. My mind works free form, flows and my posts spin and ramble on forever sometimes.
Most sites have much shorter posts. While some guys can digest a long one, most prefer shorter ones and I if they DO read mine, they probably gloss over them.
Well. I can try and shorten them. Or break them up. Less can be more.
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Yea, I need to lighten up a bit. I paint a lot of things and sometimes, even people, with too much piss, venom and poison ink.
Nothing and nobody, is as black (or for that matter) probably as white = good, as I lay down.
More humor, my just rolling with it, would do nothing but good.
Most of us here do dramatize a bit, but I need to take a chill pill, not take this place too seriously.
Makes a guy petty, older, a waste of energy. Sleep more, piss less and for crying out loud, try and laugh more....
Internet's an odd animal.
Good Lord, I'd probably buy my ole nemisis and battle axe 'Ray' a beer in S. California bar, if I met him and didn't know he was from here.
I might even pay Awesome to wash my car, while Ray and and I quaffed some brewskies....LOL...
My nose just gets outta joint when there's any even remote negative connotation about my wife.
But hey, I admit my own post set up a stage scene, a 'poke op' (a new phrase?)---I set up---like a bowling lane, pins and all, for potshots.
Props to those who didn't call me out, because I was over the top.
I'm with ya Robert. Most of you guys are good [snip]s on this site. I see many of us in a group setting of a bar, buy you all a round. Watch the single guys cock block each other and us married guys swapping stories about "Back in the day." At the end of the night we'd all be fhit saced. Take Robert home to Joy first and prop his drunk azz against the door, ring the buzzer and run. Goto the next guy and take him in, toss him on the bed and then, "Alexa, set alarm for 3am to horror movie sounds.", crisco your kitchen floor etc and on to the next....
I too rabidly defend my filipina wife. There is just something about filipinas I think that make you feel so important to them that it brings out the old chivelry in a guy and makes us want to be so much better for them.
Far as good looking women in the US. There are a lot of good looking women out there once you look past the butch-feminists-SJW EMO-purple haired-pajama wearing at Walmart-Hippopotamus-crazy cat ladies, there are a few. Over the age of 30 though there is certainly a high ratio of the former and the ones that are hot are frequently bar whores or other serious issues. Once you hit 40 the pool really starts to shrink to a 50/50 chance with a divorcee that isn't toxic or a widow that wasn't the one that killed her husband.
Funny but oh so true
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QueiHJLV8S4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QueiHJLV8S4)
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I'm with ya Robert. Most of you guys are good [snip]s on this site. I see many of us in a group setting of a bar, buy you all a round. Watch the single guys cock block each other and us married guys swapping stories about "Back in the day." At the end of the night we'd all be fhit saced. Take Robert home to Joy first and prop his drunk azz against the door, ring the buzzer and run. Goto the next guy and take him in, toss him on the bed and then, "Alexa, set alarm for 3am to horror movie sounds.", crisco your kitchen floor etc and on to the next....
I too rabidly defend my filipina wife. There is just something about filipinas I think that make you feel so important to them that it brings out the old chivelry in a guy and makes us want to be so much better for them.
Far as good looking women in the US. There are a lot of good looking women out there once you look past the butch-feminists-SJW EMO-purple haired-pajama wearing at Walmart-Hippopotamus-crazy cat ladies, there are a few. Over the age of 30 though there is certainly a high ratio of the former and the ones that are hot are frequently bar whores or other serious issues. Once you hit 40 the pool really starts to shrink to a 50/50 chance with a divorcee that isn't toxic or a widow that wasn't the one that killed her husband.
Funny but oh so true
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QueiHJLV8S4 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QueiHJLV8S4)
Thanks Fos,
You were one of a handful of posters here that I prolly would've wondered how things were going, but I sense good, now and long term for you both.
But yea, once the dating pool in the USA hits around age 40, the damage life and society here has wrought makes it a lot harder to meet people.
The good ones are presumably in good stable relationships. Many others, coming off dysfunctional lives and marriages, sooner or later show difficult signs of 'Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome'.
Once you're late 30's into 40's, the dating field in the USA is strewn with land mines and time bombs.
While you CAN still find a good gal here----but even then, the journey is often long and disheartening , with slim pickins for finding the 'good fruit'
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Robert angel said:
Thanks Fos,
You were one of a handful of posters here that I prolly would've wondered how things were going, but I sense good, now and long term for you both.
But yea, once the dating pool in the USA hits around age 40, the damage life and society here has wrought makes it a lot harder to meet people.
The good ones are presumably in good stable relationships. Many others, coming off dysfunctional lives and marriages, sooner or later show difficult signs of 'Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome'.
Once you're late 30's into 40's, the dating field in the USA is strewn with land mines and time bombs.
While you CAN still find a good gal here----but even then, the journey is often long and disheartening , with slim pickins for finding the 'good fruit'
After the ex left me, (but during the 'great war'), I sought out a counselor because I was having issues dealing with the guilt of a failed marriage. This counselor was the same one that treated my ex's depression, lack of attention, yada, yada, yada. He told me to avoid getting hooked up with a woman that has the same needs, and 'mental issues' as my ex. Because the results would be the same. He said to steer clear of women like that because I dealt with it for all that time, (25 years!), and that I would think that is normal behavior for a woman! First red flag that showed even the slightest amount of lack of emotional or has a narcissistic driven personality, I was to bail out immediately! I was on POF, Match.com, Eharmony, all in search of someone but with most showing 'red flags' of some sort. I went to Colombia several times. It took me while but I finally found one without a narcissistic personality so I am going to see if it will fly!
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Robert angel said:After the ex left me, (but during the 'great war'), I sought out a counselor because I was having issues dealing with the guilt of a failed marriage. This counselor was the same one that treated my ex's depression, lack of attention, yada, yada, yada. He told me to avoid getting hooked up with a woman that has the same needs, and 'mental issues' as my ex. Because the results would be the same. He said to steer clear of women like that because I dealt with it for all that time, (25 years!), and that I would think that is normal behavior for a woman! First red flag that showed even the slightest amount of lack of emotional or has a narcissistic driven personality, I was to bail out immediately! I was on POF, Match.com, Eharmony, all in search of someone but with most showing 'red flags' of some sort. I went to Colombia several times. It took me while but I finally found one without a narcissistic personality so I am going to see if it will fly!
