Expanding my search a bad idea?

[Bear]

All of this is preaching to the choir.  I have spent so much time trying to deal with two different ladies/families who "turn off" the sex using this argument of religion.  They are so backwoods in their understanding and willingness to accept new ideas and concepts I just know talking to a brick wall would be more productive.  One of the guys is very active member of the Knights and you would think more informed of church policies but he seems to push the backwards beliefs harder than his wife although still quite upset she turned off sex because he says she is now forcing him to consider cheating on her!  I told him he's getting what he deserves.  He's the one who put that hardship on her by telling her that the principles he would run his family by.

Ray I completely understand your point of view and due to Honey's mother giving me one chance by telling her to "do what her husband says" allowed me to not have to deal with it.  But the world is full of stupids who practise their priestcrafts, blame their religion and injure themselves and the world while whining about its results.  No one reads James 1:5 (or the rest of the Bible) and those who do don't believe they'll be answered, like AA.  It is so much easier to let some now "empowered" priest make decisions for you but since so many don't go to church or practise their beliefs we get AA stuck on living what they could accept and rebelling against the rest and never simply "asking" what is correct for "me".  Now the Catholic Church sees the damage and harm they've caused the world with their "sex/family" instructions and can get the old fundamentalist to change.  Unwanted babies and increases poverty in countries like the Philippines because not only were the priest/church unwilling to admit the mistake and change but also in getting the fundamentalist to listen and adapt.

I think we'll see even more of this attitude with the socialism taking over here in the states.   For those who are so lazy as to let government control the world with foolish concepts like "global warming" (already the corn and mercury lightbulb snafus) I'd like to remind them about the Aral Sea (I think thats the correct name/spelling).  Millions lost their livelihoods and thousands of square miles of farmland destroyed as an inland sea bigger than the Great Salt Lake was drained.  The scar on the world is still visible and the economy of Russia irrevocably altered and instead of millions being fed, millions starved.  And this doesn't even come close to talking about the wars and millions killed by such idiocy.

True and correct religious principles like family sexual practises can easily be determined by prayer but its so simple literally millions refuse to do it.  And then complain because of it.

The Bear Family

[Ray]

Now the Catholic Church sees the damage and harm they've caused the world with their "sex/family" instructions and can get the old fundamentalist to change.  Unwanted babies and increases poverty in countries like the Philippines because not only were the priest/church unwilling to admit the mistake and change but also in getting the fundamentalist to listen and adapt.

Bear,

I'm not sure what you are saying here, but the Catholic Church has not changed it's policies on birth control, abortion, etc..., and it has not admitted that it's policies were a "mistake"(?)

FYI, the Church teaches that a healthy sex life is important in a marriage. No married couple is forbidden or discouraged from having sex that I know of(?)

Ray

[jm21-2]

I'm chiming in here a bit late, sorry about that. Haven't been around much lately. I'm pretty young and in no rush, so I've spent a lot of time the last two years or so thinking about some of the same issues you have.

Try meeting some people over Skype. People from China and HK use skype at work for communication, and a lot of Chinese girls are more than happy to talk and practice English while at work, which happens to be the evening in most places in America, so it's very convenient. Another place to look is teaching abroad sites like Dave's ESL Cafe, though take everything the guys say about women with a huge bucket of salt.

I love Korean food and movies, but Koreans don't seem to like outsiders as much in general. You could get lucky though. I've always heard Korean girls don't really show their true colors or true feelings as much because they are so concerned with keeping a certain image, but that's just hearsay.

I know a little Japanese, like Japanese culture in many ways, but don't think I'd do Japan for a wife (though I'd love to visit). I don't think I could take eating Japanese food every day (but I would think most Japanese girls who can cook can cook other cuisines), but more importantly it seems like a hard country to meet someone without going there to live/work. Japanese girls are also a lot more modern/American in their views of sex (especially pre-marital sex) which is a big turn-off to me (might not be for you).

I've settled on China because of the culture, the literature, the food, and the attitudes of the girls I've chatted with. On the average Chinese girls are quite conservative about family, non-religious, feminine, hard working, very open to foreign guys, and really optimistic/positive about life.

It is hard to avoid these clashes over religion. Yes, atheists tend to be vehement about their beliefs, especially those who believe there is no higher power (from what I understand, agnosticism is part of atheism...I had always thought they were separate until about a year ago or so when I looked it up). It offends some religious and PC people. But at the same time, religious people, as the vast majority and dominant belief, casually insult and snub atheists all the time without even knowing it.

[Dave H]

FYI, the Church teaches that a healthy sex life is important in a marriage. No married couple is forbidden or discouraged from having sex that I know of(?)

Ray

Hey Ray,

Amen to that!!!