Good Lord, so dang true!! Subconsciously, unconsciously, be it man or woman, we tend to end up repeatedly with the same type of 'significant other' - a person with the same worst characteristics that doomed the last relationship.
Sometimes (not to get too freudian);it goes back to marrying people like a person's dysfunctional parent/s.
If substance addictive tendacies and behaviors being commonly passed from parents to offspring isn't sad enough, we often reinvent the wheel, ending up with the same damn kind of wheel in the form a spouse or GF over and over again, someone who's addicted, physically abusive, mentally abused and damaged, who maybe has a hair trigger temper.
Toxic over time, but we don't see and realize it until we're thick in the middle of it.
Again.
We don't mean to, but it happens a helluva alot and it often takes an outside opinion we actually DO value before we 'wake up, smell the coffee' and break the cycle.
Again, I said advice from people who you "value" their personal (or professional) opinion, NOT the general consensus.
If it wasn't bad enough that I got accused by some ignorant people (folks of secondary importance to me) of falling into that very same mindset by going back and marrying a Filipina my 2nd time around, I had some of them saying they look alike! Yeah, all Asians and Black people do, right?--NOT!
Still, I had to give it some thought, thinking it over before deciding, then saying to myself: "WTF do THEY know and WHY should I care?"
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"""What are the odds of a second marriage working?
Statistics show that in the U.S., 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. Second marriages have difficulty for a number of reasons. First, once a person discovers that he or she can manage a divorce, they are less scared of going through the process again."""
Also:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201202/the-high-failure-rate-second-and-third-marriages%3famp
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I would have to say that American women are the most unattractive on earth. You go into a Walmart (where I never shop) and look at the specimens of Trump's chosen people.
trumps chosen people? how do you know they voted for trump? some of the fattest, laziest people i know are democrats, but do i say they are Hillary's people? nope.
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trumps chosen people? how do you know they voted for trump? some of the fattest, laziest people i know are democrats, but do i say they are Hillary's people? nope.
Simple demographics. Trump's base is old, white, religious. Of course you do see a lot of Latinos in Wally Mart so it's not all Trump cult members.
Hillary's people? LMAO, Hillary doesn't have any people! Even the people who voted for her hated her.
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Simple demographics. Trump's base is old, white, religious. Of course you do see a lot of Latinos in Wally Mart so it's not all Trump cult members.
Hillary's people? LMAO, Hillary doesn't have any people! Even the people who voted for her hated her.
apparently you havent been to my walmart . about 1/3 are Hispanic.
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apparently you havent been to my walmart . about 1/3 are Hispanic.
We have one of their newer, smaller concepts, "Your Neighborhood (walmart) Market" and it's still always about 3rd or 4th choice shopping for "necessities" --dry goods, bottled water maybe.
We hate the atmosphere in pretty much all Walmart operations. We get a mix of whites, blacks and Hispanics. I get a 'green tan' from their cheap florescent lights, low rent atmosphere. Still it's easy to walk into a Sam's, to get coffee and end up buying a hundred bucks of 'not necessities'
But when the economy suffers (again) the survival of stores that sell things people >'need'< vs things people >'want'<, will make things clearer.
We'd much prefer a Trader Joe's and a Costco come to town. If you shop carefully, you don't have to pay more (if any) for better goods and service.
Just a shame that regardless, they all tend to end pushing out 'Mom n Pop' stores---bakeries, hardware, butchers, bicycle shop etc, into closing, out of business.
Then the conquering chains raise prices.
I try and support 'middle of the road' retailers, but it's not so easy anymore.
Higher up the retail chain, we just lost Sears and kmart and nationwide, that's just the start of a.com and wm.com devouring 95% of the retail market by going online.
The malls aren't long for the world either.
People nowadays will online view dozens then buy 3 pairs of the same shoes, pants, shirts, but in different sizes and colors, getting them in 2 days, then sending all back, except for one favorite, all free of charge and tried on at home.. Why waste gas and time?
It sure isn't the 70s or early 80s, where in much of the USA, you drove into town to stores that had your 'stuff', bars to drink in and non chain restaurants to eat in.
Even a.com is trying to buy into the last of the 'brick and mortar', neighborhood market business, via places like (overpriced) wholefoods grocery stores, probably hoping to pull the plug altogether later.
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We have one of their newer, smaller concepts, "Your Neighborhood walmart) Market" and it's still always about 3rd or 4th choice shopping for "necessities" --dry goods, bottled water maybe. We hate the atmosphere in pretty much all Walmart operations. We get a mix of whites, blacks and Hispanics. I get a 'green tan' from their cheap florescent lights, low rent atmosphere. Still it's easy to walk into a Sam's, to get coffee and end up buying a hundred bucks of 'not necessities'
But when the economy suffers (again) the survival of stores that sell things people >'need'< vs things people >'want'<, will make things clearer.
We'd much prefer a Trader Joe's and a Costco come to town. If you shop carefully, you don't have to pay more (if any) for better goods and service.
Just a shame that regardless, they all tend to end pushing out 'Mom n Pop' stores---bakeries, hardware, butchers, bicycle shop etc, into closing, out of business.
Then the chains raise prices.
I try and support 'middle of the road' retailers, but it's not so easy anymore.
Higher up the retail chain, we just lost Sears and kmart and nationwide, that's just the start of a.com and wm.com devouring 95% of the retail market by going online.
The malls aren't long for the world either. People nowadays will buy 3 pairs of the same shoes, pants, shirts, but in different sizes and colors, getting them in 2 days, then sending all back, except for one favorite, all free of charge and tried on at home.. Why waste gas and time?
yep i get it, i prefer target or smart and final. only go to Walmart when its something that the others dont have. unfortunately, walmart seems to have pretty much everything, problem is, most of it is cheap Chinese crap
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yep i get it, i prefer target or smart and final. only go to Walmart when its something that the others dont have. unfortunately, walmart seems to have pretty much everything, problem is, most of it is cheap Chinese crap
Just sad and humiliating for those USA citizens who can ONLY shop at Walmart, because Walmart closed the businesses they once had better jobs at, before walmart changed their world.
You buy a kitchen electric appliance, a lawnmower or a 1000 things that look identical elsewhere 'across town' they ARENT.
Walmart forces, actually financially strong arms providers to 'decontent' equipment, cutting corners on a LOT of brand label items that 'look' the same outside. Thinner gauge metal, lower wattage motors, smaller amounts in larger boxes, etc.
If the supplier sends next years items at a fair price increase due to material costs, Walmart often tells the company to 'eat the loss', threatening to find a different supplier.
Customer's often get even less than what they think they're getting there, down to the bags that a half gallon of milk will rip thru.
Cheap, greedy badtards.
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She asked me why she keeps seeing good looking American men with fat, ugly American women?
Back to the original topic 8) My Colombian lady never understood why a man would prefer foreign women or look for someone in another country until she came here....Now she gets it, and says no wonder you came to Colombia...i don't blame you.
A good portion of American women are overweight. No being cruel here, just stating the facts....There are not many slim options available---That's also why a lot of my older friends prefer dating Asian's in my city.
My specific location also has a 119 to 100 ration of Women to Men, which obviously means it's slim pickings for the men and they sometimes need to settle for large and in-charge ::) [size=78%]. [/size]
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Just sad and humiliating for those USA citizens who can ONLY shop at Walmart, because Walmart closed the businesses they once had better jobs at, before walmart changed their world.
You buy a kitchen electric appliance, a lawnmower or a 1000 things that look identical elsewhere 'across town' they ARENT.
Walmart forces, actually financially strong arms providers to 'decontent' equipment, cutting corners on a LOT of brand label items that 'look' the same outside. Thinner gauge metal, lower wattage motors, smaller amounts in larger boxes, etc.
If the supplier sends next years items at a fair price increase due to material costs, Walmart often tells the company to 'eat the loss', threatening to find a different supplier.
Customer's often get even less than what they think they're getting there, down to the bags that a half gallon of milk will rip thru.
Cheap, greedy badtards.
Exactly Robert. Back when I was a financial advisor in about 06 I watched how people have the 401k's as retirement plans instead of pensions and how assimilation or failure of companies cost their current retirees their their livelyhoods. One example was how Rubbermaid locked all their stockholders out from trading due to being put into BK by a bad deal with Walmart. Next company came in and gutted the business and the stocks crashing the returns to retirees. I remember one woman having her monthly payments from something like $2k to $200 and having to pickup aluminum cans enough to buy soup for the day.
https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077 (https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077)
This was a great video I used to share to people about the situation. https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/ (https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/)
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Exactly Robert. Back when I was a financial advisor in about 06 I watched how people have the 401k's as retirement plans instead of pensions and how assimilation or failure of companies cost their current retirees their their livelyhoods. One example was how Rubbermaid locked all their stockholders out from trading due to being put into BK by a bad deal with Walmart. Next company came in and gutted the business and the stocks crashing the returns to retirees. I remember one woman having her monthly payments from something like $2k to $200 and having to pickup aluminum cans enough to buy soup for the day.
https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077 (https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077)
This was a great video I used to share to people about the situation. https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/ (https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/)
Walmart has bought and crushed companies, but I hadn't heard they got their octopus tentacles out and forced a US company as huge, old and revered as "Rubber Maid" out of financial solvency (Into red ink/bankruptcy ).
And I DO wish EVERYTHING was:
"Made like RubberMaid"
Except of course, for my wife, who IS built exponentially better. And sorry boys, her sisters are great, but they broke the mold when they made her!
Having a 401K, including any investment strategy tied into one vehicle, is risky.
The move from clear, iron clad traditional pensions to more variable 401s, 403s, IRAs, and/or to retirements based on company worked at's stock values, is gonna leave a lot of people twisting in the wind in the end..
Hell, the seeming last visage of iron clad pensions, civil service, cops, fireman, teachers, even US Postal all 'govt' pensions, holds no "100% guaranteed" for present workers or those already retired. Or expecting their future pension checks to keep on coming, as promised, some with annual COLAs Annual or like me, the bi annual, Cost Of Living Increases.
My Dad is well off, (the Detoit Lion's star quarterback, Matt Stafford and his GF= nice folks, just moved out of the penthouse unit just above his) but when GM went bankrupt and briefly became 'govt. motors', they ripped his pension to pieces, right as he was getting ready to retire, with over 30 years. He and the rest of the family, will be 'OK".
So what if my late Mom had Parkinson's disease? They cut his healthcare up too. (Fortunately, he took precautions for that previously)
I took precautions into what's been promised to me so far, and other income resources before jumping into and recently partly out of, 'retirement'.
Hopefully so called 'Social Security' will still offer us additional 'play money' someday.
What we'd REALLY like is for stable priced, livable, AFFORDABLE health insurance, outside of any work, to cover my wife.
Right now, having to work in order to keep her own health, vision and dental is what keeps her (and a lot of US citizens getting up and early and going to work each day ) still working.
Otherwise, one major medical,emergency could cost us the house, savings.., etc.
But for my Dad, they loved him so much that they had previously specially waived the maximum age requirement just for him, so he worked past full, max. 'mandatory' retirement age. He liked his work and was highly regarded.
Then the govt run company (and for most of his years there, it was THE biggest company in the world) F_cked my parents over.
My Sister is a high ranked employee, an 'Officer' with an organization that runs eight large hospitals around the suburban Detroit area. Big outfit. She's past age 60, has over 30 years in, as it's changed over the years.
She's vetted, hired most of the Drs, overseeing their credentials, their ongoing required education, coordinated staff development.
If she quit tomorrow, she'd have no health insurance from the very hospitals she helps run.
Private, public, govt, employment, even independants, we're all in less stable places than ever before.
Your daily govt. mail may be delivered by ten dollar an hour paid , with NO benefits, 'postal workers', driving officially US Postal vehicles. No pension, little job security . Contract workers.
Is Canada different in that way????
Even state and federal pensions, pensioners, are susceptible to changes in what they get or will get, to live off of and benefits recvd.
God forbid the USA ever stops existing as the world's one and only 'Reserve Currency' accepted by choice by legitimate and illigitimate, cartels, weapons dealers, businesses, govts and outright criminal enterprises.
Then, with trillions in debt being called for repayment worldwide, our money really won't be any good. In such a point, basically only land and ammunition will be worth, if not represent THE currency. Or barter.
Meanwhile, cash (preferably interest bearing) is always still king, but other income, investment and whoever manages them, needs to be diversified.
No eggs all in one basket, especially nowadays.
401, 403s, call them IRA,s whatever, are usually and wisely, a mix of stocks, bonds and other stuff. 'Picking' stocks is harder than ever before, the way the world has changed, with billions in trades executed ea day if not per minute.
The old ( W.C. Fields?) saying was:
"Never give a sucker an even break".
Sorry guys, but, nowadays, WE'RE the suckers.
Bad sh!t happens and new bad sh!t, the likes of what we've never seen before, will also come. (Hopefully along with some good stuff...)
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Exactly Robert. Back when I was a financial advisor in about 06 I watched how people have the 401k's as retirement plans instead of pensions and how assimilation or failure of companies cost their current retirees their their livelyhoods. One example was how Rubbermaid locked all their stockholders out from trading due to being put into BK by a bad deal with Walmart. Next company came in and gutted the business and the stocks crashing the returns to retirees. I remember one woman having her monthly payments from something like $2k to $200 and having to pickup aluminum cans enough to buy soup for the day.
https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077 (https://www.forbes.com/global/2004/1018/026.html#63f5fba51077)
This was a great video I used to share to people about the situation. https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/ (https://www.pbs.org/video/frontline-can-you-afford-retire/)
From way back in 2003, but relevant as ever:
""""History has shown that suppliers suffer if they run afoul of Wal-Mart. Rubbermaid raised the prices it charged Wal-Mart in the mid-1990s because of an 80% jump in the cost of a key ingredient in its plastic containers. The retailer responded by giving more shelf space to lower-priced competitors, helping drive Rubbermaid into a 1999 merger with rival Newell, says John Mariotti, a former Rubbermaid executive. "Rubbermaid earned Wal-Mart's wrath by not giving it the best deal," he says."'''
https://usatoday30.usatoday.com/money/industries/retail/2003-01-28-walmartnation_x.htm
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My specific location also has a 119 to 100 ration of Women to Men, which obviously means it's slim pickings for the men and they sometimes need to settle for large and in-charge ::)
These are the demographics that matter most.
Colombia Demographics Profile 2018
15-24 years: make up 17.25% of the Colombian population (male 4,191,033/female 4,038,314)
While in the USA 15-24 years: only make up only 13.27% of the population (male 22,213,952/female 21,137,826)
Higher fertility rates and lower abortion rates in Colombia lead to more young hot pussy per capita.
In 2016, female obesity prevalence for Colombia was 26.6 %.
Among U.S. women, the obesity rate climbed without interruption -- reaching 41.5 percent by 2016. At that point, 69 percent of U.S. women were either overweight or obese.
Nobody that has been to Colombia needs to see stats on why there is just more hot women around than in the U.S. because it's all you have to do is open your eyes.
But what good is being surrounded by hot women if you can't have them.
This is why almost any guy can come to Colombia and get a chick that is at least 2 to 3 points better looking than he is handsome.
1) No welfare, food stamps or subsidized housing on a large scale.
2) No state enforced child support.
3) No legal easy access to abortions.
4) legalized prostitution....guys just don't have to put up with women that don't put out.
5) Colombian men normally won't live with or marry a woman with another man's children. Sure they'll have sex with them if they are hot. But they aren't lining up to marry them like guys in the U.S.
6) No equal pay for equal work....most colombian women can not envision a life without a man in it. Unless they dream about being impoverished jajaja
7) Colombian women really believe they love men....but what they don't realize is that their underlining motivations come from the fact that they really need a man.
So what guys need to realize when they bring a colombiana to the U.S. is that they will no longer have any of these advantages.
And what the really disgusting part about all this is....there are millions of beta bitch American guys that will think that taking your hot wife off of your hands and living with your children would be a great way for them to spend the rest of their lives. LMFAO!
So my advice is to leave the U.S. for good and live a great life in Colombia. Sure you might be killed by some act of random criminal violence ....But at least you'll die a man and knowing what a man's life was supposed to be like. jajaja
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These are the demographics that matter most.
Colombia Demographics Profile 2018
15-24 years: make up 17.25% of the Colombian population (male 4,191,033/female 4,038,314)
While in the USA 15-24 years: only make up only 13.27% of the population (male 22,213,952/female 21,137,826)
Higher fertility rates and lower abortion rates in Colombia lead to more young hot pussy per capita.
In 2016, female obesity prevalence for Colombia was 26.6 %.
Among U.S. women, the obesity rate climbed without interruption -- reaching 41.5 percent by 2016. At that point, 69 percent of U.S. women were either overweight or obese.
Nobody that has been to Colombia needs to see stats on why there is just more hot women around than in the U.S. because it's all you have to do is open your eyes.
But what good is being surrounded by hot women if you can't have them.
This is why almost any guy can come to Colombia and get a chick that is at least 2 to 3 points better looking than he is handsome.
1) No welfare, food stamps or subsidized housing on a large scale.
2) No state enforced child support.
3) No legal easy access to abortions.
4) legalized prostitution....guys just don't have to put up with women that don't put out.
5) Colombian men normally won't live with or marry a woman with another man's children. Sure they'll have sex with them if they are hot. But they aren't lining up to marry them like guys in the U.S.
6) No equal pay for equal work....most colombian women can not envision a life without a man in it. Unless they dream about being impoverished jajaja
7) Colombian women really believe they love men....but what they don't realize is that their underlining motivations come from the fact that they really need a man.
So what guys need to realize when they bring a colombiana to the U.S. is that they will no longer have any of these advantages.
And what the really disgusting part about all this is....there are millions of beta bitch American guys that will think that taking your hot wife off of your hands and living with your children would be a great way for them to spend the rest of their lives. LMFAO!
So my advice is to leave the U.S. for good and live a great life in Colombia. Sure you might be killed by some act of random criminal violence ....But at least you'll die a man and knowing what a man's life was supposed to be like. jajaja
All points ackowledged, still leaves me thinking that if there's just to start, five percent more of the population being female there than in the USA and that includes a larger % of babes that are 'prime time and hot', Colombia babes, DOES sound like a beautiful country!
Like where my wife's from and just as sure as in Colombia, there's just too much temptation. I couldn't keep my pants on with all the quick, free and easy tail.
"A man's GOT to know his limits" (C.E.)
For the USA, probably for anywhere--for a long time relationship, I don't think I could do much better than my wife. She's still "Too young, too pretty, too well educated" for my bones. But my luck's still holding.
Hate (well secretly, I'd LOVE too, LOL) to 'bird dog' out in the field, dating, shagging hot women) but alas, I have have and hold a ONE trophy wife,a most amiable and satisfying life partner, who is in the bed waiting at home, ea night, who is also, worth more than a dozen out in the bush".
But like great art, I do appreciate beauty. I love to flirt with exotically beautiful women, a fair number who still seem to leave the door open for ummm, 'greater access', but the rule is '"You can look (and talk) but you better not touch". To do otherwise, I'd risk walking away from the crown jewel I've had for over 13 years now. Can't say "I've had it (them) all", and I don't feel stifled, or pussy whipped, but I'm not gonna throw away a gem for some bauble babes at this point in life.
Yea, I could gamble, throw the dice, play the field, the game and all, but when I've already got the 'queen of hearts' safe in pocket, why risk losing that by trying to pick another winner from a freshly shuffled deck of cards? Risk drawing the 2 of spades? Perhaps gaining short term pleasure, but the odds of losing some one/thing better are a lot higher.
Sigh, still so many beautiful women, not enough time.
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These are the demographics that matter most.
Colombia Demographics Profile 2018
15-24 years: make up 17.25% of the Colombian population (male 4,191,033/female 4,038,314)
While in the USA 15-24 years: only make up only 13.27% of the population (male 22,213,952/female 21,137,826)
Higher fertility rates and lower abortion rates in Colombia lead to more young hot pussy per capita.
In 2016, female obesity prevalence for Colombia was 26.6 %.
Among U.S. women, the obesity rate climbed without interruption -- reaching 41.5 percent by 2016. At that point, 69 percent of U.S. women were either overweight or obese.
Nobody that has been to Colombia needs to see stats on why there is just more hot women around than in the U.S. because it's all you have to do is open your eyes.
But what good is being surrounded by hot women if you can't have them.
This is why almost any guy can come to Colombia and get a chick that is at least 2 to 3 points better looking than he is handsome.
1) No welfare, food stamps or subsidized housing on a large scale.
2) No state enforced child support.
3) No legal easy access to abortions.
4) legalized prostitution....guys just don't have to put up with women that don't put out.
5) Colombian men normally won't live with or marry a woman with another man's children. Sure they'll have sex with them if they are hot. But they aren't lining up to marry them like guys in the U.S.
6) No equal pay for equal work....most colombian women can not envision a life without a man in it. Unless they dream about being impoverished jajaja
7) Colombian women really believe they love men....but what they don't realize is that their underlining motivations come from the fact that they really need a man.
So what guys need to realize when they bring a colombiana to the U.S. is that they will no longer have any of these advantages.
And what the really disgusting part about all this is....there are millions of beta bitch American guys that will think that taking your hot wife off of your hands and living with your children would be a great way for them to spend the rest of their lives. LMFAO!
So my advice is to leave the U.S. for good and live a great life in Colombia. Sure you might be killed by some act of random criminal violence ....But at least you'll die a man and knowing what a man's life was supposed to be like. jajaja
Some members on here just dont get it Cali ..no matter how many times you repeat it..
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These are the demographics that matter most.
Colombia Demographics Profile 2018
15-24 years: make up 17.25% of the Colombian population (male 4,191,033/female 4,038,314)
While in the USA 15-24 years: only make up only 13.27% of the population (male 22,213,952/female 21,137,826)
Higher fertility rates and lower abortion rates in Colombia lead to more young hot pussy per capita.
In 2016, female obesity prevalence for Colombia was 26.6 %.
Among U.S. women, the obesity rate climbed without interruption -- reaching 41.5 percent by 2016. At that point, 69 percent of U.S. women were either overweight or obese.
Nobody that has been to Colombia needs to see stats on why there is just more hot women around than in the U.S. because it's all you have to do is open your eyes.
But what good is being surrounded by hot women if you can't have them.
This is why almost any guy can come to Colombia and get a chick that is at least 2 to 3 points better looking than he is handsome.
1) No welfare, food stamps or subsidized housing on a large scale.
2) No state enforced child support.
3) No legal easy access to abortions.
4) legalized prostitution....guys just don't have to put up with women that don't put out.
5) Colombian men normally won't live with or marry a woman with another man's children. Sure they'll have sex with them if they are hot. But they aren't lining up to marry them like guys in the U.S.
6) No equal pay for equal work....most colombian women can not envision a life without a man in it. Unless they dream about being impoverished jajaja
7) Colombian women really believe they love men....but what they don't realize is that their underlining motivations come from the fact that they really need a man.
So what guys need to realize when they bring a colombiana to the U.S. is that they will no longer have any of these advantages.
And what the really disgusting part about all this is....there are millions of beta bitch American guys that will think that taking your hot wife off of your hands and living with your children would be a great way for them to spend the rest of their lives. LMFAO!
So my advice is to leave the U.S. for good and live a great life in Colombia. Sure you might be killed by some act of random criminal violence ....But at least you'll die a man and knowing what a man's life was supposed to be like. jajaja
Spot on!
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These obesity differences exist even within the various states of the US. I noticed the difference myself when we lived in Utah and Montana, how there were many more attractive woman than in places like Arkansas and West Virginia. A woman who might be attractive is a fatty in West Virginia but slim in Utah.
In Canada, obesity rates are lower overall than the US but the provinces of British Colombia and Quebec are very low. The French Canadian women like to stay slim and the number of Asians in BC probably plays a role.
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These obesity differences exist even within the various states of the US. I noticed the difference myself when we lived in Utah and Montana, how there were many more attractive woman than in places like Arkansas and West Virginia. A woman who might be attractive is a fatty in West Virginia but slim in Utah.
In Canada, obesity rates are lower overall than the US but the provinces of British Colombia and Quebec are very low. The French Canadian women like to stay slim and the number of Asians in BC probably plays a role.
Dunno how they measure it, or women's attractiviness relative to other states, but they say the most fit and healthy minded state is Colorado. Seen my share of female gold there, but the friendliest people, and a LOT of pretty girls, come from Idaho.
Oklahoma and Montana natives are tied for close second in my 'friendliest state' guide book.
While they're pretty in Colorado, they're are also a lot of yuppies, uppity gold diggers too.
Kinda same in Hawaii, if you can get a hottie there who hasn't been raised on a Samoan diet of spam and pineapple, meaning looks GOOD and who isn't overly materialistic, there are some real hot eye candy babes on the big and surrounding islands. Mmmm good....
So many women, so little time. Trying to decide between Paris and Rome or just hanging for a couple weeks in Barcelona.
My hunch is I'll see more pretties in Barcelona, Spain. Certainly more than I'm likely to see in Vatican City, Italy....
For some odd reason, my wife wants to see the Sistene Chapel 1st.
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Oklahomans are very friendly but dumber than dirt. When I worked for an oil company there, in our area of 80 people, there were only two Oklahomans. Everyone else was from out of state with many from Kansas.
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Hey, as an okie I take objection to that dumber than dirt comment...
No, wait! I confess that I have to agree with that assessment for the most part. I, myself, have never claimed to be the sharpest knife in the drawer.
By the way, I'm glad this site is back.
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7) Colombian women really believe they love men....but what they don't realize is that their underlining motivations come from the fact that they really need a man.
no, just their money. now days, many women prefer another woman, than a man. ;D
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I'll 'kill two birds with one stone' on this post. As for Okies, some of the long timers here might remember when we had a couple of regular moderators here, Jeff and Bob_S.
Back then, moderation was enforced, we got into a talking about guns one time, that was quashed, and while bombastic arguments were uncommon, when one occurred, we were told to either quit, or like when the billionaire Patriots Team owner accused of soliciting prostitutes in a cheesey strip mall massage parlor should've been told, to 'find a room'.
And as for arguments, they went to the PL 'Flame Room.'
Not to be short or to the point, but anyways, Bob_S was an Okie, and granted like a million other Oklahomansfrom the dust bowl era generations before him, he moved to California and found brain intensive work with Boeing Aerospace.
Back then, PL was probably about 80% Asian forum, 20% Latin and both Jeff and Bob had AsIan wives. Bob chanced to visit us here on the east coast and he was sharp. Tight with a dime, but nice. Brought his family too. Seems Oklahoma has a fair amount of thriving jet, airplane, aerospace business and having met several from there, as we all know, they're not all dumb as pick axes.
But I imagine quite a a few lead quieter, simpler lives, like my family in Montana does. And seeing how they live out in wide open places like they do, minding their own beeswax, folks from other places might just incorrectly figure they're 'simple' period.
I reckon 'IsThisForMe' would give me a challenge at cards or checkers.
And my kin folk in Montana would be fine with that 'simple' label, especially if it keeps too many sharp, city slicker types from moving in. They're already none too happy with all the TV news anchors, cable TV, computer magnates and Hollywood types, buying huge prime ranches, some the size of Rhode Island. These are 'big shots' who can't shoot, who can't tell the difference between a cow, a buffalo or even their own damn [snip], yet they want to tell people there 'how it ought to be'---not nice.
As to whether a woman's less likely to stick with you if she 'merely ' wants you, rather than needs you, there's a gray line there, I think. 'Need and "Want' often go hand in hand.
That said, when things got ice cold in my first marriage and my then wife started making more money than me--enough to keep her in the lifestyle she craved without me, our marriage was as good as gone. Maybe a fly got in her ear and all she heard the priest at the wedding say was "For Better.."
And it didn't feel better with two young sons, not with me having a primary custody and a very full time job, at least not at first.
But it sure as hell got better once I realized she was really gone and I made finding another infinitely better woman a priority. In fact my wife had to tell me the other day that she and I had been married and together, longer than I was the 1st time. And comparatively speaking, I feel like I'm still almost still on our honeymoon!
I took wayyy too long,--four years after meeting her to marry her. Don't rush it guys, but the way I dragged my feet, there's nobody dumber in Oklahoma than I was!
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no, just their money. now days, many women prefer another woman, than a man. ;D
It's best not to judge the world through your own anecdotal experiences. jajaja
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Hey, as an okie I take objection to that dumber than dirt comment...
No, wait! I confess that I have to agree with that assessment for the most part. I, myself, have never claimed to be the sharpest knife in the drawer.
By the way, I'm glad this site is back.
One of my children was born in Oklahoma so I have an Okie myself. I will say this about them though, they may be the happiest people on earth. I really enjoyed my time living there.
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It's best not to judge the world through your own anecdotal experiences. jajaja
A study tracking married couples over a 10 year span found lesbian marriages were most likely to end in divorce. Of the 580 lesbian couples who were married in 2005,30% were divorced ten years later compared to 18% for heterosexual couples and15% for gay male couples.
Given in any 30 day period each of them combined is in a crappy hormone imbalanced stressed mood toward on average 10 days of those thirty...I could see that.
I've lived and visited Germany, Netherlands, France, England, Philippines, Japan, South Dakota, Wyoming, North Dakota, Minnesota, Iowa, Wisconsin, Illinois, Tennesses, Kentucky, Lousiana, Mississipi, Missouri, Texas, Oklahoma, Colorado, Nebraska, Kansas, Montana, Idaho... All I can say is there is an absolute moron in every one of those places that will convince you that the people in that area are the dumbest on the planet. If you haven't met them you aren't looking hard enough or have not been there long enough. Stupidity I believe is a common ratio accross the board. Ignorance is a whole different category.
When I sold cars in Wyoming during the coal and gas boom and people from every state flooded in, I recall one special character. I was making short conversation with while we were waiting on a credit decision to be made by my office. I never judged a book by the cover but he looked like the smart one between him and his wife. Chatting about various things and each one running right into the roadblock of stupidity I finally fall back on the the weather as that discussion never winds up down the trail of moron pass. Taliking about how cold it was that week. The guy tells me for winter he rolls a 55 gal drum of used oil he picks up for an auto repair business, stuffs a heavy rope he gets from a mining equipment supplier and tucks it in with a rag. I then rolls it under the crawl space of his house; ights it on fire, where it burns like a candle wick, keeping his home warm in the winter (never mind the toxic fumes). That's it, moron juice is getting deep and I don't want to get anymore on me. I try not to look shocked with a good poker face. "Excuse me, I'll go check on progress." As I walk into the bosses office wich is mostly heavy glass that each party can see each other and I repeat what he just told me. I got my back to the guy and boss is looking at me and he's trying to keep his best poker face as I get to the reveal you can see him go slightly bug eyed as he tries to maintain appearance. Deal fell through as the financial manager came in and said to us, "You gotta get rid of this guy but nicely and quick." I asked no questions politely wrapped up and escorted them to the door. I went back and the two managers are looking at me wide eyed. "That was "Chester the molester" was his nickname." While waiting for financials they did an internet search on the guy and found he had a long criminal record from child molestation, spouse abuse and yup...suspected for blowing up a guys house with explosives. "Well [snip], can he buy a car or not? I asked." the Finance officer told me he couldn't buy a ticket to a free lunch. "What's his score?" I asked. "360" I was told. "What what about his wife?" was my next response. "She's worse." he said. "Awe crap.". Ignorant? certainly not. Stupid? Crimminally.
Everyplace I've gone, I have met someone that surpasses Chester the Molester as the biggest moron on earth. Like I said, look harder.
As far as appearance. I grew up in South Dakota surrounded by Nordic heritage women. You could stand three of the top best looking blondes on the planet in front of me and 1 hot brunette with spanish, italian, middle eastern, black or asian heritage and I't pick the later. I think just being born and raised where virtually everyone is blone tone cacasian nordic appearance gets tossed aside when you get in areas of people your not used to seeing. It's like maybe seeing an exotic sportscar for the first time. Friends and I used to drool over those 6'4 smoking hot blondes in heels and a short dress. We also think then, how many smoking hot 6'4 women do you see over 30? That figure was extremely low as we think of all the tall women we know in the community above that age and cringe. I'd bring buddies home on leave from the army all the time. I remember bringing home a Puerto Rican from the Brooklyn that met up with a buddies sister of mine. She was 6'9 and friggin hot, he was maybe 5'10 with shoes on and he was totally in love. You could see the awe in his eyes when he met her and the morning after he was like a 14yr old who's parents just bought him a Ferarri. He wouldn't shut up about her for at least two weeks after we got back to Germany but I was the same when I hooked up with a little foxy latina at his place in the Brooklyn. She had the same look in her eyes as my buddy did when we met each other as I stand 6'5 blonde hair blue eyes with my midwest accent (or lack theroff).
Mannerisms of a woman go far too I think. You find one of those true "Southern Bells" or in Roberts neighborhood "Georgia Peach." Make her an auburn red head to come over and pet me and I'll wag my tail clean off. Beaty also, you gotta be in the right place, venue to see. Want to see a lot of ugly women, go to an arts festival in any town or city nowadays. I've never seen so many muffin top man hating feminists and bull dykes gather in one spot in the last 10 years as I've seen at art festivals.
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Given in any 30 day period each of them combined is in a crappy hormone imbalanced stressed mood toward on average 10 days of those thirty...I could see that.
I've lived and visited Germany, Netherlands, France, England, Philippines, Japan, South Dakota, Wyoming, North Dakota, Minnesota, Iowa, Wisconsin, Illinois, Tennesses, Kentucky, Lousiana, Mississipi, Missouri, Texas, Oklahoma, Colorado, Nebraska, Kansas, Montana, Idaho... All I can say is there is an absolute moron in every one of those places that will convince you that the people in that area are the dumbest on the planet. If you haven't met them you aren't looking hard enough or have not been there long enough. Stupidity I believe is a common ratio accross the board. Ignorance is a whole different category.
When I sold cars in Wyoming during the coal and gas boom and people from every state flooded in, I recall one special character. I was making short conversation with while we were waiting on a credit decision to be made by my office. I never judged a book by the cover but he looked like the smart one between him and his wife. Chatting about various things and each one running right into the roadblock of stupidity I finally fall back on the the weather as that discussion never winds up down the trail of moron pass. Taliking about how cold it was that week. The guy tells me for winter he rolls a 55 gal drum of used oil he picks up for an auto repair business, stuffs a heavy rope he gets from a mining equipment supplier and tucks it in with a rag. I then rolls it under the crawl space of his house; ights it on fire, where it burns like a candle wick, keeping his home warm in the winter (never mind the toxic fumes). That's it, moron juice is getting deep and I don't want to get anymore on me. I try not to look shocked with a good poker face. "Excuse me, I'll go check on progress." As I walk into the bosses office wich is mostly heavy glass that each party can see each other and I repeat what he just told me. I got my back to the guy and boss is looking at me and he's trying to keep his best poker face as I get to the reveal you can see him go slightly bug eyed as he tries to maintain appearance. Deal fell through as the financial manager came in and said to us, "You gotta get rid of this guy but nicely and quick." I asked no questions politely wrapped up and escorted them to the door. I went back and the two managers are looking at me wide eyed. "That was "Chester the molester" was his nickname." While waiting for financials they did an internet search on the guy and found he had a long criminal record from child molestation, spouse abuse and yup...suspected for blowing up a guys house with explosives. "Well [snip], can he buy a car or not? I asked." the Finance officer told me he couldn't buy a ticket to a free lunch. "What's his score?" I asked. "360" I was told. "What what about his wife?" was my next response. "She's worse." he said. "Awe crap.". Ignorant? certainly not. Stupid? Crimminally.
Everyplace I've gone, I have met someone that surpasses Chester the Molester as the biggest moron on earth. Like I said, look harder.
As far as appearance. I grew up in South Dakota surrounded by Nordic heritage women. You could stand three of the top best looking blondes on the planet in front of me and 1 hot brunette with spanish, italian, middle eastern, black or asian heritage and I't pick the later. I think just being born and raised where virtually everyone is blone tone cacasian nordic appearance gets tossed aside when you get in areas of people your not used to seeing. It's like maybe seeing an exotic sportscar for the first time. Friends and I used to drool over those 6'4 smoking hot blondes in heels and a short dress. We also think then, how many smoking hot 6'4 women do you see over 30? That figure was extremely low as we think of all the tall women we know in the community above that age and cringe. I'd bring buddies home on leave from the army all the time. I remember bringing home a Puerto Rican from the Brooklyn that met up with a buddies sister of mine. She was 6'9 and friggin hot, he was maybe 5'10 with shoes on and he was totally in love. You could see the awe in his eyes when he met her and the morning after he was like a 14yr old who's parents just bought him a Ferarri. He wouldn't shut up about her for at least two weeks after we got back to Germany but I was the same when I hooked up with a little foxy latina at his place in the Brooklyn. She had the same look in her eyes as my buddy did when we met each other as I stand 6'5 blonde hair blue eyes with my midwest accent (or lack theroff).
Mannerisms of a woman go far too I think. You find one of those true "Southern Bells" or in Roberts neighborhood "Georgia Peach." Make her an auburn red head to come over and pet me and I'll wag my tail clean off. Beaty also, you gotta be in the right place, venue to see. Want to see a lot of ugly women, go to an arts festival in any town or city nowadays. I've never seen so many muffin top man hating feminists and bull dykes gather in one spot in the last 10 years as I've seen at art festivals.
Epic post Fos!
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It's almost as if the bread we eat has got some kinda unhealthy mold and the drinking water's full of lead, to try and rationalize how dumb, ignorant, just how 'mowronic' people are nowadays.
Soft, weak, yet often feeling they're 'entitled' to be treated as being a bit better than their peers.
Recently, I wrote how I feel like we live in a climate where, and it's a lot worse in certain areas than others, but it's still widespread and worse than ever, but it's a hatred of immigrants, really anybody they see as 'different'--those that don't fit a person's mindset of 'OK.'
I think the political and media climate has galvanized a large part of the population into a nation that has a large 'us VS them' mentality.
Yes, I've said for a husband and wife, particularly when the wife is from overseas, that 'us VS them' mentality is good, actually healthy and important.
But this scenario is different.
We need to try and work together, rather than picking each other apart and seeking divides.
I'm not saying to blithely accept stupidity, ignorance and bad behavior, but as one nation, we need to be tolerant where tolerance is wise, to stand up when right is right, change what we can and realize when something is impossibly futile and a waste of our time and energy. We may not have much time otherwise.
But when preconceived notions and mindsets are assumed, when they effect human interactions in public, it's outta whack.
Again there's a lot of morons, ignorance, meanness, criminal and near criminal mentality out on the streets, in the general public. All races, all walks of life here. The environment fosters it.
Just a lot of people out there who are pissed off with life in today's USA, for various reasons.
A lot of people hate others, hate their jobs,, relationships, their govt. A lot of people see things getting worse and feel helpless about it all.
But we all need to try and at least get along, even if inside our heads we're rolling our eyes. Or even if we're close to blowing a gasket, not lowering ourselves to their level.
But when civilility and what we used to think of as common courtesy and common sense/decency breaks down in the broader social public environment, and of course the political-media environment, were not much better as a population than vermin, plague infested rats, and we may face a similar future ahead.
And as a human species, men and women are approaching that point in the USA today, IMO.
I've written how my Grandparents came here with NOTHING, not "A pot to piss in, or a window to throw it out of".
With little hope of work, facing signs in store and factory windows, in bold letters, saying "Help Wanted--no Irish or Italians need apply".
My Mom's father, with 6 kids, contracted TB (tuberculosis) and Grandma would take apart old socks to save the yarn to make another garment. This was the era before welfare, and there was something basic, I think it was a stripped down govt program, offering very basic 'Public Assistance' that might've given some bread, a few potatoes. My Irish and Italian family REFUSED IT.
Instead, they not only accepted their lot, their "place in line" in this new country, they embraced it, starting out doing filthy, hard, street day labor jobs, but eventually getting better jobs, voting, which lead to civil service opportunities and Military service.
They learned the language, assimilated and got along (or tried to) with people from all walks of life
They bowed their heads in prayer, and while they knew this country wasn't always 'fair' or 'great', they placed their hands over their hearts and pledged allegiance. And for the most part, while it took a while, they were generally accepted.
THOSE were different times. That was when, going into the late 1930s, thru the 40s, and 50s, that America (the USA portion of North America) WAS GREAT.
In the 1960s, things began to change and pretty much have declined since then and recently seem to be getting worse. I know some of us think: But: "Oh, the economy is booming about now, we have tax breaks even"--I caution you that it's decieving, artificially presented, 'smoke and mirrors', that our nation, and its economy is NOT on sound, truthful, solid ground.
And is NOT sustainable in it's current form.
To a large extent, we have a welfare state, accompanied by a bizarre sense of not only 'entitlement' but with recipients feeling it's not enough, all in a climate, encouraged by such a cancerous mindset where those people don't want to work, and well, guys there you have it.
And I'm not calling out whites, blacks, Hispanics, not singling out any ethnic group, it's found pretty much from 'sea to shining sea' here on the USA.
Add that lazy, ignorant, feeling disenfranchised (and some genuinely ARE disenfranchised) portion of the population and then the current encouragement of a mindset of US versus THEM and it adds up to a nation un united, dysfunctional, where those that have power, control and material means not only try to, but are encouraged to further drive the 'death wedge' deeper between themselves and those, other 'different' people and it adds up to a soft, sick society, one where we're all too busy pointing fingers, rather than sucking it up, trying to get along and go to work.
Our nation, compared to a ship, is way off course. It's been going off course since the 1960s. I am NOT saying things were anywhere near 'perfect' in any decades before that--racism and inequality existed then too, in even more overt ways, in fact.
But if don't all try and unite and get along, unless we don't try and roll up our sleeves and get along, if we don't have a govt where we can ALL vote and elect honest govt leaders who embrace "For the people, By the people"--unless we do that, our nation will sink.
The rest of the world already sees our nation having run amuck and talks of embracing another form of currency other than the US dollar as the World's singular "Reserve Currency".
Scale down our 'national debt' of trillions of dollars and apply it to your household. You'd be bankrupt.
Effectively, by simplest definition, our nation is. The world at large holds the right to call due crushing amounts of US debt. It's just not in their best interests to do just that. Not yet, anyway...
When that happens, with our many trillions in international debt being called in for repayment, with a large % of the USA sucking up the tax base, not wanting to work, but to still collect money while staying home in dysfunctional environments, raising children just like them, when the average man, woman and child can't function and get along with each other or with the world at large, we're doomed.
It may seem unfathomable to most, but our 'money', namely US currency, could come to have little, even zero value, if these 'perfect storm' conditions continue.
Then add those that have their wealth safely hidden away, holding onto power galvanized together to widen the already great divide, encouraging it, along with hatred and prejudice, sending jobs and their assets converted, their bank accounts overseas, rather than working with the people to remedy it, and we're going to flush down the toilet.
And like it or not, making a positive differeance starts with me and you.
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As I read much of this conversation I have this image of how we are talking about women being hot or not. Pretty much sums it up.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgfDALzpfJU (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgfDALzpfJU)
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Jajajaja! ;D